i'm divorcing my husband on the grounds of adultery and have 3 kids from him, but all of a sudden, just out of spite he has asked me to do a DNA test which i don't think i should have to considering it was him cheating on me while i was hospitalised for one year wtih post natal depression. He is now saying to do the test to be cruel and because my youngest child has a sickel cell trait, that i made a my husband aware of and made a fuss over and also nither of us have. But this can still skip genrations and i was faithful to my husband. can the law make me do it even if he put in a request and i refuse as he is denying the son who loves him and this is so painful?
2007-06-24 10:47:17 · 15 answers · asked by cleopatra 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I don't want to do the DNA as i feel that after all what he has put me and my family through he has a cheek to try & turn his nasty cheap behaviour on me.This alone is a shock and how dare he use our 3 yr old son as a weapon in this divorce. he doesn't pay us any money or support us at all so child support is not the issue. He only wants it because our son has sickle trait which he is ignorant about.
2007-06-24 22:19:27 · update #1
He can try to refuse to pay child support if he isn't the biological father. If it becomes a court issue, a paternity test will be ordered. If this happens, why would you refuse such a test? They're his children, are they not?
I just hope the kids' are too young to know, or your husband had the grace not to argue this matter in front of them. That would be unforgivable .
Also, why wait? If he is indeed the father, you should do what you can to reassure him that he is. It would be for the welfare of the kids' relationship with their father. You don't want him treating them like they're not his - that would be hurtful, don't you think?
2007-06-24 10:56:56 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Probably. But I am wondering why you are getting your panties in a wad over something that takes a couple of seconds of your time. It is a good thing because it will shut him up as to his dumb question as to who the father is and you will take the high road.
You have to understand that he is scumbag and because he is a scumbag he thinks everybody is. He is a jerk do not spend another min. thinking about something so minute as this. It's not cruel unless you think it is cruel really it's laughable.
You have much bigger fish to fry you can raise your head high and go on with your life and remember success is the best revenge.
2007-06-24 18:04:15 · answer #2 · answered by theladygeorge 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes if he can provide enough reason to show why he wants it and persuade the Judge to court order the test and you wont have much of a choice. You can always refuse it but he could automatically be awarded whatever he wants becaus of it. Probably best just to do it an be done with it
2007-06-24 17:54:47 · answer #3 · answered by Arthur W 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is he on your son's birth certificate as this is the legal document that states with his agreement of being the father. See a solicitor for the divorce issues and they can also advise legally where you stand...Just my own personal view ... we all get angry around issues like this just bear in mind that how we deal with these issues reflect on our children. Been there worn the t-shirt..As they grow up they need to know who they are and who is mum and dad. Keep calm and deal with it in your stride get advice about maintenance and just feel safe in the fact that your kids will love you with unconditional love
2007-06-27 11:14:44 · answer #4 · answered by valf 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What do you have to lose by taking the test? If I was you I'd turn the tables and insist that he take the test so he has no doubt in his mind about what he is paying for while working to pay the child support.
2007-06-25 02:36:12 · answer #5 · answered by Biz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i dont think you need a dna test done unless you WANT to have it done. If anything he needs it done since hes claiming the child now. He might be trying to get out of child support or something. if it comes down to you having no choice but to take the test due to the courts telling you to take the test, i would demand one from his ***!!!!!
2007-06-24 17:52:55 · answer #6 · answered by short_n_sweet70301 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well he would have to pay child support- and if this is his way of avoiding it...Then a DNA test would come in handy.
To divorce him no...but you have kids, so I see it being brought up!
Get it over with...even though I understand how silly it is.
2007-06-24 17:51:36 · answer #7 · answered by passionfruit2571 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hunny give his *** the test, he'll have to fort the bill when the babies come back to be his!!! dont worry let him be spiteful b/c you will get the last laugh... he seems to be a real creep.. misery loves company so thats y he is going outta his way to hurt & embarrass you, but if in fact what u r saying is true, then sweetie you dont have a thing to worry about. keep ur head up.. everything is gonna be alright..
2007-06-24 17:52:40 · answer #8 · answered by kimmiegaddy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if the judge orders it then do it, but if he don't order it then don't. What an A**! He cheated on you and now he is behaving like this! It is to bad that he is putting his kids through this.
Good luck and try to hang in there
2007-06-24 17:54:42 · answer #9 · answered by Rosie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him you'll do the DNA test once and he'll be hit with child support for years. Laugh and tell him that's an even trade off for you and one that you're happy with.
2007-06-24 17:54:59 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋