When I was 16, again at 20, again at 23, and a couple more times in my twenties, I, a gay man, had some really special (to me) affectionate moments (or nights) with 4 or 5 beautiful straight men. These included holding each other, hugging, massages, cuddling, some kissing with some, and one went to sleep with his lips pressed on my back.
These times were very special to me because they were so rare, and they didn't cross the line into sexual, as there was no genital stimulation or orgasm.
I only stay in touch with one of these guys now; he's married and cool and lives far away. The one that was 16 "ain't cute no more" and 2 of them ignored my last attempts to contact them.
How do you guess they view those events? Do you think the ones who wouldn't respond purposely want to lose touch and forget me.
I'm not a mushy type and I'm not all hurt over it, but I'm so curious how they view the events.
2007-06-24 02:57:28 · 3 answers · asked by topink 6 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
I would suggest that if there are guys that you have tried to get back in touch with, and they have ignored you.....they might not wish to be in contact with you.
I would assume that unless they were totally wasted, they remember what happened with you. They've moved on with their lives & those lives don't involve restablishing relations (of any sort) with you.
Enjoy your memories....and move on.
2007-06-24 03:29:00 · answer #1 · answered by Canadian Ken 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
between my years of 7 til 28 I enjoyed 1000's of such,and many I know continued as Bi or gay,some tried to go back to what is called straight but could never make relations work as good nor intimacy as wonderful as what we had,and many because of their mixed feelings today avoid me like the plague yet from this I know they remember fondly.
Perhaps your situation is similar.
2007-06-24 10:13:32 · answer #2 · answered by boutgivup 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Please dont get offended with what I am going to say.
Guys whom you have near sexual contacts with are obviously (drum roll please)... not STRAIGHT.
Coz if they were, they'd tell you respectfully that they wanna be friends and wouldn't be attracted to you in that light.
Hope you see what I am trying to say without feeling being attacked, its just a fact sweetie. Sorry :)
take care.
2007-06-24 10:17:05 · answer #3 · answered by nuttynellie 3 · 2⤊ 2⤋