I am am about to be a junior in high school, and lately my mom and a mutual friend(15 years older than me, about the same younger than my mom) have been telling me that I am dressing to attract lesbians. Most of my summertime outfits consist of either daisy duke shorts and a wifebeater, or other tank top or short sleeve shirt, or baggy shorts and print button up shirts. I almost never wear skirts and I never ever wear "girly" clothes, i.e. lacy or lots of pink or ribbons, et cetera. I don't feel comfortable in skirts or other girly clothes, but I am very much attracted to guys. I have a hard time believing that guys can actually see anything in me, though, so while I have many guy friends I have never had a boyfriend. I recently cut my hair, so it's only about three inches long now. I am afraid that I will seem to be a lesbian, so guys won't even think about seeing anything in me but a friend. I don't want to change, but I just don't know what to do. Thank you!
2007-06-24 16:54:43 · 9 answers · asked by Dancer 3 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
One's manner of dress has absolutely nothing to do with their sexuality. Some lesbians do dress "butch". Some like to dress girly. Many are professional women who dress accordingly.
Perhaps one day you will want to be more girly. Perhaps not. Either way, isn't it better to always be yourself and attract those who are able to look beyond the superficial?
Your Mother and friend are trying to manipulate you to be a particular kind of girl. Their concerns are probably well intended, but also very misguided.
Be yourself and be happy.
2007-06-24 17:08:12 · answer #1 · answered by Tom K 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not looking 'girly' doesn't make you a lesbian, I think lesbians appreciate this much more than straight girls do. Most lesbians wouldn't assume a tomboyish or butch girl was gay but for some reason straight people (girls especially) will accuse them of being a lesbian.
Just be yourself, try not to worry about what other people think of you. You don't have to be overtly feminine to find a nice guy, perhaps your guy mates are a bit to shy or unsure of how to ask you out. I've had a number of my guy friends actually have crushes on me (not that it mattered since I like girls).
Just be who you want to be and you'll find someone who will like you for that, and in the end it's best to be comfortable in who you are, confidence can be extremely attractive.
2007-06-24 17:08:47 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, you are sort of using stereotypes to define yourself. You know, the whole lesbians are tomboyish and butchy thing. I say you blow your mom and her friend off and dress however you want to dress.
It's called diversity. Different people, different tastes. There are guys out there that like really girly girls while others like more boyish ones.
Be yourself. Trust me, there's nothing more attractive than somebody who knows who they are and are comfortable in their own skin.
2007-06-24 17:02:49 · answer #3 · answered by allchillledhere 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think the way you dress is that important, honestly. And there's no particular way to dress that "attracts lesbians". Maybe you should try asking them out? You never know..
2007-06-24 16:59:40 · answer #4 · answered by patriceisadork 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I used to be in a similar bind. Dressing to attract the same sex while trying to hook it up with the opposite. And nagging from the parents that I should "dress right".
Dress however you want. Guys will see through the clothes at some point and it'll be allright in the end.
2007-06-24 16:59:11 · answer #5 · answered by avalanchefan95 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Those clothes. JROTC. That haircut. That would definitely fit a few lesbian stereotypes. There are some guys that find girls like you attractive, so don't second-guess your choices. Just be true to yourself and the right person will come along eventually.
2007-06-24 18:35:22 · answer #6 · answered by carora13 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey there is no problem with being who you are meant to be.
Just because you aren't "girly" enough for your mom and friend doesn't mean jack.
If you are not specifically wanting to attract lesbians then you probably won't.
And, to be honest, a lot of guys nowadays don't like the "girly" type of girls: we think they're too preppy.
2007-06-24 16:58:49 · answer #7 · answered by Chip 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
If you display the right kind of body language then guys will know that you're interested in them. By that, I mean you should be flirty with guys you are interested in. They'll get the picture and realize that however you may dress, it's just your personal style and not an indication of your sexual orientation.
2007-06-24 17:02:07 · answer #8 · answered by John 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
look dont let the screen name fol you its sisters account and i find girls that dress like that sexy as hell!
like a pair of jeans and a flannel shirt and cap dam i love that!
2007-06-24 17:01:05 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋