Ok,i need some serious advice! I have been in a long-distance relationship with my bf Robert,who lives 2 states away,and weve been together for a year. We truly love each other,and i was planning on going to a university up where he lives. Major prob though! He recently told me that he decided to join the army for 4 years! He is not going to iraq,he will be positioned in the U.S.,although im questioning if things will work out. We want to stay together,and i love him soooo much,so im defidently willing to! But isnt it hard to contact someone when their in the army? Im only 16,so i dont have the option of marrying him yet. HELP! i need advice on how to stay in contact with him,and how to keep our relationship! plz!
2007-06-23 23:01:48 · 15 answers · asked by Maddy 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Maddy i loved your question. i am in a similar situation. i have been with my boyfriend for 3 years. im 19 now and we met when i was 16. he always planed to join the army. on July 4 he is moving to Chicago and i live in the Caribbean. we are going to be very far from each other for 2 more years. i love him to death and distance has never been a issue. yea i will miss him and you will miss your boyfriend but if it is true love no distance can keep you apart no matter how long. that's how i see it. if you and him can manage distance in this time of your relationship, then i see a great chance for a happy marriage in the future. best of luck stay by your man.
2007-07-01 04:28:22 · answer #1 · answered by baby.aphrodite518 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can still keep in contact with him if he is in the Army. During Basic Training, you won't have much contact with him other than letters (which mean A LOT by the way) and the occasional phone call. After the training is over, you can call email, see him, whatever just like you do now. You might want to rethink such a serious commitment to someone at your age though, I know that you don't want to hear that, but seriously, focus on your education and developing YOUR talents right now. Just something else that I noticed if you are serious with this guy and you are planning a life "together" maybe he should have at least ran this major decision by you before doing it. I mean it ultimately is up to him, but did he even ask your opinoin about it?
2007-07-01 14:34:48 · answer #2 · answered by civic9497 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you live two states away from him and keep in contact with him, what is the problem? You can keep in touch with him while he is in the service and perhaps he is not ready to have a 16 year old hanging around his neck. I someone told you to go after him, no matter where he is stationed while in the army, what would you do? There is NO way you would be able to support yourself. While her serves his four years, why don't YOU stay home and finish high school because you say you are going to college, GO to college near your home and accomplish something for your future AND his? Hope you make the right decision, and good luck.
2007-06-29 17:44:03 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
you can still have a relationship with him i know for the first while he will be training so i don't know how much time he will have off but then he should have weekends free at least
it will be hard but prob no harder than it is now as far as i know he will still have his mobile i think you call it cell phone plus he will have access to the Internet as well. i guess it all depends were he is stationed as he will probably have to travel down to you.
i think you should just go with the flow and see how things work out true love always finds away if its meant to be it will be
try not to stress to much it wont be long before you know were he will be and you can decided were to go to uni near him plus you will be older and have more freedom to travel to see him and if you both still want to.
the only thing i will say is make sure he is 100% positive he wont be sent to Iraq I'm assuming he is the same age as you and in two years if they wanted they would send him and it's not safe over there.
change is never easy and i hope he changes his mind about the army. and don't worry true love always finds a way.
if it doesn't work out you will know you tried and have no regrets and not spend ages wondering what if.
2007-06-23 23:41:09 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your already in a long distance relationship then its not going to change anything. You can still write, call, e-mail, and while there are limitations on visiting him at his post they are not so bad that you can't visit him at all. The concern you should have for him his about your age, but that is mainly a concern if you visit. Being 16 you could get him in trouble. I am not knocking your relationship here but the military will see the legal difference if you visit him on post. Aside form that you shouldn't have any problem you don't already deal with now.
Good luck
2007-06-23 23:15:46 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
At 16yrs old waitin for a guy, It going to be hard to do. He sign up to be in the army for 4yrs. In the 4yrs he is station in the army, you might meet someone else. I think sending letters and phone calls from him, will be the best right now to keep the relationship.
2007-07-01 04:12:15 · answer #6 · answered by carlos r 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Long distance relationships never work. As you are a minor, you shouldn't even pursue anything too serious yet. I would suggest writing him, calling every now and then, but for goodness sakes don't pick out the china or the sheets for a while! Go to college, grow,develop, learn. If your relationship is truly meant to be, he can wait for you just as well as you can wait for him.
2007-06-23 23:09:19 · answer #7 · answered by Mick85204 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
well yes it is hard bt so what? life is not easy anyway :P its just how u take things.. if u love each other u will just do ur best to stay together and distance can contribute to a stronger relationship.. if u rly want it to work its going to work.. and u will find the way...
good luck
2007-06-23 23:06:47 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if u really love him..you will find a way to keep in touch..just becuase e is away doesnt mean that you cant think about him anymore or write to him. If he just went on vacation for a month you wouldnt say "oh! i cant be with you anymore! we are breaking up!" no..you wouldnt say that..you would call and keep in touch..sam here..just think he is going to come back..hes not gone forever! :D
2007-07-01 08:51:39 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont think so.By the time he's in the army,he will be one happy soldier cos there are bunch of opportunities for him to get girls as easy as ABC
2007-06-23 23:07:05 · answer #10 · answered by chasen54 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋