Okay well..
7 years ago, I moved to a new house & my next door neighbour & I became best friends (in fact, we were like brothers and sisters). We played with each other every single day. I would go to his house & he would come to mine. We would be heartbroken when we had to go home at night because we just enjoyed each other's company so much. We had so much in common & we had so much fun. I could relate to him in so many ways. (He's 11, I'm 14)
A few years ago, his mum decided to move houses. I was shocked & devastated. I cried & cried. No more best friend to listen to your problems, no more best friend to play with, no more best friend to cheer you up, no more best friend to just have. He kept me alive. I needed him and he wouldn't be there for me everyday anymore...
2007-06-25 00:09:32 · 30 answers · asked by Melanie 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
They moved about 6km away but I couldn't take it. It was too much for me. It was devastating. Suddenly I was just so lonely & his mum and I were very close too. She enjoyed my company and she would take us to the beach, to amusement parks, bowling etc. She also treated me like a daughter. She always bought me things, and we had fun times. But now, all that would be gone.
He was an only child which is why his mum treated me like a daughter, always buying me things, always taking me everywhere and he loved and saw me as his sister. She loved me like a daughter because I was the closest thing she had to one and I loved her like a mum because I was just so close to her and felt like I could really trust her and have fun with her. His mum then made a deal that * and I would see each other once during the week and possibly on the weekend if we weren’t busy. So he started coming over every week and on the weekends I went to his house. We were so close. Then news came..
2007-06-25 00:11:48 · update #1
his mother was pregnant. She had a girl.
Now the problem is, I’m not jealous but I just feel like he will love his sister more, enjoy her company more and replace me. I just feel like he won’t see me as a sister anymore because he now has one. And I feel like his mum won’t love me like a daughter anymore since she has a real daughter now. I feel like she won’t take * and I to the movies, to the beach, to amusement parks anymore because she is preoccupied with her daughter. I feel like I’m losing a connection. Problem is, this connection has helped me live so far and I just don’t want to lose this connection but I think I already have. She no longer loves me (well it feels like it). I mean why would she? She has a daughter now. Why would * love me? He has a sister now.
2007-06-25 00:12:03 · update #2
I’m just so depressed at the moment. Please help me!! I really need someone to cheer me up. I’m crying as I type this because it really hurts and I can’t live like this. Don’t bother being rude and calling me selfish too because I’ll just block you. And, anyway, it has been proven that everyone will feel like this at least once in their life. So, if something similar has happened to you or you have something nice to say, please help me feel better, stop crying and be happy again. I want the life and connection I had before the birth of the daughter, to stay. I love * like a brother and I love his mum like a mother. (I do have a mother by the way, but I just love *’s mum and we were extremely close) Please help! Thanks. (By the way, they don’t know I feel this way and it is best left unsaid. Otherwise, they’ll think I’m jealous, which I’m not.) Thanks.
2007-06-25 00:12:23 · update #3
Lol, thanks Peter :)
2007-06-25 02:24:17 · update #4
I've been been there and I was much younger than you when my closest friend and his entire family migrated to the USA. I was devastated and felt a void in my heart and in my life.
Just keep the connection. Write letters. SMS. Call.
And here's something for you:
Your presence is a gift to the world,
You're unique and one of a kind.
Your life can be what you want it to be -
Take it one day at a time.
Count your blessings, not your troubles,
And you'll make it through what comes along.
Within you are so many answers,
Understand, have courage, be strong.
Don't put limits on yourself,
Your dreams are waiting to be realized.
Don't leave your important decisions to chance -
Reach for your peak, your goal, and your prize.
Nothing wastes more energy than worrying -
The longer a problem is carried, the heavier it gets.
Don't take things too seriously -
Live a life of serenity, not a life of regrets.
Remember that a little love goes a long way -
Remember that a lot goes forever.
Remember that friendship is a wise investment,
Life's treasures are people... together.
Have health and hope and happiness,
Take the time to wish on a star.
And don't ever forget for even a day...
How very special YOU are!
2007-07-02 20:43:46 · answer #1 · answered by shirley g 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow...thats really sad...and no...you are definately not selfish..not at all!!....it must hurt...it may seem like his mom and himself dont love you anymore but im sure they do...they just have a lot more to deal wiht when the baby came and all...you have to try to understand how he feels..he finally has a sisiter to hug and love and live wiht forever and his mom has a new responsibility...but they are very thankful for you wether ou think so or not....your the closetes thing to their family and they have enjoyed you for all those years, but now.. they have a new member of the family and their dreams came true...their dream was to have an actual daughter just like you...i honestly dont know what to say..this must be so hard for you..but believe me..once things settle down more..they will love you even more than what they did before....having a little child is very busy you have to remember that.. good luck!
2007-07-02 13:13:57 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You aren't being selfish. Don't ever say that! You are just upset about maybe losing a friend! I have never been in this situation so I could be wrong but I think that they will still love you and you'll just have another 'family' member so to speak. Don't give up hope. He sounds like he's a really good friend so I don't think he'll stop liking you just because he has a little sister.
2007-07-01 10:03:38 · answer #3 · answered by sugarbabi34 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to stop thinking of this as a disadvantage and start thinking of it as an opportunity. You will not be replaced. You have a friendship that has lasted a long time and has overcome much. It is your opportunity to welcome the new addition to the family!
When there is a new baby it is a wonderful time but also a new burden to the family. Try to find ways to be a good sister to this new little girl! A gift, a card, a casserole of food that you made yourself, a t-shirt for the baby that says, Little Sister, and one for him that says Big Brother. If you can turn your thinking around to it is "all about them" rather than your own sadness, you will conquer your fear and assure your new position as "Big Sister"
Good luck!
Remember, you are now the "Big Sister" so do big sister things to help! The family will thank you for it!
2007-06-25 00:30:55 · answer #4 · answered by Goddess of Laundry 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
A man was on a walking holiday in Ireland.
He became thirsty so decided to ask at a home for
something to drink. The lady of the house invited him
in and served him a bowl of soup by the fire.
There was a wee pig running around the kitchen,
running up to the visitor and giving him a great deal of attention.
The visitor commented that he had never
seen a pig this friendly. The housewife replied:
"Ah, he's not that friendly. That's his bowl you're using."
2007-06-25 00:28:28 · answer #5 · answered by Village Player 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what news came?? I am sorry for the loss of a bestfriend. He really isn't lost he just moved up the road. The best way to handle this is just to call him and talk to him on the phone as much as possible, text mesage each other, Internet. There are so many ways to stay in touch. And at least you are still seeing him so that is a plus it would have really stunk if he would of move to a different contry. So just enjoy the time you spend together.
2007-06-25 00:17:03 · answer #6 · answered by maverick29 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You have nothing to worry about. You and your friend and his mother will always have the memories you made together. Nothing or no one can take that away from you. Look at it as, you haven't lost a best friend, you have gained a new potential best friend. You can help care for the baby sister and make more memories with your friend, his mom and the new baby! You have a lot to be thankful for and more great times to look forward to.
2007-07-03 00:07:59 · answer #7 · answered by justme 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am so sorry for you. It is one of the hardest things in life to lose a best friend. I grew up with my dad in the army and we moved so often. The longest we ever stayed in one place was 6 months. So I was changing schools so often. I found it hard to make good friends and god it hurt so bad to leave them when the time came. Make it a point to keep in touch. Phone, write, E-mail, try and visit as often as possible. Don't let your best friend escape totally. Just because he doesn't live right next door doesn't mean he's disappeard from life. He's still there just not next door-so stay in touch.
2007-06-25 00:16:58 · answer #8 · answered by Shelley C 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
His sister won't make you unliked by your friend and his mom. I had a baby cousin(I was the only girl in my family) when I was 11. It really made no difference to me, and I'm a girl(the more nurturing sex). So anyway, having a baby is different from an older sister to play with. You can't play with a baby. The baby his mom will have will still mean alot to him, but so will you. His mom may be more preoccupied, but maybe your mom could take you places.
2007-06-25 00:46:00 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
i am also 14, and i have neighbors who are 14 and their boy is 11, we are close like family also. and i completely understand where your coming from. this is probably very hard for you and im sorry. if you're really sad.. ice cream can solve any problem. ; )
at least you aren't sitting right by the TV with your little brother watching The Wiggles. omg, its so annoying.. these 40 year old ******* need a life, seriously.
2007-06-25 00:22:30 · answer #10 · answered by murph 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋