When I speak to my husband about our problems and refer to a confersation I had with my friend about my problem, he get s really angry with me and asks me, how can she(my friend) help and give advise, look what her relationship is like. Is he right? I like helping people, but my life is a mess. Does that make sense?
2007-06-24 03:35:47 · 7 answers · asked by Ella 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You shouldn't be telling your husband that you're talking about your relationship with another friend. I agree with the person that said guys have a lot of pride and keep private things private. Imagine your husband the next time having to face your friend that you've been talking to about your relationship problems. I'm sure it will be uncomfortable for him knowing that she knows personal stuff about the two of you.
Yeah, some people like to give advice to others when their own life is full of chaos and they don't follow their own advice, that's pretty much normal I think.
2007-06-24 03:57:50 · answer #1 · answered by Tiggerfrk 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you feel the need to share your problem with your friends don't tell your husband. Men have a lot of pride into keeping private their personal life. Now he will be embarrassed in front of that friend of yours because she knows you 2 have problems. He knows also that when you share your problems with others he is not the one with the good role but you paint him as being the one with problems. Those people don't get to hear his side of the story. So don't bring back home what other people are saying about him, it is unfair and childish.
2007-06-24 10:49:28 · answer #2 · answered by Jane Marple 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes advice comes from experience. Its always easier to give advice instead of heeding your own words because your mind thinks about it too much and actually sabotages it. You can give advice but whether they actually listen is another problem,somewhat like teenagers. On here people willread many answers and decide forthemselves who to follow or not, whether their advice is any good or not.Its not always easy to tell people what to do and sometimes you get the wrong result and it comes back to haunt you. Your husband is probably more madder at you for airing family problems then he is you taking their advice. Alot of people should never ever give advice to anyone despite their intentions. First get your life in order before considering helping others
2007-06-24 10:47:31 · answer #3 · answered by Arthur W 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well you can always help a person with there problem. because you are outside lookin in.when you are in the situation u will, find u self giving all the excuse in the world to not deal with it. so your husband need to chill out. if he feels that way then he need to work with u on the problem , not get upset.
2007-06-24 10:41:14 · answer #4 · answered by GSkillz 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
We need to take care of OURSELVES FIRST!!!! We come first. Ask yourself is this my problem, the answer will be no, so back off, get your life in order.
2007-06-24 10:44:25 · answer #5 · answered by kim t 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You cannot help others without first helping yourself*...Tell me why your life is a mess*....
2007-06-24 14:27:15 · answer #6 · answered by dca2003311@yahoo.com 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no.. does not make sense at all.
2007-06-24 10:42:10 · answer #7 · answered by ThisGalRocks! 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋