iv been going out with this guy for about a month now and im not really interested in him hes really cute and all he seems perfect and i could see myself maby falling in love with him over time and hes crazy about me but i just dont feel anything..... i dont really want to be alone tho, meenwhile theres this guy i work with that iv been hitting on and i stayed over at his house last nit he doesnt like to be touched and seems to be the type of person who takes things really slow and im just crazy about him, but im unsure of how he sees me.... hhhhmmmm any advice?
2007-06-25 01:19:23 · 9 answers · asked by DJ 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
im in the relationship with the guys cause iv been single for 3 months and thats a long time for me, i met the guy at work before i met my bf but now im hanging out more with the guy at work hes independent and we have alot in common but he says he doesnt want a relationship cus there all the same and says he couldnt be with somone forever they would make him sick while hanging out with him last nite it took awhile for me to get him to sit by me said i just wanted him to so i could cuddle with him when he sat there i put my arm around him he was ok with it till i started rubing his arm, when it was time to sleep he wouldnt let me sleep in the bed with him said he likes to sleep alone........ my bf is bipolar and a skitzy lol for real tho he told me i had sex with him on the first date we have very little in common and he flirts with alot of guys but says he loves me and says that i wouldnt be able to break up with him......
just more info on the situation, im not an evil person
2007-06-25 02:05:56 · update #1
I advise you not to get into a relationship with someone you are not really interested in. Now that you are already in it, you may end up having to be unkind to him in order to extricate yourself, but that's better than letting it go on with him believing there's something there which there is not.
Sounds like the relationship with the guy you work with is you getting the fuzzy end of the stick you handed the first one mentioned. Perhaps you are learning the lesson that it takes real honesty to make a good relationship work, and it takes enough respect for yourself and for the other not to try to force something that is not there. What's wrong with just being friends?
As to "don't really want to be alone," you may have stated the heart of the problem there. If you learn to appreciate private time, the chance to get to know yourself, you will have a better approach to all your relationships with others. Fact is, if you don't like to be alone with yourself, you can't really believe others like to be alone with you. You can't really feel that you are an interesting and attractive person, and that's the first thing you need to work on. Otherwise, you project that lack of self-respect and trash every opportunity for a really close love affair.
Sex is not everything, not by a long shot. As My Steve used to say, that's OK for an hour or two, but what do you do the rest of the time?
2007-06-25 01:30:03 · answer #1 · answered by auntb93 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
ok, a bird in the hand is worth more than 2 in the bush. ok, if it's only birds we're talking about that's true, but we're not. with guys sometimes the opposite can be true! sometimes.
seems you're trying to 'force' the issue with this guy at work, don't! let it take its own sweet time and if it is meant to be it will be. if not, then forget about it and try to find a way to get past him.
2007-06-25 01:35:31 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes wanting is "better" in some ways than having. Wanting allows the imagination to "run wild" while having forces one to deal with the reality of the situation.
Personally I do believe that before you begin to chase and play the "game" you should look at what you have to lose and take honest stock of what you have before you give it up.
2007-06-25 01:26:00 · answer #3 · answered by IndyT- For Da Ben Dan 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well you're already cheating on your guy, so you might as well just end it.
You're not physically cheating, but emotionally so. So no sense stringing him along.
Also I think maybe you'd do better to be single for a while, longer than 3 months, to learn to be happy by yourself, before trying to be happy with someone else.
2007-06-25 04:57:22 · answer #4 · answered by Luis 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, you should never be in a relationship with someone you are not really interested in...it'll only mean more heartache in the end. Do yourself and your current boyfriend a favor, and end the relationship.
Then you'll be free to pursue whoever you want.
2007-06-25 05:48:45 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'd personally give it some time. If you like him and you can see yourself falling in love with him, give yourself some time to let yourself fall in love, and keep an open heart and mind. If you still feel nothing for him, then leave.
2007-06-25 01:24:29 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
first i don't know how's someone feels not interested or nothing in a really cute person (sounds superficial but still, i mean c'mon). anyway, i think you should give it some time cuz things like that if went throght with haste you will blow it all .... just be patient
2007-06-25 01:44:48 · answer #7 · answered by Wing 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i say, that the second person you are dating is not really the ideal person for you comparing to your current boyfriend.
he told you that he is not into relationships, on the other hand, you said that you don't like to be alone.
come on, with the second guy, you will soon find yourself alone. that is very obviouse.
in my opinion, it is better to be with someone who loves you rather than being with someone who just loves himself.
2007-06-25 02:16:23 · answer #8 · answered by Persian Male 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no your not evil but your scared to be alone and with same person 4ever as well my suggestion is make up your mind cause your playing with alot of emotions but most of all your playing with your own
good luck=)
2007-06-25 04:21:54 · answer #9 · answered by kay b 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋