Okay well..
7 years ago, I moved to a new house & my next door neighbour & I became best friends (in fact, we were like brothers and sisters). We played with each other every single day. I would go to his house & he would come to mine. We would be heartbroken when we had to go home at night because we just enjoyed each other's company so much. We had so much in common & we had so much fun. I could relate to him in so many ways. (He's 11, I'm 14)
A few years ago, his mum decided to move houses. I was shocked & devastated. I cried & cried. No more best friend to listen to your problems, no more best friend to play with, no more best friend to cheer you up, no more best friend to just have. He kept me alive. I needed him and he wouldn't be there for me everyday anymore...
2007-06-24 23:08:43 · 26 answers · asked by Melanie 5 in Entertainment & Music ➔ Polls & Surveys
They moved about 6km away but I couldn't take it. It was too much for me. It was devastating. Suddenly I was just so lonely & his mum and I were very close too. She enjoyed my company and she would take us to the beach, to amusement parks, bowling etc. She also treated me like a daughter. She always bought me things, and we had fun times. But now, all that would be gone.
He was an only child which is why his mum treated me like a daughter, always buying me things, always taking me everywhere and he loved and saw me as his sister. She loved me like a daughter because I was the closest thing she had to one and I loved her like a mum because I was just so close to her and felt like I could really trust her and have fun with her. His mum then made a deal that * and I would see each other once during the week and possibly on the weekend if we weren’t busy. So he started coming over every week and on the weekends I went to his house. We were so close. Then news came..
2007-06-24 23:09:24 · update #1
his mother was pregnant. She had a girl.
Now the problem is, I’m not jealous but I just feel like he will love his sister more, enjoy her company more and replace me. I just feel like he won’t see me as a sister anymore because he now has one. And I feel like his mum won’t love me like a daughter anymore since she has a real daughter now. I feel like she won’t take * and I to the movies, to the beach, to amusement parks anymore because she is preoccupied with her daughter. I feel like I’m losing a connection. Problem is, this connection has helped me live so far and I just don’t want to lose this connection but I think I already have. She no longer loves me (well it feels like it). I mean why would she? She has a daughter now. Why would * love me? He has a sister now.
2007-06-24 23:10:13 · update #2
I’m just so depressed at the moment. Please help me!! I really need someone to cheer me up. I’m crying as I type this because it really hurts and I can’t live like this. Don’t bother being rude and calling me selfish too because I’ll just block you. And, anyway, it has been proven that everyone will feel like this at least once in their life. So, if something similar has happened to you or you have something nice to say, please help me feel better, stop crying and be happy again. I want the life and connection I had before the birth of the daughter, to stay. I love * like a brother and I love his mum like a mother. (I do have a mother by the way, but I just love *’s mum and we were extremely close) Please help! Thanks. (By the way, they don’t know I feel this way and it is best left unsaid. Otherwise, they’ll think I’m jealous, which I’m not.) Thanks.
2007-06-24 23:10:25 · update #3
of course shell still love you but for a while alot of her time will be taken up with her new child but im sure it will not change her feelings for you!
2007-06-24 23:12:55 · answer #1 · answered by trickshot11 4 · 6⤊ 2⤋
Aww thats sad. I'm sorry to hear that. But you know what. You need to cry to get the pain out. Talk to him on the phone every day ask him how his day is if you guys cant see each other alot. And as for the lady not looking at you like a daughter dont worry about that either. You'll always be her daughter. She may not love you as much as her own child but she loves you almost as much. Dont worry what other people say. Go watch some TV and find something funny to watch.
2007-07-03 00:07:49 · answer #2 · answered by Wendie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Mellie, Your friends Mum has made a commitment to you that will not soon end. I can understand your feelings. This Mum must be giving lots of love and emotional support and I wouldn't want to lose a friend such as this, either. It is not too bad, to think of yourself because you aren't old enough to appreciate all the responsibilities your Mum has. You would enjoy helping her with this little girl. It is so much fun to watch a little child grow and so nice if you could help her occasionally, for all the kindness she has shown you. None of us want changes in our lives. We feel empty for awhile. She wouldn't be angry if you tell her how you feel because she is your friend.
2007-07-03 02:45:00 · answer #3 · answered by kriend 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Life lesson #1: Every change in your live is another opportunity to make a difference, not only to your present situation but everything else after that. Always look hard and try to find the good out of a situation that seems to look bad for you. The truth is: There is good in every bad situation. Cheer up!
2007-07-03 00:35:31 · answer #4 · answered by nova2fine 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't cry anymore...
it is actually normal for you to feel this way and it is ok to cry and moan and feel depressed and whatever that you feel like doing and all of the things that you wrote is what majority of other ppl has gone or is going through now...it is just a phase...AND it is ok to feel a little jealous.i did too ,one time AND it is not bad to feel that way.we are only humans.we get to feel the way we want to feel...if we don't then we might as well be a C3PO = )
i do not think that any of them will feel differently about you or would they treat you in another way.they have known you and have enjoyed time with you.it will still be the same.except now.you will share the moments with a baby girl.and trust me...babies are good too...especially when they smell nice and wears cute clothes...do not worry your head off about it.it will be ok again...trust me... = )
2007-06-25 06:20:18 · answer #5 · answered by faris j 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Cheer up!i'll giv you a star
Imagine that I've already moved out 3 times and in each time
I feel like this .
Well,of course he won't forget you and he will treat you as a big sister and about his mother ,she will treat you as the bigger daughter ....just stay in touch and don't worry
if you needed to talk to some1 or you can be my best friend cuz I dont hav 1 ,heres my email;
marykatetakoua@yahoo.com
By the way,I know your feeling cuz I had a bestfriend and she said that I'm not her bestfriend anymore
2007-06-25 06:25:10 · answer #6 · answered by takoua d 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
you have to take into consideration that his new baby sister has a huge age gap with him. i think its totally possible for you two to still be close because you have been so close to each other for so long, and if things do fall apart then it will hurt for awhile but life will go on. cheer up sweetie, you'll be fine
2007-07-03 01:09:00 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
can't you spend the weekend at their house an d the following weekend he could stay at your house.in the meantime get out and meet other friends.you can not go threw life with just one best friend.if you do you will have a lonely life.your friendship with him should last a lif time.keep in touch with him.
2007-07-02 16:21:07 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
sweetie you are looking at this all wrong. She will need a big sister there is a HUGE gap between you. This baby girl is like a chance to not just have a brother but a little sister. Of course things will change but embrace the possibility that this might be wonderful.
2007-06-25 06:13:07 · answer #9 · answered by Greatest&Chiefest of calamities 3 · 6⤊ 2⤋
You have more freedom than you think.
You are so free that you may use this story to keep crying and feeling depressed.
Take a breath. Decide what you want to experience. You are molding your future right now. Allow the next cool thing to come your way. Awesome and wonderful friends will come to you, so don't push them away with this story. Let it go....
Choose to be happy first.
Best wishes.
2007-06-25 06:17:01 · answer #10 · answered by flip33 4 · 2⤊ 2⤋
that is pretty sad. but you know you are closer to the boys age and therefore i dont' know how you can be replaced. i mean the sister is baby right? there i s no comparison. so i would stop crying have they stopped contact with you i mean you are the boys friend and i doubt this will ever stop be happy and call them up heck you will be old enough to baby sit and stuff and see your friend gerally specking they dont' use boys for sitters.
2007-07-02 20:04:02 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋