was in argument last night, now regret some things I said
2007-06-24 02:50:25 · 12 answers · asked by marysunshine77 1 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
Admit that you were wrong and that your ego got in the way of your clear judgment.
2007-06-24 02:56:37 · answer #1 · answered by Runa 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't let time slip by.
Call or go see the person TODAY.
Make that the most important thing. See them asap!
Just say what you feel.
Tell them you where an idot, not thinking straight, too upset to control your thoughts and mouth.
Say you are sorry. It's all you can do.
Let them know they are too important to you to lose.
Say you don't want to lose that friendship.
And if you are lucky, they too don't want to lose you.
I just recently went thru something like this with a friend visiting from out of state. We had a stupid disagreement while out.
Couldn't agree. So she got quiet and drove us home.
In silence. At the house she began to pack her bags to leave.
I asked her what was she doing and she said LEAVING.
I waited a few minates then asked her if our friendship meant so little to her that she could walk out that door over a stupid disagreement. She remained silent. Like a little kid!
I told her I was very hurt, not by our disagreement but by her method of dealing with it, by running away. 50 years old and running. Stupid. I told her if she left, our friendship of many years would crash and be over.
She remained silent. Didn't have a clue what to say.
she sat down. Loooked like a baby unsure of what to do or say.
I waited. And waited. Then after what felt like forever I asked her to stand, hugged her and asked her not to leave, to stay, to keep the friendship alive, and forget the stupid disagreement.
In the end, she did. She never did say she was sorry for what happened, but it didn't matter. I think , I hope she learned from that experience that it's ok to disagree, get mad, and in the end, get over it. We all say things we don't mean, and we all have disagreements. The important thing to consider is how important is the friendship, how much will you miss them if they are gone. Consider that, ask them to to think about it, then hug and move on.
Life is too short to drop those we love or enjoy in our lifes.
I hope I've helped you some.
I know what you are feeling.
Please try what i've said.
Good luck, i hope the person you argured with needs you as much as you need them.
:) Best of luck to you!
:) Febe
2007-06-24 03:09:31 · answer #2 · answered by lost 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
get away frm eachother! Nasty words can be said, but some cool off time can be good, time to cool off & recoup later to have a proper talk. Tell him you will talk later! If it's still heated, he's on the couch & u in the bed... don't give in! If he threatens to do worse, he's not worth the ground u stand on! It's not the end of the world! Talk to him & let him no where u stand & what u really want from him in your relationship. Then u will know...
2007-06-24 03:16:14 · answer #3 · answered by tcookie1 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is sort strange, but to save "face" you need to "not save face". As in most people think of saving face as coming up with an excuse for why it was OK for you to say those things, but the person that will really have "face" is the one that admits when he is wrong and says he is sorry.
2007-06-24 03:05:21 · answer #4 · answered by Bulk O 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Say you are sorry. It sounds like emotions were probably high at the time of the argument. If so, you could offer to discuss it again now that you (or both) are calmer.
Don't just try to pretend it didn't happen. Nothing will get resolved that way.
2007-06-24 02:57:31 · answer #5 · answered by Lorelei 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
We all do that - if you really regret things you said, ask them to forgive you, tell them how sorry you are that you said things you didn't mean. I always apologize - but not everybody accepts it. For our own sense of fairness, we must allow them space to recover, and hope they will approach us a bit later on - when they feel better about it. Good luck.
2007-06-24 03:02:30 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's why thinking about that while things heat up is the best policy. Let the others put THEIR feet into their mouth. Take the high ground! ~
2007-06-24 02:58:56 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can look suitably contrite while saying you're sorry for the uncalled for remarks.
2007-06-24 02:57:46 · answer #8 · answered by P'quaint! 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
see act to be usual n if it doesn't helps then be more attached to that person, make him or her happy n once when u start feeling that the person is no more angry wid u say sorry........
2007-06-24 03:09:37 · answer #9 · answered by K.J. 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
say your are sorry and shake hands.
I made a big mistake is what you say.
2007-06-24 02:58:29 · answer #10 · answered by Michael M 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋