Good girl or bad?

Question

Ok, so I am a preacher's kid and I am usually known as the good girl, the low maintenance girl. Which don't get me wrong is not a bad description but I am getting tired of doing the same old thing of wearing the same old clothes of being talked about as the girl who does everything right (which isn't exactly true but still...) Should I change? If so how would I?

Answer 1

OK...I'm a preacher's kid (31 yrs. old) and I totally. I am the oldest of four girls, and I was the perfect one. Do you realize how difficult it was to live up to those standards, especially when my other sister were living up to the old saying of preacher's children. I remained a virgin until I was 28, I never did drugs, never went to parties, never did anything and I felt like I missed out.

Once I dropped trying to live the life for my parents, true I made some mistakes, but I feel that helped me to grow as a person. I never turned my back on the church...as a matter of fact I'm in the ministry now but I am in another state enjoying life without the fear of disappointing my family.

You have to live your life for yourself, but know that whatever your upbringing could you remain true to your Savior by doing anything that would ultimately displease Him.

As I mentioned before, I have made some mistakes along the way...but remember the teachings you were given and remain true to what you feel is right. God will be pleased with your decision this way.

PS...Try a make-over, that's what I did and now I'm the transformed ugly duckling who gets alot of attention now! Good luck.

Answer 2

If I were you i would just go with what is me you dont have to be anything you dont want to be
and if its not true that you do everything right tell people how you feel
I dont suggest you can into a bad girl just do you and if you do choose to be a bad girl good luck because then people will notice the change and will not look at you as the girl who follows her heart but as the girl who changes because she doesnt want to be known as what she is

hope you like my advice

Answer 3

I can't imagine why you would want to change...There's nothing wrong with being a good girl. It's refreshing to hear as a matter of fact. Lord knows there's plenty of bad ones out there. If it's peer pressure it's understandable, human nature will always want to pull you 'down' to their level rather than 'lift' themselves up to yours. You are on the right track, you may not understand now, but there will come the day when you will be so glad you stayed the 'good girl'...it definitely has its rewards.

Answer 4

It's hard being the good girl all the time but you don't want to be labeled the bad girl. Then guys just want one thing from you. Change your clothes, if you want to change something about yourself. Always respect yourself, then everyone else will also. Never be a follower, always be the leader. Good Luck!!

Answer 5

Being good is GREAT. It's harder to get good than to stay being good, let me tell you. I'm proud of people calling me a nerd lately. If you want to change your image, get a different style of clothing. Be unique in your fashion sense. Where camisoles instead of your regular old collared teeshirt. Get funky with your fashion. You'll still be known as the good girl, but you'll ALSO be known as they girl with fashion! Don't know how to change it up? Get some magazines like Girl's Life or Seventeen and look at what you like and don't. Mix it up. Fashion is a great way to funk things up a bit without getting in trouble.

Answer 6

There's nothing bad about being good. However, if you think your reputation is "boring", how much better would it be if your reputation was that of a "bad girl"? It's so easy to be bad, so hard to be good, that once you act badly, your reputation is forever soiled. You can be a good girl all your life and a "bad girl" for just one night, and you'll always be called a "bad girl" from that night on. By the way, guys "play" with bad girls, but want to marry the "good" ones. You want to be a toy? It's your choice, but be careful, because once you get dirty, you'll never really get clean.

Answer 7

you got to know what you think of your self, not what lables your given. If your not happy within yourself (not what others think) then start from the top and work down, hair is the best thing that you can change...Chop it and colour and then start by going in to a shop and as the clothing assistant to "dress me in something different!. This is where you dont say what you like or what you would normaly wear and let them put you in something wonderful even if you wouldnt see your self in it Good luck!

Answer 8

Listen, coming from the original bad girl herself, you need to start by asking yourself if you are comfortable with the way you are. If so, then stop worrying. If not, then you need to figure out why. Are you really suppressing the true demon inside of you? Is she waiting to burst through, stay out with random boys all night drinking? How OLD are you anyway? I am guessing a teen. So let's see, when I was 15 (not kidding either) I definitely started living the life of hedonism and debauchery. I'm not encouraging that behavior, unless you abhor religion,-and other stupid constructs of man-like I do.

Don't get me wrong now; I got EXCELLENT grades in school, and never touched a narcotic in my life (not even cigarettes) but that part of me was definitely just a show. Everyone needs to do what makes them happy, without harming others of course. So, go out and experiment. Don't dress like an unclassy skank, but accentuate your attributes. Trust me, guys LOVE women that dress classy! Start wearing make-up, but don't overdo it. And if you want to start dating guys, go ahead! But, don't put out too easily (not just yet anyway) or else you'll get a bad reputation early on...but I wanted that. And I got it! Which it also held up throughout high school, college and even now at 25. Anyway, only you can decide what direction you want your life to head in, so good luck! ~N

Answer 9

Hmm, I've always known the preacher's kids to be the bad ones. Why not break that stereotype by actually being 'the good girl'. ;-)

Answer 10

i'm sure that being a preachers daughter is hard sometimes, everyone expects you to be some kind of a role model. but don't worry about them, be yourself...love yourself. and let people know that you are just like them....human. you do the same things and make mistakes just like everyone else. people love to gossip and if they see you do one thing wrong they will talk....don't let it bother you...if any thing it should let you know who your real friends are. but don't change who you are.....God loves you the way you are.