2007-06-24 06:52:27 · 28 answers · asked by kellitwigg 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
That means that there are deeper issues here..talk to her and go find a marriage counselor..try everything you can to repair things and if after all that it doesn't work out, get a divorce first. ..specially if children are involved
2007-06-24 06:57:22 · answer #1 · answered by JustMe 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
So many women say talking will cure it.
Now, I agree that a spouse should be informed as to someone's intention to cheat, since that is a unilateral decision that should be shared info instead. And yes some men lose their romance and passion side and that makes sex more strained.
But - Newsflash - talking does next to nothing else. What woman do you **honestly** know is going to sit there and be completely logical and listen to his list of complaints of "WelI I simply want it more often" and suddenly go, "Oh my god honey, you are so right here get this stuff off the kitchen counter we are going to do it right here"?
If you were honest you*know* that talking does one thing - lets people talk. How many of you come on here and say "Well I've *told* him 300 million times and nothing has changed"? Because it's just words. It solves so little. Be honest ladies - low or diminished sex drive - WHATEVER the cause, needs action, not just words, words, and more words.
2007-06-24 14:21:20 · answer #2 · answered by salacious_crumb 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Do you still love your wife? If so, the best thing to do if you want some good luvin is to rekindle the fire. Romancing a woman is the one way to get us to give in. Plan a nice evening with candles, soft music, massages (for each other), a bath together ... make sure to tell her how much you love her and shower her with complements about how she turns you on. That is totally what gets most of us girls going! And if you give her that once, just bring it up again the next time you want it (whisper in her ear "remember that night we ...") and the memories will return.
Or get her drunk :)
If you really don't love her anymore and are looking for something else besides her, that's a whole different story. But don't cheat. It will just bring too much drama into your life and hers.
2007-06-24 13:57:59 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
How come you can share your feelings with a bunch of strangers but are happy to keep your wife in the dark? if there is any love and respect left in your marriage then talk about how you feel, sounds like she may be equally unhappy. get things out in the open, it's the lies that make break ups difficult. if after working things through theres no way to stay together at least you can still have respect for each other and limit the emotional and financial damage. x
2007-06-24 14:02:46 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Either work WITH your wife to figure out where your problems and and try to resolve them, or get divorced.
You sound like you're looking for a cheap excuse to cheat, and that's shabby. If you want to have sex elsewhere, be a man and be honest and get a divorce first. Don't sit there and use the excuse "it's her fault" to try to make it ok that you want to cheat on her. If you cheat on her, YOU ARE THE CHEAT... YOU ARE TO BLAME FOR IT... NOT YOUR WIFE.!!!
No matter what loving she doesn't give you, she's not to blame for your cheating! YOU are!
2007-06-24 13:58:36 · answer #5 · answered by Nedra E 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Communication is the key. You need to tell her that she's not making you feel loved and you need her to express interest in you. Cheating is definitely not the way to go about it. However, if she is unresponsive to what you're saying, you can try counseling. If that still doesn't work, then you two probably need to be with other people. Think about it: Cheating= 30 minutes of pleasure...but it will lead to DIVORCE and half of your things are gone. Make a smart decision, not one with your *you know what*.
2007-06-24 14:10:09 · answer #6 · answered by allison s 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well, I don't know what you mean...if there is no love, why are you still married...please don't say because of the kids...worst excuse you can come up with. If YOU cheat, you will never again trust your wife..that comes with the package. If that is the kind of life you want to live, then go for it. But, for sure, the first one to loose trust is always the cheater...strange game but always true. Good luck and peace.
2007-06-24 13:56:16 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
Sweety, have u talked with your wife? Let her know how your feeling and what you need. Don't do anything drastic, esp if you have children together (not sure if you do). You made a vow to this women for better or worse...talk things out, talk with a counselor, or maybe a sex expert. Do something, but don't cheat!
2007-06-24 14:02:14 · answer #8 · answered by Shells 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
crossing the line is something you can never take back,explain to her how you are feeling let her know she is pushing you away that you need her and if she needs you she had better take the time to have a serious discussion and work things out tell her exactly how you feel and that you are on the verge of messing up think long and hard dont ruin something for a fling that wont last
2007-06-24 14:21:37 · answer #9 · answered by loveChrist 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont cheat its not worth it you could get something you
dont want just get a divorce but whats the reason you
want to cheat anyways and why did you marry
if you did not love her thats not fair to her think about what
your gone to do is there kids involved have you talked
to her about the problem
2007-06-24 14:00:35 · answer #10 · answered by annette l 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋