So now he's moved to the spare bedroom ... what's next?

Question

Further to my question yesterday about signing legal documents I hadn't gotten a chance to read.

http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index;_ylt=Ar_D1BejdDShea9ozXwm4gPty6IX?qid=20070623131735AAllfHv

I stood my ground and told him I wouldn't sign anything I hadn't read, and that even after reading it I may not sign it at all.

When he finally got home last night, he went up to our bedroom and removed all his clothing to the spare room and all his stuff from the onsuite bathroom to the one downstairs.

Time to see a lawyer huh? Or should I wait and let him make the first move ... this state takes into consideration things such as abandonment of the marriage and fault in general ...

Any advice?

Answer 1

Stand your ground and sit back and watch. He's digging a hole deeper every time he breathes. If your state takes all those things into consideration, play the good wife, do all the right things that keep a house together, and THEN, when he's had enough (which is coming soon) he'll make the move. If he starts sleeping in the other room, don't let him back into yours, he's probably been with someone else. You don't need issues like that on top of what is coming. Good luck.

Answer 2

When and if the real estate paper arrives, take it to a lawyer and have him explain to you what is going on.
Obviously though, your husband is a control freak. He doesn't like the legal rights that are there to protect you, a huge red flag.
Let him sulk in the spare room all he likes.
You just keep your ducks in a row and protect other finances, because he may be plotting to drain bank accounts or go crazy with charge cards. If you see any sign of activity like that, (or maybe before you see signs of activity like that)cancel the credit cards that are in both your names. You can legally do that without his approval!
Better make sure that you know where ALL the money is, and if he continues with this behavior, get a lawyer and get assets frozen before he does anything sneaky.
Definitely he needs your signature to take a new mortgage out on the house, because you own half of it, hence the remark about "prenuptual agreement" which is that he regrets that he didn't make you sign one...more signs of a control freak.

Answer 3

I think I would show one more card before I lay them all down! Tell him that you are going to have an attorney friend look at this document before you sign it. Tell him what you think, that this is a prelude to divorce. No one is saying the word, but both know that it is there. I would also tell him that if this is a prelude to divorce that he will lose big time! Tell him also that since most activity that is this covert is a cover up for an affair, that he had better cut it off now before "you" file! If he starts freaking out, then you know you've hit a nerve and he has cheated. There is no need to take the original, just make copies and "do" let an attorney look at it.

Answer 4

If your husband is this rigid about you signing a paper concerning your home and doesn't want you to read it first.... Then refuse no matter what, as hes up to something and it cant be a good thing. What if he is trying to get a loan, then divorce taking this money with him and trying to get you to pay somehow for it? Tell him that you under no circumstances will sign this paper without the attorney (of your choice) taking a look at it first. Even then I wouldn't put full faith into your husband. Something is up his sleeve. Just my opinion.

Answer 5

No, definately don't sign it at this point, and I would STRONGLY urge you to take the document when it arrives with you to an attorney to discuss the situation and the documents... I would tell hubby that his behaviors aren't helping to put you at ease and that frankly, with the way he's acting you can't trust his motives. Ask him if he's moving toward a divorce? It sure looks that way from here, sorry this is definately not looking good. If you want to try to save your marriage, you definately need to open communication with him about what's going on (not saying you're not trying, I'm sure you are, but 2 divorces behind me, I can see the writing on the wall.)

Answer 6

Let me tell you chick! From exprience let it go! Don't look for him to make a move. He sent you the papers, you read them first; my advice he has a lawyer now its time for you to get a lawyer! It's better not to be scorned. Let him go. No love lost and if you more to give you will find it else where! I hope everything goods well for you. Keep your head up!!!

Answer 7

#1don't sign unless you take it to a laywer and find out what it means. your laywer, not his.
#2 it doesn't matter wether or not you said something about signing a pre nup. it wasn't signed and you're already married.
#3 watch out for a post nup. this could be what he's up to.
#4 his moving into the spare room is probably a ploy to get his way-don't fall for it.
#5 depending on what he's trying to pull, it may be time to see a laywer anyway,
good luck to you.

Answer 8

I would definitely see a lawyer and ensure you are protected. Are both yur names on the property deed? I hae heard where one spouse actually had someone else sign documents.

As far as him moving out of your bedroom that sounds kind of childish to me. Not very mature.

Answer 9

Let him go. Wait for him to make the move. You just love him - not a feeling but an act. You'd be surprised what a man would do when he suddenly finds out he has a wife that he wont find anywhere else. :)

Answer 10

He probably trying to pull a fast on.... my mates ex did thsi just before they got divorced tried to get him to sign half house etc over.... i said not to ... next she was found to be having an affair...

he may not be but read first and ask where the land is and why he not talked about it.....