After I found out that my wife was cheating and had posted a profile in several dating websites. I dumped her ASAP and the divorce is well in process. Within a month after the breakup she was already in a serious relationship with yet a different man. My daughter said to me they’ve been going for trips to the casino with this new guy, my daughter and my Ex-wife’s parents. NOW! Is it ethical to have my daughter sleep in the same bed with this guy and my Ex in one bed and her parents in the other bed at a hotel room?
Legally can I stop this behavior, do I have the rights to demand this guy’s background info in the state of Mass for the best interest of my 4 yrs old daughter's safety. Obviously this relationship seem not right?
2007-06-24 10:57:23 · 35 answers · asked by sprinkler747 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I have expressed my concerned but it is translated as JEALOUSY (:
2007-06-24 11:05:03 · update #1
What are my chances here if i decide to go for full custody?
2007-06-24 11:25:00 · update #2
I was able to get hard copy evidence of their online profiles as a supporting evidence of how they met. This guys is still on there but with a different username ... gettin' even better.
2007-07-02 04:51:48 · update #3
The Child should not be sleeping with anyone but her Mom and alone. This is surely sending the Child mixed signals. If you have spoke to your X Wife about this and she just will not change, get a good lawyer and then get custody.
2007-06-30 16:21:44 · answer #1 · answered by donna_honeycutt47 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
OMG I would document every little bit of information that I can about her, yes do a background check on her new boyfriend, that is your daughter you want what is best for her, sleeping in the bed with mom and boyfriend what is your ex thinking, does she not know the position that puts your 4 year old, what if he is a child molester, Hire a private detective, but document everything, get a background check on him, and file for custody, also get the websites that she was posted on to for evidence in court, Good Luck and God Bless keep us posted as to how things go
2007-07-02 04:43:49 · answer #2 · answered by pookster4262 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Do you have any proof that your daughter is sleeping on the same bed as this guy? Or is it hearsay? If you have proof then you can take legal action. Start gathering your facts now and make preparations to present these facts in court. If you do this, you are legally assured that you will win the case to gain full custody of your daughter because you can prove your ex to be incompetent mother.
2007-07-02 08:20:58 · answer #3 · answered by maestra 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If your daughter wsn't involved, i'd say you were just being jealous. But for your kid's sake, i think it's important to learn what kind of guy she's spending time with. And i DEFINITELY don't think she should be sleeping in the same bed or room as this guy. Is your ex-wife a nut case? She should know better. In facty, you need to get custody of this child, because your ex obviously has questionable parenting skills.
2007-07-02 06:54:23 · answer #4 · answered by Foxy 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I would certainly try for full custody and the next time you have your daughter tell her that you are not returning her due to the nature in which she is sleeping on these trips that is not a healthy situation for any child. I would do this for her sake and express your problem to the courts they are bound to see this the same way. The only thing that they may ask is for proof that they are sleeping this way.
2007-07-02 07:39:18 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's not illegal, but it is un ethical to have your daughter spelling in the same bed as this man. Legally, probably not, but you can pay for background information on line to find out about this guy. If you want custody, go see a lawyer and tell them everything that is going on.
2007-07-01 13:54:55 · answer #6 · answered by Theophane_98 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If this was you (the child's father) I would not see a problem with her sleeping with you. But he's not and she probably hasn't known him long. I don't think this behavior is illegal but in my opinion it is immoral. I wouldn't "demand" a background check, but you can often find them on the Internet. I don't know about Mass, but Missouri has a thing called Case Net where you can look up anyone's record for free. However it only applies to cases that were handled in Missouri courts.
I think it is very wise of you to screen this guy, but have you talked to your daughter's mother about how these activities may effect your daughter?
Here is a list of some government sites that may help.
http://www.background-checks-systems.com/massachusetts_free_public_records.htm
2007-06-24 11:12:28 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
If you can prove this and you will definitely in a court of law, allthe adults can be charged with contributing depending on if something did really happen between this guy and your daughter. This would really be hard to prove with evidence since the courts tend not to take a minors story too serious and usually ends up as hearsay. If something did happen then your ex laws could be charged as they didnt stop this. But based on what you wrote,you have nothing to go on here, sorry
2007-06-24 11:10:47 · answer #8 · answered by Arthur W 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Do you have a lawyer yet? I went to a divorce lawyer and had a contract drawn up with a parenting plan. It stipulated when and where both of us could see our child, what we could say around her and even the religion we would raise her in. This is not ideal; I think it works best when the marriage turns ugly. I hate for this to happen to you too, but it may be the best. If she won't agree to a parenting plan, unforunately you may have to go to court where a judge will decide. I doubt any judge will think it is normal for a girl to be sleeping with this man. Her mother's behavior is sick at best; I would let her know about the parenting plan and that you are willing to let it go to court if you think it is necessary. good luck!
2007-06-24 11:10:02 · answer #9 · answered by Jennifer H 2 · 4⤊ 0⤋
It is always hard when two people get divorced and children are in their middle of it. If she was a woman with any character she would have left you before cheating to fulfill her selfish needs in the first place. So what do you expect, she is self centered and puts herself before her(your) child's needs. It is already hard enough for kids to see their parents split, and she should definitely be more discreet in her dating experiences. I would go to court regarding this issue when a parenting plan is enforced or modified. The best interest of your child is what matters stand up for her, it is sick to have her in the same bed even so young with a man who is not her dad or married to her mother.
2007-06-28 12:09:59 · answer #10 · answered by just maybe... 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋