Sexuality, orientation, attraction.. What am I?

Question

My whole life I was deeply attracted to girls, any cute girl that showed me attention would cause me to be infatuated with her. I fell in love with a girl my senior year of high school and had a great relationship, sex was great. Then we went to different colleges and we broke up, I was heartbroken for about 6 months. I'm about to be a junion in college and still haven't dated anybody else (I might add that this girl loved me, was gorgeous , and got a full scholarship to duke... so nobody else has come up to par with her) About 5 months ago I was masturbating and saw a shirtless guy and had a panic attack because I thought I liked it. I lived in depression for the next 6 weeks or so, and ever since then my attraction to girls just hasnt been the same. I have started to recognize guys as being good looking, yet have had no real attraction to any. Can you turn gay? Or is this low libido?I showered with guys in high school
and never was slightly turned on. HELP!

I am a guy and I am COMPLETELY over my ex

Also, I have always been more shy to girls than guys, I have a lot of really good friends that are guys and are good looking, yet i havent had a desire to do anything sexual with them/ date them or what not...

Wow, you all are amazing.. Over half of you guys hit it on the head.. I would never have sex/date a guy, thanks you all for taking your time to read my story!

Answer 1

Do what comes natural for you.

As humans, we are all sexual beings. By extension, each of us has a sexual orientation: an enduring attraction — be it sexual, romantic, emotional or affectional — to another person. Sexual orientation, however, varies from one individual to the next and exists on a continuum that ranges from exclusive homosexuality to exclusive heterosexuality. Between these two poles, there exist various forms of bisexuality.

It?s unclear why some people are attracted to people of the same sex — also referred to as having "same-sex feelings" or a "same-sex orientation". It's thought sexual orientation is likely the result of complex interactions of a number of factors — cognitive, environmental, and biological.

Sexual orientation is different from sexual behavior: sexual orientation refers to feelings and to self-concept. People may — or may not — express their sexual orientation in their behaviors.

So, these interactions of cognitive, environmental, and biological factors mean that sexual orientation is shaped at an early age?
In most people, yes, and their sexual orientation emerges in early adolescence. What's more, there's also considerable evidence to suggest that genetic and hormonal factors play a key role in shaping a person's sexuality.

People do not choose to be either gay or straight.

The bottom line
The origins of sexual orientation are very complex. There are likely many reasons for a person's sexual orientation. These reasons may be different for different people. Some people who identify as gay, lesbian, or bisexual say they have always felt attracted to members of the same sex while others claim they became aware of these feelings during adolescence or early adulthood

Answer 2

No, you can't turn gay. I'm guessing you're a guy (because you're freaking out).

Recognize that all humans have a slight attraction towards the same sex. I'm sorry if this freaks you out. Are you gay now? No. Confused? Deinfitely.

There's nothing wrong with thinking a guy is good looking when you're one yourself. This is the first step towards having an open mind. Now, if you think you're gay imagine having sex with him. Can you? If you said yes that still doesn't mean you're gay because you might only have a sexual attraction towards him. If you can see yourself dating a guy and having romantic feelings, then you might be bi-sexual (and there's nothing wrong with that).

Answer 3

It sounds like you appreciate attractiveness in any form--doesn't necessarily mean you're gay. You were in the midst of an intimate act and reacted to something that generally is a sign of sexuality. Your attraction to girls isn't the same because you're being mopy about your lost love and even you admitted that no one could hold a candle to her. So, naturally, your mind is shifting to attempt to make sense of your "experience". Don't worry about it--many guys notice whether another of the same sex is good looking, as do women. It's our natural way of sizing up competition and thinking of ways to improve our own attractiveness by looking for examples. Much the same way as looking through a magazine for a new haircut or makeover. Don't dwell on it. Go about your normal daily activities.

Answer 4

naw man
we're just curious as people and we will consider all kinds of possibilities
you probably could turn gay if you wanted to, a lot of people could if placed in different type of situations
but you don't have to
talk to some women and get over this chick and you'll see
you're probably just confused right now
attraction is a vague things, there are elements of the male physique that are similar to females
I've seen guys that I thought were chicks and were hot until I learned they were dudes
could you really get with a guy? probably not, right
just go talk to some women

Answer 5

I think this just means you are bi-curious. You are startled by the fact that the opposite sex might be appealing but, this does not mean you are gay. You are probably still so upset over losing this girl and since you haven't been able to compare anyone to her, your mind has started to wander to other options. Again, this doesn't make you gay. If anything, just curious.

Answer 6

Oh honey, don't worry. Everyone goes through a stage where they think they might be gay. Its nothing, Growing up we experience difference things to distinguish if we like it or not, foods, drink, smoking, sex. try not to let it worry you, it doesn't sound like you're gay at all. Being able to look at a guy and see him as attractive (not by you but generally) just shows how comfortable you are with your sexuality. Don't worry, you're perfectly fine

Answer 7

You cant turn gay, but every straight guy thinks their gay at least one point in their lives and it can happen for a number of reasons. One could be that your jealous of them for their looks and your just attracted to them because you want to look like them (since it happened when you saw a shirtless guy you could of been jealous of his body). Its just a theory, but your probably not gay since it was a one time thing.

Answer 8

What happened to you sounds normal to me. Everybody has
slight bisexual tendencies, thats ok. Just the fact that you liked the sight of a shirtless guy doesnt make you gay.

Answer 9

Having homosexual feelings and depression go hand in hand, and people change orientations all the time.

Get over the depression, get back your self esteem and get back on track with the ladies.

Answer 10

you are letting your grief get the better of you. if you enjoyed your girl so much, I very much doubt you are gay, I think it more likely that you are so terribly lonely that just about anything would arrouse you at this point. You are only human. Get out, get active and stop worrying about it.