my husband said if i hit him he also can hit me.i think he is bad because he always shouting on me .?

Answer 1

Oh No! That's not good at all! You better make sure you have a back up plan if it gets to that! Have plenty numbers to call in case of an emergency. Keep numbers of friends, police, and domestic violence shelters.... as a last resort. You never know when a man is talking if he is serious or not! Be safe!!!!

Answer 2

dear martyr wife,

a man should never hit a woman, unless he is near to snap.
so once he hits you, you start evaluating everything.
be cautious especially if you got children, cause there are lot of cases going on that went to extreme wrong act.

on your part, you also have no right to hit your husband in just a heated argument.
that what makes a human being different from the beast in the forest.

it is not normal that your husband is always shouting at you.
confront him, ask him what is his problem?

then discuss what is the best solution.
don't let the shouting situation goes on forever.

if he wants some space to ease up, then give him.
sometime too much nagging force men to be so sensitive.
other cause maybe pressure in life.

bottom-line is communication and openness to one another is the best remedy.

hope this would help both of you.

live a life that is full of joy cause it is too short.

Answer 3

Neither of you should be hitting each other, but I encountered this situation with a gal I used to know. She enjoyed smacking him around when they were fighting and he finally got enough of it and ended up giving her a pretty good smacking of her own. She was going around trying to get everyones sympathy because he had "beat her". Well she approached the wrong person when she came to me. I told her that by beating on him she had stepped up and put herself in a man's place and he had every right to defend himself and that she got what she had asked for and that I had no sympathy for her. If you can't resolve your issues without hitting, then the relationship is doomed. Not to mention someone needs counceling. And I sure hope you two don't have any children witnessing this. That would be truly dispicable.

Answer 4

Listen....I am a firm believer of keep your hands to yourself as well. Verbal abuse is just as bad as physical abuse. You don't need to be with any one that puts you down or thinks putting his hands on you is a form of "love". You can do bad by yourself. Because this is your husband, maybe you two should seek spirtual counseling. Or maybe put aside time for each other like an hour or two per week to discuss how the relationship can become better and more stable. A healthy relationship is the key.

Answer 5

Just me, but it seems as though everyone is jumping the gun cause you didn't give enough information. Honestly, I feel the same way as him...if you threatened to hit him first and his response was that he would hit you back...i don't think the problem is him. If you threatened him with violence first...YOU have the problem. If you hit me, i would put you to the ground. Not because I'm abusive, I've never hit anyone but my brothers ever. Its simply that if you escalate violence to a physical level expect the same.

If you brought this on to him, its not fair to hold his response to your violence against him. He may have just said that as a deterant. Women can and are abusive just as men can and are.

That aside: His yelling can be a form of abuse. Verbal abuse is a problem and something you need to discuss with him outside of a fight. If he can't learn to control himself then leave it.

Answer 6

You are an idiot if you hit him, and he is a pig if he hits you.

You are provoking him at the very least and his is dangerous if he has hit you.

You have REAL issues here. Someone, either one of you, needs to get control and cool things down.

Can you get some professional counseling? I would suggest it. Anytime that violence is possible, it is a dangerous situation.

Answer 7

Neither of you should hit each other. As far as shouting, I don't know why he is shouting or if he has a valid reason for raising his voice.

Answer 8

Your husband is bad news. Get out while the getting is good. A man that openly tells you that he will hit you if you hit him is giving a threat. Why would you hit him anyway?

Answer 9

its true he can hit you,but hes not such a good man if he would do that and you hould not be hitting him also . as for him screaming at you all the time why do you stay with him he is abussive .

Answer 10

I'm young and i asked a question something like this one but different have u seen 'Whats Love Got To Do With It' u have to leave before it gets worse!