when I invite a friend over. she HAS to hang out with her. Then she tells me to get lost. Here's a story. For our end of the year trip our school went to a water park. So i was going with 2 other girls. So we get in and we head over to the best ride. so where done with it. and walking. And then my twin ditches her group and comes with us. Now these two girls didn't like her so they left me with her. it was the worst day
2007-06-24 06:17:27 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Change your style and looks, and make your own friends and do things with them without your sister. Being a twin does not mean you have to share everything.
2007-06-24 06:20:49 · answer #1 · answered by Common Sense 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is your sister, she's more important than your friends. I will tell you what I told my daughters, also twins. This is the person who shared your birth and will share your life with you, like it or not. It sucks that you didn't get to be alone, but that's the way it is. When your mom and dad die years and years from now, you will be alone with each other. At some point in time you will realize that if you don't learn to get along, you will always have a part missing.
None of this will mean much to you now, but later on it will. You will probably not have some nice Kate and Ashley fantasy relationship, but you will have a time come that you realize that your sister is your strongest ally.
Until then, get your priorities straight.
2007-06-24 13:40:20 · answer #2 · answered by tjnstlouismo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok im not a twin but i have friends who are. they experience the same problems that u r. for an example, one got upset because at the dance she was dancing with a boy that she liked and she got all jealous about it. DRAMA!!! but pretty soon they both realized how stupid the whole thing had been. just try talking to ur sister about how u feel about the whole thing. thats what they did and it worked. but if that doesnt work 4 u then talk 2 ur parents and if that doesnt work try talking 2 ur friends. if they r real friends they will listen 2 u and understand how u feel. and if they cant except that time 2 find some new friends. but 2 tell u the truth it sounds 2 me like ur sister is totally jealous of u. i mean c'mon its kinda obvious if she has 2 steal ur friends just 2 get friends. talk about being pathetic!!
2007-06-24 15:25:15 · answer #3 · answered by Caroline 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like she wants to be the dominant, more popular twin. She's competing with you. When you have friends over, your Mom needs to make it clear with twin that this is your hangtime with your friends and she can go somewhere else or stay in her room, but she's not invited. Likewise, you have to give her space when she's with her friends (even if they happen to be your friends).
I hope you girls work this out. High school was great for me because my best friends were a pair of twins and my little sister (who could pass as my twin). We did everything together and had lots of fun.
2007-06-24 13:25:35 · answer #4 · answered by TX Mom 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like your twin doesn't have a life of her own. This might change in High School. In the meantime, meet your friends at their houses and tell her how you feel about her hanging around with you all the time and tell her you need your space. Can your parents help?
2007-06-24 13:23:11 · answer #5 · answered by curiouscanadian 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
She is mixing with the group,"school trip" She propbably wants to be like you,but its not that obvious,And maybe ur friends think she is just cool,u take it so serious*no ofence* and while ur twin is just talking genral and u think she is taking ur friends,Maybe u should smile and accpet ur twin and do the same like she does
In the end,girls r biotchs and they will always fight over boys,so when ur older lik maybe 18 then u all be fine with each other.
2007-06-24 13:25:58 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
okay i'm a twin too. and your sister really isn't been a good sister or a friend you really need to work out bondaries and tell her how you feel if she just ignores you, you should talk to your friends tell them how it feels to be a twin sometimes it can be hard i know i'm 13 and find that sometime my sister can be such a pain but there surley be some good times you've had together. she shouldn't be ditching her friends either. good luck
2007-06-24 13:28:09 · answer #7 · answered by myjustsoquestion 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i am a twin too, and had a similar problem.. i kept making friends, my sister kept stealing them from me..
then i learned she was not stealing, them.. we could both be friends with them, and so can you.
just tell your sister not to scare them away, or if taht doesn't work simply tell her she is not allowed to go with when you make plans with your friends.
maybe she is just jealous and this could be fixed if you talked to her and tell her how you really feel.
good luck! it is kinda hard to have a twin!
2007-06-24 13:24:53 · answer #8 · answered by alexandra 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i am a twin
there is always one more dominat than the other , sounds like your sister like mine is the dominant one
keep your friends to yourself , dont allow them to even meet her , she will do this all your lives , be picky choose friends that are loyal to you
you will learn how to deal with it better as you get older
good luck .
i know exactly how you feel
2007-06-24 13:23:24 · answer #9 · answered by Karl 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I will tell her i need to talk to you.Then you sit her down and tell her what's the problem.
2007-06-24 14:10:04 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋