My ex is continuing to call me as I write this. He is drinking and leaving some very mean voicemails. He leaves messages on my phone that are really mean and degrading. I am wondering why I take him back over and over again? I think one of my main reasons is because if I do not cater to him I worry he will call his ex and go out to the bar with her as he has done so in the past. I am wondering why I put so much focus on what he does?
2007-06-24 15:36:15 · 6 answers · asked by Marie 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
First, this is abuse - get out of the "relationship" right now.
Second, see a therapist, they can answer better than I but basically you are repeating a situation that is similar to something in your life that you need to resolve.
You may have issues with self esteem, abandonment, inappropriate 'father' issues, etc. You are person, you need to be respected and live like any other person.
This page has numbers in every state for you to call if you don't know someone:
http://www.usdoj.gov/ovw/hotnum.htm
Third, from your question, how many "ex-es" does this guy have?? and why the he77 do you care if he goes out with his 'other' ex??
Finally, you are being emotionally abused and are possibly one step away from physical abuse; you need to get straight about this right away.
Some immediate steps might be to change your phone number and do not see this person again. You may have to talk to the police if he continues to harass you.
Wiki quote:
Sufferers have low self-esteem, and often believe that the abuse is their fault. Such persons usually refuse to press criminal charges against their abuser, and refuse all offers of help, often becoming aggressive or abusive to others who attempt to offer assistance. Often sufferers will even seek out their very abuser for comfort shortly after an incident of abuse.
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Get help now. Good luck. God bless you.
2007-06-24 16:03:01 · answer #1 · answered by xxpat 1 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Aside from pain in the backside, what are you getting from this guy? If he's your ex, make him your ex by sending him a letter explaining that if he continues to harass you, you will be forced to obtain a restraining order. Is he, in fact, your ex, or will you be taking him back again?
2007-06-24 15:42:55 · answer #2 · answered by DelK 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i could could say it may be as quickly as we lost our son. That grow to be 8 years in the past on Christmas morning. It grow to be a hell that I nonetheless re-stay many times back. How do I handle it? no longer o.k. i'm afraid yet nonetheless engaged on that. No we did no longer ruin up over it besides the indisputable fact that it did no longer help an already rocky marriage.
2016-10-03 02:17:31 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he is an alcoholic and you Enable him to do this to your life
STOP IT!
dont listen to the nasty messages, delete them
dont take him back, let one of those other ex's deal with his drunken rage
move on!
you deserve better!!
2007-06-24 15:41:34 · answer #4 · answered by bronzebabekentucky 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Ignore him. if u cant call the cops.
2007-06-24 16:36:17 · answer #5 · answered by kevin p 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are obssessed with him.He controls you, because you give him the power to do it.Block his phone number.DO NOT GO BACK TO HIM!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
2007-06-24 15:43:09 · answer #6 · answered by Klingon 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋