im crushing on this girl that im really close to. we've been through a lot. but recently, it seems like she doesnt even want to be my friend anymore. i feel like im doing tons of the work just to keep the friendship going. im really confused because she says im her closest guy friend, yet at the same time, she always goes to this other guy who im "rivals" with. She donest know I see him as a rival though . soemtimes it feels like if i didnt exist, it really woulndt matter to her. and lately, it seems like i annoy her very easily so i dont evne talk to her (evne though i try, she just turns it away) can anyone help me get us back on track as friends. i fear im going insane about it and the fact that in 9 days im leaving for europe for an entire 6 weeks gives me this insane fear that when i get back, we wont even be freinds anymore. waht should i do!?!?!?! Im not super interested in dating her, just for those with “love” advice.
2007-06-24 20:43:48 · 6 answers · asked by PiXeL_PuNk001001 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
it shows how much you care about her... that you're so scared to lose her friendship and that youre focusing on that more than the dating her part. that is a sign of how you really care for her and aren't out to just.. date her.
honestly... it seems like you were her closest guy friend...but maybe she can sense your feelings for her and so she stepped back bc she didnt know what to do w/ it.
either way... im sorry-- i dont think she feels the same. and even if she is she's not ready to be anything more than just friends with you. i think that if she's acting like she's "annoyed" lately-- it's probably bc since you are crushing on her-- you're acting differently or obvious or maybe short w/ her whenev she is w/ this other guy--> so she's just tired of the strange/jealous behavior.
i think no matter what advice-- you're gonna end up telling her how you feel. just bc if you hide it-- you'll be torturing yourself watching her w/ this other guy.
sorry. i wanna give you advice but i just dont think she feels the same or would react in a positive way.
...just tell her everything you're thinking (so you dont live in regret) and let her know that you just wanted her to know. but it's totally ok if she doesnt feel the same. and no matter what you dont wanna lose y'all's friendship. so tell her not to worry about being different or anything... and it'll take time but you just dont wanna lose y'all's friendship.
and if she does end up acting differently or whatever... then just try to get things back to normal. and laugh and be yourself. and just-- you know... get y'all's relationship back on track.
2007-06-24 21:15:26 · answer #1 · answered by sarahthetran 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey--grow up--get a life--this girl knows there is a rivalry--and she is enjoying wasting your time. You don't need her and you are having a crush on a silly immature girl NOT worth your time or friendship--get moving and forget her. Enjoy the trip. Whenyou get back, find a nice available mature young lady--ignore that other pain in the butt--why would you want a girl like that--she is totally a waste of fresh air.
2007-06-24 20:58:43 · answer #2 · answered by fire_inur_eyes 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You sound pathetic. I would bet that she is beginning to feel the same way about you. Girls don't like weak men. You are pushing her away, by being so desperate to be close to her. Back off, and see what happens. I bet that you will gain some of her respect back.
2007-06-24 21:12:22 · answer #3 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She cant stand you but doesnt want to hurt your feelings cause your a wimp andknows you will be all pathetic about your rebuff..
2007-06-24 20:58:57 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell her what you feel and you may find out taht u are no longer the best male friend she has right now.That's something you should know
2007-06-24 20:48:58 · answer #5 · answered by t m 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dear friend..
better to move...
she donot deserve you....
she enjoys her dating with your enemy and she knows it....
2007-06-24 21:15:38 · answer #6 · answered by Cheers 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋