This question is not intended to offend, so please no nasty answers please. I'm sincere in asking.
Why do people feel as if they need to sign that piece of paper and enter into a contract?
Why can't people just live like Goldie and Kurt and just love each other forever without the contract?
2007-06-24 05:17:25 · 16 answers · asked by getusedtoit 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
No,
According to the feminist doctrine, Marriage makes slaves of women. If this is true then divorce makes slaves of men.
Marriage is broken.
If two people want to be together they don't need a ceremony or a piece of paper to prove it to the world, let alone inviting the state into their lives.
2007-06-24 05:28:14 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
This question is a Catch 22. I can honestly say a majority of marriages start out wrong in the first place that's why there are so many divorces also these same people have it in there mind that marriage should be easy no work involved. One issue is that unmarried couples don't get the breaks that married couples do like tax's etc....Also children can change things as well. Also the marriage contract is all about perception most parents are not thrilled about there children just living together they want the contract. Then there is the question if your relationship is so strong why not marry? It makes it look like your relationship is disposable at anytime.
2007-06-24 12:42:23 · answer #2 · answered by miester44 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You all talk about marriage making a relationship more secure. Well, I've been married and divorced twice. The relationships were no more secure than when we were dating. If one of the spouses is going to cheat, then, he or she will cheat. It's all about trusting each other and being open and honest with each other. True love doesn't cheat. What's the whole passage about love being kind.... I went to a wedding yesterday and the priest talked about what marriage is.. He's never been married, so, how does he know.. You can have all of this without the piece of paper. The piece of paper is just for the government anyway.... My two cents..
2007-06-24 12:46:26 · answer #3 · answered by Rainy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it is more than just a piece of paper. It symbolizes a deeper level of commitment and establishes rights more clearly. It seems like a more secure form of relationship. And if you are religeous at all, then it is the prescribed form of relationship. In some systems, you do not even need a piece of paper to enter into a contract of marriage. All you need is the intention and commitment and some witnesses to make it formal.
2007-06-24 12:35:16 · answer #4 · answered by The Sand Reckoner 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The young and the beautiful don't stay young and beautiful forever. People get sick. They get old. And they loose their sex appeal as they get older.
What's going to stop a guy from dumping his old, unattractive lady for a younger and more beautiful one?
And what's going to stop an attractive woman from trying to get as much money and possessions as possible from as many men as she can muster in order to have some financial security in old age?
When there is no binding promise to love each other in sickness and in health, in good times and in bad. Then neither the man nor the woman can feel secure and comfortable in their relationship. And with that insecurity, they need to behave in selfish ways in order to avoid possible hardship in the future.
Without any binding promises you can't have full commitment, trust, love, and security in a relationship between a man and a woman.
Of course, nowadays marriage promises don't mean much. People are free to divorce at a whim. And in this situation perhaps you are right. Empty promises don't mean anything. A business contract with a bank binds people more now than does their marriage contract with each other.
2007-06-24 12:40:08 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Different people view marriage differently. If you believe in God, it says it is a sin to live together without being married. Some feels the commitment is stronger when sealed with a contract. Whatever it is, there is no rule in this world that says you must sign the pappers. Its something between you and your partner. Why bother with what others are doing?
2007-06-24 12:25:48 · answer #6 · answered by Didi 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First, while some would say you should be institutionalized if you are thinking of marriage, it is the "institution of marriage", not the institute of marriage.
Although, reading these boards I think we need a Marriage Institute.
We have been married just over 25 years. Marriage is what you make it, it is a commitment just like any other you have in your life. If you treat it lightly, it will be a burden. If you invest in it, trust it, live within its boundaries -- it will generate great value.
2007-06-24 15:06:42 · answer #7 · answered by Raster T 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I never felt that I 'needed' to go through the marriage ceremony (including 'signing the piece of paper.') We have done so because we WANTED to do so. Even despite all the legal aspects of working out so called 'common law' relationships, it is simply a matter of 'wanting' to be married. It's a personal choice and we certainly have no problem with those who don't. As I said, we wanted to.
(I am purposefully leaving out mention of the 'faith' based answer. Even when taken into account, marriage is still a personal choice)
2007-06-24 12:26:23 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Marriage affords guarantees that just living together doesn't. Such as the title of next of kin, inheritance rights, insurance benefits, and respect. Yes, being someone's spouse gains more respect than being someone's GF/BF.
What do Goldie and Kurt have that the majority of us don't? Money.
2007-06-24 12:47:03 · answer #9 · answered by Poppet 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
The problem these days is the fact people see marraige as a piece of paper not the commitment it is... some people better off out of it when their partners just treat it as paper
2007-06-24 12:24:20 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋