I am a 35 y.o.f.Fun, cute and smart. I am also about to go through my 2nd divorce. What is wrong with me??

Answer 1

probably nothing, blame your exes......but on a serious side, maybe you believed in love too much,

Answer 2

Are you a man or a woman? If your a man, you don't know how to treat a woman and if your a woman, you don't know how to treat a man.

Your probably not in Love and you were married for the wrong reasons. I'm sure your not sacrificing anything and your probably very selfish. In general your not making someone happy.

Are you taking care of your spouse or are you just taking care of yourself? If it's yourself, then you should be alone. That's not marriage, that's single.

It's time to grow up and learn from your mistakes, because marriage is so important! It should be so loved and respected and so many people (like you) just get divorced because there was a problem in the marriage and I'm sure that problem could be fixed. That's when you run to your spouse, because that's when you need your spouse and you both work together to make it work.

You obviously still haven't learned that. If you have children, once again, they're the ones who suffer! Get it together!

Answer 3

LOL... don't know, when you figure it out, let me know! Sorry, but not enough details here really - but, if you are like me, I've decided that I am awful about picking out partners - LOL.. 30, fun, professional, cute, (don't want to go on an ego trip here..) and also going through my 2nd divorce. I've finally decided to just fly solo for a while, get my head on straight, and have analyzed what I want...

I always pick the guy who sweeps me off my feet, love the attention and romance - but have found that that kind of guy usually is a rollercoaster relationship - which I bail out on when it gets too bad... Have decided when I do finally get back out there in the world again, I am going to remember my lesson and try to pick some nice, level guy... LOL.. if I go against myself, maybe I'll do better this time around. LOL..

So, spend some time with yourself and ask, "what did these guys have in common that caused the divorce... what were the warning signs I didn't want to see that should have been a red flag?"

I don't see it so much as what is wrong with me - "what's wrong with them?" LOL...

Best of luck,

Wildflower

Answer 4

I too just got divorced for the 2nd time and I am 34, my first marriage I got married young, the second was the wrong choice for me. It happens, its life...its a part of loving. There might be things you can change, do some self evaluation. Figure out what you want in a mate and focus on those things, not the bad things you dont want and you wont attract those people into your life again. Good Luck :)

Answer 5

In my life I have found that my mistakes in relationships were choosing the same woman. They all looked different, had different jobs but they had the same emotional make up. And I had to step back and see what the simlarities in each were...and there was so much the same it was like they were the same woman. Take the time to do this, and figure out why you are attracted to this kind of man--and then try to find out what YOU need in a relationship, not what you say you want and need. Talk to someone that will be more objective, I found that my friends and family were so busy being supportive of me that they wouldn't point out the obvious in my relationships--until the breakups. Good luck (you are taking the 1st step in asking and trying to figure out what's wrong) and God bless you always!

Answer 6

Not knowing you personally, and assuming you are not derranged it could be you just haven't found your ideal mate. How do you know it was you and not the other person who was not able to make it work. Marriage is very tough, there is a lot of give and take. Some people aren't ready to settle down and devote themselves to marriage. Especially men. So don't be so hard on yourself the right man will come along and your bells will start to sound off.

Answer 7

Sometimes things arent meant to be, but at least no one can say you havent tried. It takes two t make a relationshipwork sojust maybe its not totally your fault. Your question is hard to answer since we are only getting one side of the story and thats generalization in stature. You probably just havent met Mr. Right yet so your heart isnt totally into making the marriage work so its easier to bailout at the first sign of trouble. Youre still young enough and experienced enough to know what youre looking for in a man to last with, instead of just jumping into the frying pan so fast. Patience will now play a big part of your love life but just dont give up on marriage yet.

Answer 8

I guess fun, cute and smart is not a such a good combination after all.

Anyways, we don't really know you that well to say what is wrong with you. Maybe you could see a marriage counsellor and you might get some answers. Good luck!!

Answer 9

could be several things...you don't think you deserve more than you're marrying into...you're rushing into your marriages...you've never had time alone (without a partner) to discover who you are without someone else...
If you can find some similarities in your two marriages and why they went wrong in the end then it might be something for you to change.
if not...well...sometimes thems the brakes buddy. Life just doesnt make sense sometimes

Answer 10

Perhaps some self inventory is in order. Some honest self inventory. Are there control or insecurity issues? Are you marrying the wrong kind of people? Are you giving too much too soon without really getting to know your mate? There are so many questions that only you can answer at this point. Definately some honest self inventory is in order here.

Answer 11

You can't provide 3 adjectives to describe yourself and think a bunch of strangers can tell you what's going on with your life or why you're getting divorced.