Question for people above 35 please!?

Question

I am a music teacher and went to see my new colleague at the school I will be leading music at next year, she seemed to be impossible already on the phone 2 days ago, when I met her today my fears were justified, she speaks non-stop and never gives me a chance to get a word in edgeways, when i try to ask her to concentrate on one thing she just keeps on talking, it took me 2 hours to get the information I was trying to get from her, that would have taken no longer than 30 minutes with a normal human being, I realize this is a horrible thing to say but I feel I am going to be so tired with her next year, what am I going to do!!!!!!!!!!!!!??????????????????????

Answer 1

I know this may sound easy but its not. First she may be very nervous and talking fast is her way of showing it. Try keeping that in mind at first. I,m a trainer at work and when I,m with a fast talker I slow them down by slowing down myself. Talk slower and more deliberately and she may follow your lead. Give yourself a chance to form at least a working relationship with this person and she may surprise you. Also see if you can communicate allittle by email to shorten some conversations as if maybe you've forgotten to ask for some information. Otherwise good luck. Just so you know I'm 40.

Answer 2

This isn't an opportunity to confront someone and tell them they talk too much. It will simply cause the person to shut down all together and hinder the entire thinking process. A person that talks alot has something to say. In my perspective this is an excellent opportunity for you to develop active listening skills. As a teacher you should know that people never stop learning. This might be your chance to take advantage of a situation that you have never faced and gain further insight and experience from the difficult task. Use what experience and education you have previously acquired to manipulate your talkative pupil and the opportunity to actively articulate clear boundaries and lessons.

Good Luck!

Answer 3

Wear a hearing aid once in a while so she gets used to it, then when she starts rambling on and on ask her to speed it up because the batteries are low. That probably won't work so at some point you'll have to tell her you've got a problem with her manner of communication.

Answer 4

Just pray it was jitters from meeting you for the first time. If the behavior continues after the school year begins, you will be forced into having a little heart to heart talk with her about the incessant chattering and getting nothing done.

Answer 5

Just tell her you do not "Chit Chat" while you are at work. You need to concentrate. She should catch on or you may just have to bring up the subject of talking to much.

Do not room with her.

E mail her to ask questions. It might be better than in person.

Good Luck.

Answer 6

Just take a deep breath. Smile and if she still gets on your nerves, tell her to shut the f#ck up. I work in retail, and people treat me like total crap all day long. I find I turn into a better person when I smile and breathe and let them talk. Don't take anything personal. If that still doesn't work...go to a happy place. Like a foreign land where you can snap her neck like a twig and get away with it :) metaphorically speaking, of course.

Answer 7

Learn to tune her out half way and just listen to pertinent info. Also, learn the power of memos to get your point across-and have a copy that you did.

Answer 8

Be honest with your collegue in a very gentle way and maintain your boundaries.

Answer 9

Tell her how you feel. Plain and simple, succinct and to the point. Tell her to be consciously aware of how much she yammers on and that it is irritating.

Answer 10

Have her "taken care of".