i have a 10 yr old son that plays several sports and i need to learn how to deal with these parents at tournaments. they suddenly become coaches and critics of everyone, much worse than regular league games. the dads scream to their kids and others what to do. some kids yesterday were confusted and didnt know what to do because their coaches are on one side of the field and the dads are at the other and everyone is just screaming at them! they also say things outloud that put down our own team mates. ie- one dad would scream "pass the ball, pass the ball" and then mutter outloud "he wants it all for himself" when it was another kid with the ball. but everytime it was his son there he is screaming "go go go,take it,take it,take the shot" even if he was just as blocked from the defense as the other kids were.
how do i learn to cope with these people? earplugs, ipods? they are so loud its hard to ignore and telling them off only makes me feel worse. i have to change since they wont!
2007-06-24 02:53:03 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Sports ➔ Other - Sports
Get involved if you really want it to stop.
Usually at the beginning of the season there is a meeting for the parents. At least there was for the league my son played in.
I was very pleased with his team manager. Although both his son and daughter played in the league, this manager did not give his kid's preferential treatment.
I was one of the team coaches.
The manager was determined to help all the kids improve. He knew all the parents. He told the kids and parents upfront, that if there was any unsportsmanlike behavior on either part, that would take away from the kid's playing time regardless of skill.
There were kids of all skill levels. Those who showed up, on time, were team players, and worked hard got game time. Those who criticized, didn't listen, or had bad behavior (or bad behaving parents) got less game time.
All kids got to play at least two innings.
The managers technique worked. Our team had the best behaved parents and ALL the kids improved in their skills.
2007-06-25 12:24:33 · answer #1 · answered by Elf Rochelle 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Try to have your school adopt a policy that prohibits the children of disruptive parents from participating in the activity.
I've seen this in action and it is very effective.
The way it was handled was through an agreement between the parents and the school.
The parent signed the agreement that as a condition of their child's participation in the sport, the parent agreed to a standard of behavior which if violated would result in the removal of their child from the activity.
2007-06-24 10:13:03 · answer #2 · answered by Lorenzo H 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
this sucks when other parents do that. it makes all of the kids nervous. then they can't play for fun anymore. what we did was we talked to the coach and the referee's about the angry parents screaming at the kids. and they went to the problem parents and told them to either stop it or they would have to leave. they only gave the one warning to the parents and then they escorted them out. the kids were alot happier after that. and the other parents were so relieved. good luck.
2007-06-24 10:10:12 · answer #3 · answered by godsgaurdian 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
team meetings are awesome. I would have them with my soccer team and we'd mention how the parents are annoying the f*** out of us (im one of the players). So the coach held a player meeting, and then a parents meeting. They talked about financial stuff but also staying positive and that they are NOT coaches. It worked, but every year you have to do this, sometimes parents forget not to yell hard.
2007-06-24 13:23:00 · answer #4 · answered by Dani (green&navy) 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Nod. And let everything go in one ear and out of the other.
2007-06-24 10:03:26 · answer #5 · answered by mac 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
ask them to talk softly
2007-06-24 10:01:28 · answer #6 · answered by robert s 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋