Eleven years ago I adopted my son out to my daughters teacher and have regreted it ever sense, do I just leave it alone and hope he contacts me someday ???
2007-06-24 07:45:21 · 8 answers · asked by jdydewing 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
its in your heart to do whatyou feel is the best for the child you gave away but what ever you do you will not be able to take back so think about it with an open heart and remember why you gave him away in the first olace . your heartis hurting so find it in your prayers to forgive your self and move on or forgive your self and go talk to the women you gave the child and ask her what and how she would feel about it
2007-06-24 07:55:50 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, sadly, yes you should probably leave it alone. I know it must be very hard, but there's really nothing else you could do to make anything better. I'm sure he's happy with his adoptive parents and will probably, once he's a older, try to contact you. Just know that deep down, you did the right thing. You probably had to give him up because of whatever situation you had at home, and it's a good thing he didn't have to go through it.
2007-06-24 14:53:28 · answer #2 · answered by Bats 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I agree with the other answerers on this one. You made the decision to give up your parental rights at the time of the adoption. It would not do anyone any good to pursue this at this time.You would be contacting him for selfish reasons of your own and not for his best interest. You need to be comforted by knowing that you are the birth mom and you always will be and nothing can change that. We all have regrets we need to live with and accept in our lives.
I would suggest that you seek counseling to help you deal with your feelings regarding this situation.
I do think it would be a good idea to put your name on a list so that if he chooses to search for you at some point in his life,he can find you easily.
2007-06-24 15:26:27 · answer #3 · answered by zoya 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Choosing adoption is an honorable thing. I'm sorry that you feel regret, but there is nothing that you can legally do about it if it was a "closed" adoption. I hope that you find peace in your decision somehow and that he will eventually contact you if he wants to. Take care and God bless.
2007-06-24 14:51:56 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
the best thing is too leave him alone for now,in time it will be explained too him how he was adopted,and it was for all the right reasons,,,,good luck to you xxx
2007-06-24 14:56:29 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You gave up your rights, I think, until he is an adult. Then you can try to contact him, but I think you can't do it until then. However consult with a lawyer.
2007-06-24 14:51:24 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
go to perant finder in the city of birth and tell them you want to put your name one the list so if your son ever want to see you he can i wish i could see my birth mother befor i die.
2007-06-24 14:54:24 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
leave him alone till he is grown... you did that- now let it be
2007-06-24 14:50:51 · answer #8 · answered by bronzebabekentucky 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋