i have a friend who is a gay male (just a friend nothing more) and i have to go away for a few days and am thinking of asking him to look after my house for me but am worried that he might bring his boy friend back and spend the night there with him what should i do
2007-06-25 00:52:41 · 34 answers · asked by carolyn g 4 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
if he is as good a friend as you say and i presume by your question you don't have a problem with him being gay why not just explain to him that you don't mind him bringing his b/f back to your house with him but please stay out of the bed room after all if he is as good a friend as you say he will understand
2007-06-25 07:08:18 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think it's his sexuality your worried about otherwise you would not have a gay friend who you would trust that much to ask anyway. I would just tell him politely that you don't want anyone besides him in the house while you are gone. If you are so close he will understand perfectly, it should not be a problem. I mean I could ask if it were a girlfriend and she bought a fella back would you feel the same, I'm sure you would. Trust him that's all I can say, or get someone else completely, maybe a ninety-five year old, then you could be pretty sure nothing will happen.
2007-06-25 09:13:20 · answer #2 · answered by Dr Paul D 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you worried that he'll bring his b/f back & have sex all over the house....is that it - or are you worried that a b/f of his may steal something of yours or mess the house up? you don't explain what it is you're worried about but I suspect it's the idea of them having sex at yours, because you can't deal with the fact that 2 guys can & do have a sexual relationship....
Then, don't ask him to house sit. You cannot expect him to stay in the house alone if his b/f wishes to come along & keep him company on that basis alone, doe's your friend know your aversion to his sexual practices?
Maybe you need to re-evaluate your friendship toward him.
2007-06-25 09:14:19 · answer #3 · answered by Funky 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You used the term "friend", a friend is someone you can talk to and will understand-that is a 2 way street by the way.
Simply ask your "friend" if he would like to house sit for you for a couple of days., and explain that you trust your friend and that you want only him in the house. If he is a true friend he will understand.
If he doesn't and gets all feathery then he wasn't such a good friend after all.
In that case-Call the police dept. & explain you will be gone for a few days and ask if they would mind driving by a few times while you are gone. Then you just lock the doors and leave. Simple!
2007-06-25 01:02:58 · answer #4 · answered by dragon 5 · 3⤊ 1⤋
I would turn the question back to you and ask if you would ask the same question if your "FRIEND" was a gay female or hetrosexual male/female and was bringing their respective partner back for the night.Then I would ask why you asked the question in the first place other that to try to show you are PC and have GAY friends when in fact you tollerate people who are gay when it suits
2007-06-25 07:48:56 · answer #5 · answered by AFDEE 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave the key with a neighbour or someone in your family. Or better still don't leave it with anyone if your going to spend your time worrying about what might be going on at your house.
2007-06-25 03:16:09 · answer #6 · answered by Roxy. 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Never do anything that you're not comfortable with.
And ask yourself what's at the basis of your fears, are you jealous of him, fancy him, don't like his boyfriend, don't trust him generally, somewhat anti-gay-even though you have a gay friend etc.
Consider your other options? Communication goes a long way to sorting out issues too.
Good luck! Rob
2007-06-25 01:03:51 · answer #7 · answered by Rob E 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Would you be worried if you had asked a girl friend to house sit? She may also bring a guy friend over. Would it be any different?
2007-06-25 00:57:03 · answer #8 · answered by drammy22 4 · 6⤊ 1⤋
If you trust him you could ask him not to bring anyone else to your house while you are away. If he asks why then you could say that you don't trust anyone else not to make a mess.
Alternatively you could just leave your house empty and ask a neighbour to park in your drive so it doesn't appear to be empty.
Or just ask someone else that you trust.
2007-06-25 01:02:56 · answer #9 · answered by Mike 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
seems you have a trust issue here. or maybe a 'sex' issue. or maybe a 'gay' issue. or maybe a combination of issues! in any case i'd say just don't do it.
but why would you care if he did? if your friend was a girl would you feel the same way? what if your friend was str8 and simply had a girl friend?
ask someone else.
2007-06-25 01:20:33 · answer #10 · answered by ? 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋