how should i behave when my husband tells about his first wife?

Answer 1

listen to what he has to say. make mental notes in your head. if you find the conversations are going towards his comparing you to her, then, i would put a stop to it and simply say you married me and i'm not her so i don't want to be compared to her. it really matters what he is saying about her, if it bothers you, tell him. better to have an honest relationship with your husband than to pretend it doesn't bother you. if it doesn't bother you, then, let him keep talking and you listen. we all know when something feels right or wrong, so go with your feelings. remember husband and wife are suppose to make each other feel good and not bad about themselves. they have to make each other the most important people in their lives.

Answer 2

Let him talk!!!
You'll find out so much about your man by listening to him. Don't interup, and only ask questions if you don't understand what he said. Don't judge anything during the conversation. If you really listen, he'll tell you the thoughts he has for your relationship too...how he'll treat you, what he'll expect from you, and how he'll respond in situations. This is a huge opportunity to just KNOW more and then in the future, be better able to handle anything with him.

Answer 3

That depends on what and why. What is he saying when he talks about his ex. Why is he telling you about her. Are you asking questions?

If he's talking about her, because she is on his mind alot, that is a problem.

If I were you, I would rather that he was talking about her, because I would want to hear everything he has to say. That would give me the opportunity to ask many questions and if I didn't like many answers, I would get the hell away from him.
I know that's easy to write, but this will eventually get worse. Good Luck

Answer 4

You should behave in a civil manner since he's now with you rather than his ex wife

Answer 5

I like this question. Listen to him don't form any opinions or ides, remember there are three sides to every story. Then talk to his ex. Between the two story's is the truth. I think guys should come with references anyway it would make finding the right one for yourself so much easier.

Answer 6

Put it through one ear and out through the other ear.
You can also tell him politely that you do not want to hear or talk about his first wife

Answer 7

Listen. Just listen. Form opinions in your head, don't speak them. Then watch at his reactions as he tells you about his first wife, and try to be polite about what you say to him or ask him about their relationship.

Answer 8

you could not make somebody behave the form you pick them to. you could purely be in charge for your self. in the journey that your nagging and asking and demanding interest out of your husband he won't likely pick something to do with you. in the journey that your treating him with admire and growing to be his ultimate buddy "nonjudgmental and accepting of who he's" then he will pick to be with you. A courting must be nurtured by utilizing selection not by utilizing call for.

Answer 9

Kind of depends on how often he is talking about her. How much is he comparing you to her, his life now to then. If you feel like you are living in her shadow,it is time to tell him how you feel. if it doesn't happen that often, just talk to him, ask questions, be interested. Good luck

Answer 10

Unless it pertains to something in your life or what's going on with the two of you, I'd ask him to stop. It's that simple.
If he continues, I would then tell him it hurts and you want him to stop and mean it. if he's this inconsiderate to continue, you have no hope.