What is Cause of This Behavior Within Homosexual Community?

Question

*Ok please note that this is NOT meant to be an anti-homosexual question by any means.

Why is it that certain unhealthy practices are running rampant in the homosexual community, such as promiscuity, deviant sexual practices, and non-use of protection.

Would it be because of the homosexuality itself, or is it because of societal pressures on a homosexual?

Also, has anyone who is gay been molested as a child? I only ask because most of my gay friends have indeed been sexually abused. Does sexual abuse alter sexual orientation?

Once again, this question is not asked from any certain viewpoint, but rather as a general open question. Respect to all.

Answer 1

Being molested as a child does not change ones sexual orientation although it may change their sexual behavior and/or sexual preference...there is a difference.

The reason unsafe sexual practices etc, exist in the gay community would be the same reason it is in any community. Lack of education, attitude of "it won't happen to me" and lack of resources.

Answer 2

I am deeply suspicious of your alleged even-handed attitude, but for purposes of this answer, I'll take you as presented.

"Why is it that certain unhealthy practices are running rampant in the homosexual community, such as promiscuity, deviant sexual practices, and non-use of protection?" [question mark added]

For promiscuity and the non-use of protection, EXACTLY the same reason they're running rampant in the heterosexual community: When your sex drive turns on, your good sense tends to turn off! If you haven't noticed that in yourself, then you're undersexed---not that there's anything wrong with that, but it's definitely a minority situation.

As for "deviant sexual practices," if you tell me what is physically "unhealthy" about oral sex, definitely a deviation from the "missionary position" that some modern missionaries do in fact insist on, I'll try to answer that part too--but not on this board, because it would rapidly get too "adult"!

So no, neither because of "homosexuality itself" nor "societal pressures."

And do you mean "Has EVERYone who is gay been molested as a child?" Because if so, the answer is very clearly no. You yourself say MOST of your gay friends were molested; this implies that some of them weren't, and you already have your answer. If you really mean exactly what you wrote, then again you already had your answer--yes, some have. If you mean something different, please write it instead!

I'd be surprised if sexual abuse often, if ever, altered sexual orientation. We do know it may produce pedophilia and other power-seeking behavior in the victim, but that's not orientation in the gay/str8 sense.

Answer 3

Your sources of information (or lack thereof) about the "homosexual community" are sorely lacking, though pretty typical. Of the dozens of guys I've dated (yes, believe it or not, we do "date" in the traditional sense) not one has ever expressed an interest in unsafe sex, sex with multiple partners, or any of the assortment of fetishes that are usually attributed to the gay community when, in fact, at least as many straight people engage in similar activities. Equally shocking will be the revelation that my partner and I have been a completely monogamous relationship for five years- hardly a record, but I doubt I'd be going out on a limb to say that most straight couples my age are unable to say the same thing.

Promiscuity and unsafe sex are hardly limited to the gay community, yet for some odd reason, no one ever condemns a straight person's sexual orientation for their being promiscuous- only the person, the schools, the media, etc. Promiscuity is hardly limited to the gay community, and in fact, numerous studies have shown that gay teens tend to wait longer to have sex than their heterosexual peers.

And no, I was never molested as a child! Nor were -any- of my close gay friends... however, I know at least half a dozen straight people that were- all by straight relatives. Why don't you ever hear anyone claiming that a person became straight because they were molested by a person of the opposite sex? And, since the vast majority child molesters are straight, why no blanket condemnation of the straight community?

Answer 4

Most of your gay friends have been sexually abused ? Strange. I don't know of a single one.

But to answer your question, I almost need an entire psychology book.

1. In general gays have no ways to come out of the closet until their 20's. A whole adolescence goes by without love, flirts, or even being able to talk about it. No wonder when they become independent after their 20's they party like it's 1999.

2. Do not forget that heterosexual relations in very many cases are being kept alive, long after the passion has died, by the responsabilities for children, etc. Gays do not have this. If the love dies, there is no string whatsoever to keep the couple together.

3. For the same reason as above, most straight peoples lives are centered around stability, paying off schools, the house, you name it, and for this reason they are allowed a lot less freedom.

Gays have the freedom to pursue happiness, in whatever way, from the will to express themselves, to deepen their talents, to move countries, jobs, become work aholics, on the way to self fulfillment. That is a luxury situation indeed, but also the reason for so many contributions to literature, culture, art, science... but also sexual freedom.

Good luck

Answer 5

lot of stereotypes packed into that question.

First of all, there are unhealthy sex practices going on in the gay and straight worlds. So, why would you think to just single out the gay community? Seems a bit slanted on your part, dont you think?

Why are does the straight community engage in unsafe sex practices? Is it societal pressures on the hetero or is it the hetero itself?

Also, i wonder if you compare the number of molested children who grew up straight to that of molested children who grew up gay, what would you find? My guess a MUCH larger number of straights. So, does this mean the sexual abuse made them straight?

Personally, I find your question disrespectful. Whether intentional or not, only you know. But at the very least it's disrespectful out of ignorance.

Answer 6

Okay...certainly SOUNDS like an offensive question, but I'll give you the benefit of the doubt and take your word for it.

First off, the people mostly likely not to use condoms and to get STDs are middle-aged straight married people. So before you assume these practices are 'running rampant' in the gay community....well, they aren't really. Yeah, gay people cheat on each other, but not really anymore than straight people, I don't think.

And no, I've never been molested. I don't think sexual abuse affects sexual orientation at all. If you're gay, or if you're straight...you're born that way.

Answer 7

I think people choose to look at these aspects of the homosexual community and use it as a blame when they fail to realised ALL these things exist in heterosexual community's.
Heterosexual people or promiscuous, have deviant sexual practices and don't use protection, they are also pedophiles (in fact most homosexual acts of pedophilia are acted out by men who largely identify as heterosexual, or live a heterosexual life)
As for been abused as a child, plenty of sexually abused children also grow up to be heterosexuals.

These things you mention are not distinct of a homosexual community but a section of our entire society and has homosexual and heterosexuals who engage or are influenced by the activities.

Answer 8

Every life is different, and also very special. What is the cause for a certain behavior of one, may not be the cause for the behavior of others. We all have different Karma, just like one medicine cannot be good for all, as the cause of the sickness may differ from individual to individual. Life is precious! The Lotus cannot begrudge the mud it grow in, because it's beauty depend on the dept of the mud. Anger and Stupidity are two of the three poisons of Human Life (the third is Greed), these are the reasons for the behavior of many who are attacked by the three poisons, which of course that is not precluded to homosexual, but everyone who lacks wisdom.

Answer 9

I, and literally every LGBT person I've ever known, has never been molested as children. I hope that answers that part of your question and makes it perfectly clear.

Secondly, when someone engages in risky/dangerous behavior, there is always the question of low self-esteem, self-pity, etc. Which are usually symptoms that certain groups will exhibit when abused from/by the society in which they live.

Try loving them, and letting them know how important they are as a person, and that you care about them. Then in time such risky behavior will change

Answer 10

There are good and bad people in every group. Some try to stop such things in the community (straight or gay) while others don't care or are a cause of the prejudice. Education and understanding can help this issue.