My hubby and I have an 18 month old son and I would like to try for a girl. We aren't financially ready for a second child, but we weren't when my son came along either and things worked out fine. Someone once told me "you are never financially ready for a child, so don't keep waiting until you think you are". Any advice from parents who have been in a similar situation?
2007-06-24 09:50:41 · 15 answers · asked by Racheal B 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Trying to Conceive
We plan on waiting a little while longer...maybe by this time next year...and if we have another boy, we will love him just the same!
2007-06-24 10:01:15 · update #1
its true you are never financially ready, but things do work out. my first two children are 2 years,2weeks apart and i believe thats a great space. one is getting out of diapers right before your second is born. then as they grow they play sooooooo good together and are so close. my second and third child are alittle further ,because i had a miscarriage in between. they are 3 years, they still play good and are so close but 2 years apart seems just right...... GOOD LUCK!!!!!!! but the main thing is have another baby when YOU are ready .
2007-06-24 10:31:11 · answer #1 · answered by mom of three 6yr,4yr& 18mth 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I got pregnant when my daughter was about 20 months old and she will be 2 and a half when her sister is born. I thought that was a good age but now I am sort of regretting it. I wish I would have waited until my daughter was potty trained to get pregnant, so about 3ish. That way when the new baby comes my daughter will be going to preschool and I'll have some "down time" during the day... When I say down time I mean some time with only one child haha. Not really down time though! Everybody has different opinions on what a good age difference between siblings is so you have to do what you feel you're ready for. If you're ready for another one, go for it. I also agree with the person who said you're never financially ready for children. There's always something that needs paid off, a mortgage or rent that needs paid, etc. We weren't exactly financially ready for our first when we had her either and everything worked out and we don't have tons of money now either but everything is going to be fine. Our little girl is very excited about her new baby sister coming. Good luck!!
2007-06-24 10:08:30 · answer #2 · answered by BDiPaolo413 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Rachael,
It is very true that you are never really ready for a new baby. I am expecting my 3rd now and the only one we planned for was the 2nd child. However you will make room for them as if they were always there! Plus having two has been wonderful, they play together very nicely and really enjoy each other (they are about 4 years apart) if you want another baby then go for it! They are blessings & you will be just fine as you were with your son. Good luck!
2007-06-24 10:05:41 · answer #3 · answered by Rosie 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you may want to wait a little longer, so you only have one in daiperas by the time the baby comes, since thats typically the bigest expense. But yes, you are really never "ready" for a baby, but it doesn't mean you shouldn't have another! Girl or boy, a baby is a blessing to a family that wants it!!!
2007-06-24 09:58:06 · answer #4 · answered by parental unit 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
i have 3 kids and they're all 18 months apart i do agree with whomever said you're never financially ready if you feel as if you can handle it then go for it i actually want a 4th child it's all a matter on if you and your mate is ready
2007-06-24 09:55:20 · answer #5 · answered by nightryder28 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Things always work themselves out. If you want another child, then go for it. It is so amazing watching your kids interact with each other. Don't wait to long. You don't want them to be to far apart in age. My kids are 10 months apart, wasn't planned, but it is so great seeing them play with eachother. Good luck.
2007-06-24 10:18:15 · answer #6 · answered by Tired-Mom 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are right, having another baby does not really cost anymore than having the first. your first will probably be potty trained before the second gets here so that won't be an issue (two in diapers) we did okay and when we had our 3rd, it turned out to be twins and had 3 in diapers and did fine.
our first two are 3 years apart and had i to do it over again, they would be closer!
my advice is, go for it! i didn't notice any cost difference between one and two.
2007-06-24 10:05:03 · answer #7 · answered by Havanah_A 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
hi dearie!.. sorry but i beg to differ.. please do not bring another child into this world if u even suspect u might not be able to pay for his/her college fees and marriage.. because my parents are unable to and i shall be frank with you, i do feel sore about it because all the other kids in school have got parents who can afford to get them the nicer things in life!!.. i mean.. u R blessed with a wonderful baby boy, am I right?.. please invest all your time energy effort and finances to bring him up to a good position in life.. and when I say, a "good" position in life.. i mean educating him and giving him all that he ever needs (not wants). Do not listen to the rest of the answers!! Listen to the point of view of a daughter/son, not the parent trying to conceive for the first time.
This really is NOT your first time honey. 1 is adequate to keep you company for life.
Gud Luk!!
2007-06-24 12:32:40 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
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2016-09-28 09:49:51 · answer #9 · answered by teresa 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well my son is 22 months and my daughter is now 11 months, so i know what you are asking and yes it is OK and can be done, but it is not easy and you will need lots of support from your husband and other friends and family, and actually we are trying for number 3!
2007-06-24 09:59:57 · answer #10 · answered by Tactical Medic 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋