The Right To Choose:Women vs Men?

Question

America is big on Equal Rights, as they should be. Explain to me how THIS is equal-
When a woman gets pregnant women have the right to choose life, abortion, or adoption. A woman can keep her baby, kill her baby, or even leave her baby abandoned in the hospital or in a church and not be procecuted. In the case of adoption, giving up all of their parental rights without thought of responsibility to their child, they are even praised for "giving the child a better life" with another family.
When a woman gets pregnant a man has NO CHOICES. He doesn't get to decide if he wants to keep the baby or sign his rights away [I am NOT saying he should have the right to force an abortion]. If he decides he is not ready for his responsibility [like women who leave their child with the hospital/church, or through adoption] he is a "deadbeat", and is then hunted by DCS and/or the police.
How can this duplicity exist in a society who values "equal rights"?

I apologize, I should have been more clear: I am speaking about a parent's responsibility to the child. Women have the right to choose to be responsible for the child [by keeping it] or not [by killing it or abandoning it]. HOWEVER once a man is named as the father he has NO CHOICES-he is responsible for that child according to the state for the next 18 years whether he wishes to be or not. Even if he is not married to the mother he will still expected to be responsible in terms of child support. My question is if a woman has the right to decide they do not want to be responsible for a child they created, then why don't men have that same choice? How is that inequality determined to be "equal" in the eyes of the law?

To clarify once again-I am NOT asking for justification of why men don't have a voice in the PREGNANCY process. I understand [even if I don't agree] why it is largely felt that since the child resides in the woman that it is ONLY the woman's choice what to do about it.

I AM asking why a WOMAN gets the choice whether she wants to be responsible for the child or not and a MAN, once presented with parental responsibility upon the birth of the child, does NOT have that right. How is that fair?

Answer 1

I agree with you. Also, since men and women are equals, how is it that women pay less for car insurance, and/or get less physical training when joining the army.

This world is silly.

Answer 2

"I AM asking why a WOMAN gets the choice whether she wants to be responsible for the child or not and a MAN, once presented with parental responsibility upon the birth of the child, does NOT have that right. How is that fair?"

I will focus on your question, trying to avoid going off on a tangent ranting on my personal views or personal morales or religious beliefs like so many before me.

At first glance based on your line of thinking, it is not fair. Pure & simple. [Opps, I lied. That is my opinion.]

In the case of a child, the government is not interested in the well being or fairness to the parents. The system is concerned about the child's well being - what is best for the child. With that in mind, the courts usually figure it is best for the child if there are finances coming into the household so there IS a household, there is food, there is clothing for the child.

If your primary concern is this concept [what is best for the child], it eliminates the gender unfairness. The court will decide the same way if the child is female or male.

Answer 3

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Answer 4

Not being ready for the responsibility of being a parent is something the guy should think about before he has unprotected sex.
Giving the man an 'equal' say in the pregnancy wouldn't be fair by a long shot. Its not his body ultimately. Its hers. Once the baby is out, then and only then does he have any say in the matter.
Biology determined this. Its not 'equal' that a woman has to be pregnant, and the man gets to run around doing whatever he wants. Thats just the way it is.




I repeat:
Not being ready for the responsibility of being a parent is something the guy should think about before he has unprotected sex.

Answer 5

The man doesnt have to carry the thing around for 9 months either, if it comes to abortion I dont think the man should have any rights concerning it, as for abandoning the baby or being put up for adoption if the father is a good canidate then he should have the option of raising the child himself and unless the mother expects to pay child support she should have to give up all parental rights. My personal opinion if a woman aborted my baby for other then a life threatening reason to herself I'd end any relation or contact with her

Answer 6

You already know that it's not equal. Do you think feminist TRULY seek equality? No way! They are PERFECTLY happy to leave the status quo be ANYWHERE that women have it better than men. The ONLY time feminist invoke this concept of equality is when they feel that women are somehow being cheated out of opportunities.

I'll give you another example. If a certain court ruled against women 90 percent of the time they faced off with men, there would be a massive feminist outcry. But I dare say that way more than 90 percent of all custody cases go to women. Where's the outcry? A friend of mine's wife cheated on him. When he talked to his lawyer about getting sole custody, the lawyer laughed at him. "But she cheated on me," he said. "She's unfit!" The lawyer told him, "If she was an ax murderer, she would still have a good chance of winning the custody case. As someone who merely cheated on you, she's a shoo in!" That's the way it is. JUST as it is in abortion cases, where, as you point out, ALL THE POWER is with the women. That's why we read on a seemingly daily basis about men killing their pregnant wives and girlfriends. For many men, that seems to be the only say they have in the matter.

But you tell that to a feminist and she'll just smile.

Answer 7

Okay let me try to help the questioner....
Forget the right to decide birth... FOCUS on financial responsibility.
A woman can abdicate her financial responsibility, why can't a man?
I look at this a little differently. I believe in the right of choice.... If I CHOOSE to have sex, than I accept the consequences of that choice, both physically and financially. (and that should be true for BOTH genders)

Answer 8

Uhhh . . . . the woman is pregnant, so she has a choice to make about HER body. If the man made a choice, it would be about someone else. Seems simple enough to me.

If man wanted to keep the baby and woman didn't, why should she have to carry a baby for 9 months and have to disrupt her life and work if it is something she doesn't want to do. DOESN'T SEEM EQUAL DOES IT?

Mans choice comes in choosing to be there for the baby after it is bor or not.

(I am not arguing the caseof ProLife or ProChoice with my comments. I am trying to address the question asked.)

Answer 9

Well females also get half the mans money after divorce. The Paul McCartney case is a GREAT example of Male vs. Female rights.

Its pathetic how while males have the less amount of rights in this country now days.

Answer 10

First you have to have a right. A husband has a right. Someone who is not named on the birth certificate has no legal rights

"Kill her baby"! What are you talking about? You can't kill babies, and a fetus is not one by any legal or medical definition!

You can't sign something away you don't have!

I think you have a big misunderstanding! Unless paternity is established by DNA testing, or affidavits given to the state, a child born out of wedlock has a big blank where the fathers name is suppose to be! A blank has NO rights!

Answer 11

"They are PERFECTLY happy to leave the status quo be ANYWHERE that women have it better than men. "

I am unaware of this "feminism" you speak of.

Think about it this way. Let's imagine that my boyfriend got a tattoo that he doesn't like, so he wants to remove it. However, I like it, and want him to keep it because it looks great. I can whine and complain all I want to, but ultimately, I have no say over what he does with it. I can accept his decision, or I can leave, but I certainly don't get to decide what he does with the tattoo.

Also, consider that when the man chose not to wear a condom, he made a choice. I don't see the unfairness of the situation.

And for the record, women are not allowed to kill babies. Remove fetuses, yes.