50% of heterosexual marriages end up in divorce within the first 5 years nowadays. And I've heard homosexual relationships break up faster. I was wondering about bi-sexual people. They are sxually attracted to both sexes so aren't their chances of being faithful in a long-term relationship much less than the rest of us?
Do you think that relationships between any 2 people would last longer if sex wasn't the main focus?
2007-06-24 15:18:00 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
I've been around, and I've yet to see a marriage work, when there was a bi-sexual involved, and believe me I've come accross quite a few marriages, where that was the case. I'm not saying it's impossible, most definitely improbable.
I tend to think, that a marriage cannot make it's main focus on sex. There is so much more then that.I've been married for over 42 years, and if that were the main focus, we'd have been divorced years ago.
It takes committment, friendship, communication, and loyalty, and the ability to love someone despite their faults. No one should go into a marriage, and decide, that they're going to change that person to the way they want, because they're the first person to complain, that they aren't the same person they married. If your mate changes for the better, it's because they wants to change, because of their love for you, and the desire, to make you happy, and their first priority, because they see, for themselves. that they can change for the better. I hope this helps.
I've also seen long term homosexual relationships, that stayed in love, until one or the other died. The same thing applies in that type of relationship, as it does in a straight marriage. Although homosexual relationships tend to not last,
even as long as a straight marriages.
My husband, and I found ourselves living in a section of the far north side, in Chicago, where we had a unque opportunity to observe homosexual relationships. It was quite enlightening.
2007-06-24 15:46:49 · answer #1 · answered by wind_woman0007 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I think your chances of being faithful are about your sort of character and are not influenced by your sexual preference.
My girlfriend identifies as bisexual and we have a monogamous relationship, I do however have a lot of fears attached to her sexuality because of some of my previous relationships and our ages (she's 19 and 3 years younger than me). I however don't think our relationship ever breaking down would be a result of her bisexuality directly but as a result of her personality.
Being heterosexual or homosexual and in a relationship doesn't remove you from attractions to people outside a relationship and I don't think having attractions to males and females would lead these outside attractions to infidelity any more often unless it was a part of that persons character.
And would relationships last longer if sex wasn't the main focus?
I think yes, the relationships I have with my friends which are completely non-sexual are incredibly strong long lasting relationships. I think part of having a long lasting romantic relationship is finding that lasting friendship in addition to your sexual attraction.
2007-06-24 15:44:57 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes. Not all bisexuals are "parallel" bisexuals. Just because you are attracted to both sexes doesn't mean you have to do it with both sexes at the same time. Think of it like this, bisexuals are capable of being monogamous, but when they are looking for a partner, they have a larger pool. But once they select a partner, they are just as capable as anyone else at remaining monogamous.
2007-06-24 15:35:34 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Look at it this way:
Say a man is attracted to both blonds and red-heads. Does that mean he is more likely to cheat with a red-head if he is married to a blond? Same answer goes for those who like both men and women.
People who are inclined to cheat will cheat regardless of their sexual orientation.
I am a bisexual woman who is very happily married to a man. I have no desire to stray because I am not the kind of person who cheats. I do not feel that I am missing out. I made my choice with the man that I have and feel very complete.
My ex-husband, however, who is very straight and homophobic, banged half the state during our 7 year marriage.
It all depends on the individual and if she/he has straying tendencies.
Lab Grrl, I swear I did NOT read your post before writing mine! Too funny!
*high five*
2007-06-24 15:33:08 · answer #4 · answered by thezaylady 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well if I'm any example than I gues the answer is a resounding YES!
I'm bisexual and my partner and I have been together over ten years and still going strong. (yup, it's a same-sex relationship too!)
Just because we're bisexual doesn't mean we're incapable of being monogamous.
I'm not a poly amorous person, I have never cheated on ANY partner/spouce/boy or girlfriend...EVER.
2007-06-24 15:24:20 · answer #5 · answered by DEATH 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Yes because if you're in a relationship you should be faithfull, it was the same on straight and gay couple.
Just because we(bi) like both genders doesn t mean we' re going to cheat around.
2015-10-08 09:19:39 · answer #6 · answered by Lydia 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes a bi-sexual relationship can be monogamous, who you are potentially attracted to has no effect on how dedicated you are to your partner.
2007-06-24 15:22:04 · answer #7 · answered by Kith D 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That is such a dumb question. Bis don't want both simultaneously, they just look for love in either sex. Being faithful is about loving somebody enough to be their one and only.
2007-06-24 15:25:00 · answer #8 · answered by Miakoda 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Of course they can be monogamous. And you're right, sex shouldn't be the main focus of marriage.
:-)
2007-06-24 15:22:03 · answer #9 · answered by J9 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Of course bisexuals can be monogamous. It comes down to the character of the individual, not their sexual orientation.
2007-06-24 15:39:01 · answer #10 · answered by PinUpGal 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋