2007-06-24 05:30:42 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Newborn & Baby
screams untill i pick him up
2007-06-24 05:37:52 · update #1
let him scream... the more you come back to reassure and comfort him, the more you put it in his head that he's in control and can make you come every time he feels like making you. it'll suck for a while, but it'll be easier than having to deal with it the first day of pre-school (or kindergarten) when that behavior is so deeply ingrained.
good luck, and remember it may take a while!
2007-06-24 05:35:14 · answer #1 · answered by * 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Louey, to be honest, you can't stop him from screaming. All you can do is teach him that screaming is a waste of energy and effort and that he shouldn't do it.
My experience with 4 kids is that after consulting with your pediatrician (ensuring that the child is fine), the whole family has to agree to the "rules" and follow them to the letter. My pediatrician simply told us to leave the baby every night in the crib, alone, and to let it cry and scream and rant and rave until it fell asleep. You already know the cry that means "I'm wet", so you only answer that cry, unless the baby starts faking it...(yes, they are very, very smart and manipulative). Three sleepless nights times 4 kids... but afterwards, we all slept fine... :-D
The other thing is not to threaten them with being alone... they need to feel that they are safe when alone in their room.
Nor should you tell them you'll be "right back" if its not true: you want them to trust what you tell them.
Of course, there are child psychologists that can help you, too, if you feel that there are other issues involved in the screaming problem.
Good luck!
2007-06-24 05:43:28 · answer #2 · answered by manperez 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Just keep in mind that this is a phase that is normal for babies to go through. I talk to my son from the other room, reassuring him that I'm coming back. I also wait a minute and then poke my head around the corner, playing peek-a-boo with him a few times, and that cheers him up. Kinda makes my leaving a game.
2007-06-24 08:20:50 · answer #3 · answered by des 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, when reading all of these responses, I hope these people don't have babies. Your son cries when you leave the room because he is feeling separation anxiety. You can not just let him cry this one out. You need to let him know that when you leave you will come back because what he thinks is that he just lost you for good. If you let him cry, it can cause problems later. The idea about putting a shirt that smells like you next to him is a good one, find a toy that he likes and keep it with him at all times. If you find nothing that works you're just going to have to keep taking him with you when you leave. This is something most children go through and ALL of them grow out of it.
2007-06-24 05:40:53 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
he's just having separation anxiety a little earlier that most kids......one of mine was like that.....i just kept a certain stuffed bear on hand at "convenience" that had the scent of my perfume on it. when i would have to leave the room for a few minutes i would give it to him, and he'd cry for a sec or two and then he was over it until the next time he would have an episode. it worked pretty slick, and didn't last long.
2007-06-24 07:14:24 · answer #5 · answered by karianna 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave the room more often. Talk to the child while youre in the other room. Dont rush in and pick him up because he's crying. Show him some toys or a tv program and let him calm down before you pick him up.
Otherwise you're confirming to him that he has a reason to panic and be upset because you left his sight.
2007-06-24 05:34:59 · answer #6 · answered by amosunknown 7 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Take him with you. Do not leave the room without your baby if he doesn't feel comfortable with that.
Buy a sling or make one, and carry him. If he can't see you, he is likely to be really freaked, specially if he has lost trust in your ability to be with him when he needs you already.
Listen to your babies cues, and follow them.
:D
2007-06-24 05:36:03 · answer #7 · answered by vegface 5 · 1⤊ 2⤋
your son is colic u pick him up way to much..u are gonna have to let him cry and cry till either he learns to soth himslef. try given him a nuk-turn on a mobile for sounds..good luck :)
2007-06-24 05:36:25 · answer #8 · answered by bubbles2421 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
It is just a phase they go though quite normal it will pass soon enough.
2007-06-24 05:37:13 · answer #9 · answered by scorpiotoo2000 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
if he doesent want anything let him scream for a minuteand see if he stops
2007-06-24 05:36:40 · answer #10 · answered by waddell26 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋