2007-06-24 03:37:59 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
she did with a younger collegue of her she said was only sex
2007-06-24 04:01:08 · update #1
Hmmmm... Talk about what led her to cheat on you.. When you think you haven't pushed her to do the cheating, then it's understandable not to forgive her.
2007-06-24 03:42:48 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, not on any occasion or exception, the same if the husband cheats. There is no reason for it and there are no accidents. When a couple marrys that is a legal binding agreement made before man and also with God. If you even thought about cheating a divorce should be filed and nothing should be done until the divorce IS COMPLETELY FINAL!
2007-06-24 10:43:04 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Then what will keep her from doing this again? You are there and you know the circumstances so you have to make the decision. Myself I would not because I feel I do more than my share in all parts of our relationship with the exception of some of the children problems. But note they are my steps. For some they don't give much attention and just starting to do that will solve the problem of her cheating again. Up to you.
2007-06-24 10:44:52 · answer #3 · answered by ronnny 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well I see the consensus says NO but I say if you love her and she is truly remorseful than you should at least try to if you feel in your heart that you can even with knowing what she has done..it takes a very big person to forgive another.....I don't condone what she did AT ALL! it was wrong but if you can forgive her than good for you, let me just add that 24 yrs ago ( I was 12) my cousin who was 7 died in a car accident his Mom was driving and another driver ran a red light hit her car and my cousin flew out of the car and well to make a long story short he died....my point to this is my Aunt forgave that man who hit her car and killed her son...that man called my aunt at home and asked for forgiveness and she forgave, I never could understand why she did so I asked her and she told me because it was the right thing to do. Forgive her if you can...its the right thing to do, you may need forgiveness someday too..... we all mess up...GOOD LUCK TO YOU.....
2007-06-24 10:54:16 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do not immediately file for divorce. Find out the circumstances behind her behavior. Be honest with yourself. Were you ignoring your wife even when she was brutally honest with you in her unhappiness in the relationship. Did you take personal offense when she said she was unhappy or did you work hard to improve your marriage before she even contemplated an affair. Perhaps she was so true and dedicated to you for so long and you didn't respond...... and she walked into a situation where she was vulnerable for something to happen....
2007-06-24 10:59:24 · answer #5 · answered by C S 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no you should not cause you may forgive her but you will never be able to forget it.
I know a couple and she cheated on her husband she says thier relatonship is stronger now but its not when we have all been out he makes little comments that we all pick up on and he gives her a really hard time so for both of you I would say no dont forgive her - sorry
2007-06-24 10:51:17 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
look if u want to be her ginny pig, clown, or puppet go head. yea people make mistakes, but at the same time feelings, and emotions are involved. of course your the man so its diff, but if u would of did it she would of probably call the world. look your a man not a boy. So act like one and make a desiton like one. once a cheater always a cheater until its done to them, thats when they will realize the damage,and the pain they caused in the past, don't take them back all there gonna do is play u out.
2007-06-24 10:48:25 · answer #7 · answered by GSkillz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Before you do, how did she end up to this other man's arm? Were the two of you ever talk or even find time to communicate,if your answer is yes,then she have some issue to work with you,or else the marriage is not really meant to be..
2007-06-24 10:46:03 · answer #8 · answered by islandgirl06 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So, does this mean you'll have to forgive her again the next time she just wants to have sex again? How is it that you're OK with her answer?
2007-06-24 14:42:22 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO!!! From personal experience, once a cheater, always a cheater. If she did it once, she'll do it again because she knows she can get away with it.
You deserve more than that! There's no excuse. Especially in a marriage.
2007-06-24 10:53:15 · answer #10 · answered by Tiggerfrk 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋