Has anyone ever been in a doomed marriage and then became pregant and you felt it gave you a 2nd chance to try and save your marriage?
2007-06-24 07:16:55 · 19 answers · asked by Jem 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Well thanks for everyones imput. It was just a question, not taken from personal experience.
2007-06-24 07:51:04 · update #1
Never have a baby in a shakey marriage..it is the end of the marriage, period. Babies are hard enough on a sound marriage.
2007-06-24 07:20:09 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
A baby will not save your marriage, it only adds stress. You will have less time to spend with each other. Not only will you continue to have the same problems you did before, but you will now be running on little or no sleep. Plus, you will have doctor's appointments, diaper changes, feedings, worries, and a crying baby in the middle of the night when you would normally be sleeping or having sex. Strengthen your marriage and then have a baby. You don't want the baby to pay the price when you continue to argue after the birth. And you definitely don't want the baby to go through a divorce.
2007-06-24 07:22:16 · answer #2 · answered by Tiffany L 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Babies should not be a reason to try and save a marriage. You should only have a baby when the marriage is very stable.
2007-06-24 07:19:47 · answer #3 · answered by RedRabbit 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think having a baby will save your marraige... It may seem to help for awhile, but is it going to solve the underlying problems you and your husband must have? I would not bring a child into a bad marriage that would not be fair to the child.
Good Luck
2007-06-24 07:27:56 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No and I wouldn't advise anyone else to try it either. Don't purposely bring another life into this world for the sake of a marriage. Bring another life because its the right time and thing to do. Children don't save marriages, husband and wife does.
2007-06-24 07:25:56 · answer #5 · answered by pappysgotitgoinon 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In a bad marriage, I sure wouldn't take that chance. If it doesn't work you will be alone with a baby to raise by yourself and financially. It most likey wouldn't help anyway.
Hold off on that. A child needs to be born into a loving marriage. It wouldn't be fair to the child.
2007-06-24 07:23:28 · answer #6 · answered by lana s 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Let me tell you this, for me having his baby didn't make a difference at all, here is why I can say this. I have five children and four different fathers, didn't change anything. A man can have a baby by any woman. I thought it would help, just like you do. One of the fathers of my child went and had another woman and five children by her, and even named their son after the father same as our son. Now an't that a B......... So I know how you must feel, I been there, Ive done that.
2007-06-24 07:34:20 · answer #7 · answered by catira1953 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A child will not save a marriage, in fact - it tends to complicate things. Children are a blessing, but they don't fix marital problems.
2007-06-24 07:36:36 · answer #8 · answered by just a mom 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As for me NOPE..........
it just reuined my marriage.....
my ex wife asked for a divorce once she got the baby because she could now ask for child support which includes housing and vehicle and other expenses of life.... :(
but don't count on anything to save your marriage but you and your spouse that's all what counts
2007-06-24 07:22:26 · answer #9 · answered by jassemej 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its incredibly selfish to intentionally get pregnant and bring a baby into a marriage that is already teetering on disaster. If you are going to bring anyone into that situation, please make it a therapist you and your husband can see to try and work on your marriage. Children should never be a game piece. Good luck! :)
2007-06-24 07:31:12 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋