Am I a nympho or do I just have a hearty sex drive?

Question

I am a 28 year old, happily married mother of one. Here's my problem....I can't get enough sex. I'm not obsessed to the point where I think of cheating on my husband or anything like that. I just can't seem to satify my sexual appetitie. We have sex 2-3 times per week, but it's just not enough. I've had men break up with me in the past simply because they couldn't keep up with my sexual needs. My husband loved it at first...he looked at the situation as a challenge. For the first 6 months of our marriage, he had no problem keeping up with me. After that, he needed days to recoup and I would get angry because I felt that he knew what he was getting into. We went to counseling and the counselor said that there was nothing wrong with either one of us and that we just needed to a compromise when it comes to sex. Here we are three years later and I'm still not getting what I need. A friend of mine suggested that we become swingers, but we've always been monogamous. Any advice?

I actually have alot of toys and I masterbate often. I just prefer the REAL thing. I'm aware that 2 - 3 times per week is not alot. If I were getting it consistently, I would be ok. My husband can go weeks without sex and it drives me crazy.

Answer 1

I wish my wife had that "problem" you have. Actually, there's nothing wrong with you. It's quite normal indeed. You might need to find another outlet (not with another person mind you). Whack off the days your husband is not up to snuff.

Answer 2

Well...my husband would be jelous. I can't keep up with him! LoL. What are you eating? Can I get some? :) Ok sorry, just trying to get a smile outta ya.

Also, 2-3 times a week really isnt a lot. We have sex at least 4 or 5 times a week.

I would say, get the OK from hubby first, and then maybe invest in a BOB - Battery Operated Boyfriend. :) I know in the past when my hubby (of 7 years!) has been sick or really exhausted and I just needed it NOW....he was ok with me just pulling out the vibrator/dildo and doing the job myself. I felt better, he got his rest. Viola.

If he's not comfortable with that, then find somethines else that works for the both of you. Like, every other day....one day to rest for him, ya know?

Good luck with that, and tell him he's very lucky. Some men get it 2-3 times a MONTH. :P

Answer 3

You are entering your peak sexual reproductive years and are obviously a healthy normal woman. Strictly biologically speaking, the female homosapien is genetically programmed to reproduce the human species anyway she can. From a survival of the species perspective, the best chance a woman has to reproduce is to be bred by as many males as possible. Thus the simple things like, the male gets very tired and sleepy after sex, the female is energized and wants more sex. In the distant past this would allow the "alpha" male to fall asleep and the "beta" male( and on down the line ) to have sex with the female thus ensuring she gets pregnant. Remember, Mother Nature cares not a wit for religion, ethics, morals or what the neighbour thinks. Her only imperative is REPRODUCE THE SPECIES ! Thus, you have the hormones etc. crashing around in your body and are genetically "programmed" ( so to speak...lol ) to get out there and reproduce while you have a lifetime of teachings ( right or wrong ) telling you what you may and may not do. And, for the most part, they are in direct conflict with each other. This is why your same man will turn his head and drool at a hot babe walking past him when he can't keep up to the woman he has at home. Part of it is conscious choice...yes, but a large part is reproductive imperative. The males best chance for reproducing his genes is to breed as many females as possible, not breed the same female as many times as possible. But we are no longer "animals" many will say. We are "civilized" human beings and are products of the society (s) we live in, with all the attendant rules, morals, ethics and religious fervour. I say, you can take the ape out of the trees, but you can't take the trees out of the ape.
By all means, explore "toys", they can add a whole new dimension and a whole lot of fun to sex.....for BOTH parties.
Swinging ( successfully ) requires a VERY committed, VERY together, VERY in love couple who have communication down to an art. It is NOT a cure for problems.
If you can get past your teachings and religious boundaries you could check out Polyamory. No, I didn't say Polygamy, two different things, sorry.
Other than that, if you wish to continue in a monogamous relationship and remain a successful couple you need to become extremely good communicators. With each other of course....lol. A complete understanding of each others physical, emotional and sexual issues will forge you into an inseparable couple able to deal with any of life's little tribulations. Oh yeah, it also makes for GREAT sex. LOL.

WOW....sorry, didn't mean for this to turn into a BOOK.....lol. Thats my two cents worth.

Answer 4

I'm going to change gears on this one and take it too another level. Dig this.....You love yourself, you love your life and you love being with who you're with! What you don't like is conformity and that is routine in situations. If I were you its time to add more spice to your sexual urges. You may want to meet your husband somewhere outside of home for a lil somethin somethin, maybe at a lake, or buy that french maid outfit or that blond wig. Play games with different sexual foods (skip the chocolate syrup it's messy!) But, have fun with a vibrator with your husband as well! Sex begins outside the bedroom with a sensual phone call or a soft squeeze etc. BrotherMan will be intrigued... Peace!

Answer 5

Might try another counselor. I can almost guarantee you'll get a different answer. Have you considered toys? Frankly, I just have no idea. Due to your wish to stay monogamous, I wouldn't think you have a "problem" per se (and "sex addiction" isn't a disease in my book: it's an "excuse!")
You have a very healthy libido - and that's probably due to past experiences which have been very positive.
Frankly, I just don't have a friggin' clue as to your next steps. But, "nympho?" I sincerely doubt it!

Answer 6

How would becoming 'swingers' solve the situation. That was a very bad advice. You have to change your therapist. An over active sex drive could be the symptoms of a sex dependency. Meaning you only value yourself through sex as a drug addict or alcoholic. Look up on the Internet sex addiction and maybe you will relate with what they are saying.

Answer 7

You have a hearty sex drive, but you really need to find an outlet for your sexual energy in order to fairly compromise with your husband. That and find something that helps you focus your energy elsewhere.

It does seem like you are too fixated on it, and that can definitely make it worse.

EDIT: By the way, we have sex about once a month. So, you are a lucky woman. Don't be too greedy. ;)

Answer 8

please don't become swingers. compromise is best , have to agree with the counselor. you are not a nympho. try satisfying your own urges if it is really becoming a problem between you and your husband or find something (hobby) that you are sincerely interested in. You don't own his body so don't become angry if he's tired, had a bad day is not in the mood etc. try some sweet affection on him. like a back rub or just some caressess or washing his head in the tub. watch the intimacy grow and who knows you may put him in the mood

Answer 9

Well, sex 2-3 times a week isnt an awful lot at all. I think that it pretty average actually. If you were saying you were doing it 2-3 times a day everyday and wanted more that would be a different story.

Answer 10

situations like those are like undesirable desires - they have meanings yet in all possibility no longer the single you think of. in case you do no longer desire to be touched and additionally you're having courting problems you could could question why you're at the same time with your bf. a million. do you like a greater severe dedication? Marriage? 2. ought to the porn be cheapening intercourse to basically an act quite of an act of love? 3. while grow to be the final time you probably did something basically for relaxing? you would be bored. 4. Why grow to be your sexpersistent extreme? determining this would help you return to particular conduct you have skipped over or that your bf has stopped. 5. have been you on the delivery-administration while your sexpersistent grow to be extreme? delivery administration could have outcomes on your physique which you will no longer be responsive to approximately - see a doctor. Our lives, no count how plenty you do unlike replace, desire replace in spite of if it rather is totally diffused.

Answer 11

there is nothing wrong with that. The only thing is that you should always remember that yyou are married and don't let sex control you. I think that 2-3 times a week won't work. you need to have it more often remember your {married}