how can i fall out of love with my baby's dad he tells me he still luvs me but has sum1 else?

Question

my ex still comes round to see our daughter on visits, he has a new partner but is constantly telling me he still loves me knowing im still in love with him how can i stop this without stopping contact with our daughter which i dont want to do?

ty to every 1 and no im not still sleeping with him i couldnt do that 2 the other woman even if she did it to me

Answer 1

if he loves you he wouldnt have left you. he's trying it on. wanting both of you . dont fall for it. look after your baby and just make sure you make it clear you are seeing him for your babies sake. you will meet someone else who is worthy of you someday. good luck.

Answer 2

You have to remember WHY you split in the first place. It sounds like he wants to have his cake and eat it. Tell him there is no way you are interested when he has a partner, if he's doing it to her he's more than likely to do the same to you. I know it must be hard since you have a child together and some old feelings might still be there but you have to be strong and stick to your word. Tell him you will be friendly for your daughter sake but that's where it ends. Good luck, go and find a nice guy who won't muck your feelings about xx

Answer 3

I have been the offending male in this situation. If I had had an ex like you things would have been wonderful. I was never allowed access to my kids .... which hurts everyone, especially the kids ..... you appear to have a good perspective on life.

But, you have to tell him that you are accommodating his fatherly pursuits and not his sexual gratification. Try to keep him at arms length regarding your own self-esteem, but try to encourage his contact with your child. It is going to be tough at times, but for your child's sake .... which is the ONLY sake in this ..... you have to do the best you can to be the best you can. Kids (large and small) might not recognize your efforts immediately, but in the end they will, one way or the other.

Bear in mind that, no-matter what (almost) kids are going to find their Dad's ..... so, the more accommodating you are to this process you can be in the initial stages the better it will be in the long run. But do not compromise your integrity in the process. Do NOT become the wicked with in the West either.

Answer 4

hun here is my email address if you want to talk. i have a child and i am have gone threw this. it always ends nasty in the end for you. and the child will pick up on the vibes. i know its hard as you will forever have a love for him as he is your childs father and as much as we always want the best for our children want that fairy land story of mommy and daddy and baby. it doesnt always work that way hun. if he loved you or respected you he would not have another girlfriend. his age has a great deal to do with this situation aswell. as some men are scared of commitment. which does not excuse their behaviour either. if you get on with his family and if he gets on with your family i advice ONLY one option NOT two. arrange weekend visits for him. where he can have the babe on the weekend you drop babe off to his moms or yours and take it from there i think less contact for you with him will do you and your daughter good. you cannot be wish full in hoping things will get better as the fact is that he is with another women. means that clearly having you and then a child and he has gone. there is no hope way i see it if you love and respect someone and you have your little stress and departure for awhile you never go off with someone else as you still love that person. i mean what is the worst that can happen you meet someone positive who loves you and is a positive influence and doesnt put you threw the love trangle of hurt pain and tears. that your daughter will view. or let him keep coming and going and using you and reck your emotional side which can lead to depression. and again your daughter is affected hun you have that little precious girl to think of now. dont let lust ruin your life

Answer 5

He's sounds like a kn*b he cheated on you with this other woman and now wants you back that or he's just trying to mess with your head. Tell him to stop tell him you don't love him anymore (even if its not true) threaten to tell his girlfriend if he carrys on. Mean while go out have fun and enjoy being single your better off without him x

Answer 6

Ignore him and concentrate on yourself and your daughter for the time being. He cant love you that much if he is with someone else! It sounds to me like he wants to keep you hanging on waiting for him incase his new relationship goes wrong. That way he would always have you to fall back on. Your worth more than that - do your best to forget your feelings for him and try to see him for what he REALLY is .... A waste of time!

Answer 7

you need to find someone in your family or his where you can drop off your daughter for him to see....you don't have to confront him then yourself, arrange the drop off/pick up times so you don't bump into each other.....as for him telling you he loves you, it's bullshit, hes trying to have his cake and eat it....if hes trying it on with you, he current gf should know about it, I'd tell her anonymously.....good luck Hun, your not the only one to be going through this x

Answer 8

tell him to get rid of the Other Gal if he loves you-- or just stop telling you the lie
your NOT sleeping with him- are you?
thrilled that you arent sleeping with him! lol!
kick him to the curb hun!!
you deserve more!!

Answer 9

What she says above (name to long to type)

Answer 10

he would rather be with you than her so he can be with his daughter. i know, i have a daughter i dont live with