Boundaries we all set them to protect ourselves.?

Question

They are mental, emotional, or physical that define or limit the area in which one is willing to be present. Can they be used also to hurt us in someway??In the sense of our growth as Human beings give me some good examples in your own life good or bad thanks :))

Answer 1

Boundaries, as you describe then, are only necessary if one believes that they can or will be hurt.

You cannot hurt me. I will never personalize anything that you do to me.

I propose that boundaries are issues of responsibility. What is my responsibility and what is your responsibility. Boundaries emerge to allow others to take care of themselves and the "I" to take care of the self.

Answer 2

Boundaries are key. Ones personal space is and by and large a touchy area. What I feel we all must do--if one chooses to call it that, is to decide whether we wish to share of lives with another human being. In the event the answer is "yes", then boundaries: mental, emotional, or physical that define or limit the area in which one is willing to be present are the main ingredient for a successful relationship. Intimacy is of course a whole other issue beyond the purview of this discourse.

Answer 3

The body has natural boundaries that we dont control and mental boundaries. Our nervous system prevents us from lifting heavy things. If you have ever ran faster when you are scared then that is because your nervous system is letting go a bit so you can get get away. You can also lift alot more than you can normally when you are scared. The nervous system is there to protect the body and the more you train it the more it lets go. If you get scared and the nervous system lets go you can break your own bones because your muscles are that strong.
Mentally we know we dont want to jump off a cliff because we wont be safe. This can be bad if it makes you back out at the last minute. If you go for it and back out you could land half way, if you know what i mean.

Answer 4

Yes... you are absolutely right.

Boundaries that we create give us a semblance of certainty in the world full of uncertainties. In other words, we are creating limits so as to have a finite scope of coverage and control. The boundaries we create serve another purpose..... namely that of creating a separate identity which is essential to satisfy our ego. If we think deeply about it, ego is protected by drawing various boundaries around ourselves, because ego as such is the root cause for the ever present sense of insecurity we suffer from.

Once again, another Star question from you... great!!