in the terms of who you date or marry, is it wrong to want to be proud in front of friends and family of the person you are with? like marrying a doctor or a sports person or atleast a guy with a job?? is that wrong?
2007-06-23 18:32:31 · 10 answers · asked by urban.street@sbcglobal.net 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Other - Cultures & Groups
It isn't wrong, but it shows some poor thinking.
1) That person might change-they might not always be a doctor, or a guy with a job could lose it, etc. So it's better to care about the individual rather than what they do.
2) To choose a partner based on what your friends and family will value, means you are letting them do your thinking (and choosing) for you. You are going by what's important or impressive to THEM, not what's important to YOU. In the end it's you that's with that person, not them, so it should be your values that matter, not what your family or friends will think.
2007-06-23 18:41:26 · answer #1 · answered by Mother Amethyst 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nope. Part of loving someone is being proud of them. It's not wrong or bad to show them - and others- that you are proud of them.
But career choice isn't the only reason to be proud of someone. What you're talking about is not being proud of them, but saving your OWN pride - and that's a different topic.
You should choose your mate for who they are, not how good they make YOU look.
2007-06-23 18:41:14 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm not sure about what you mean here but I think that if you're not proud of who your with and do not wanna shout off the roof tops that you love that person and you don't care who knows it that you shouldn't be with that person at all. People who judge you should not define you. Pride in your loved one is what makes your relationship strong and lasting. The End!
2007-06-23 18:36:35 · answer #3 · answered by no longer a user 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
No its not wrong, you should be proud or who you are dating and or marry, you should not be ashamed of who you are with! Be happy with the person you are with and be proud of the person you marry, show them off BE PROUD!! and love that person your with!!!
2007-06-23 18:39:15 · answer #4 · answered by mickey_112404 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Not really, you just want the best for yourself and you want someone that you are proud of. Just be careful of people that are full of themselves, then you would not have anything good to talk about. Someone well accomplished and humble is right up your alley.
2007-06-23 18:35:54 · answer #5 · answered by Kitty Lucy 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
it is pretty normal to take pride in the accomplishment of those you are with, but it isn't really being proud of them, it is being proud of yourself because you choose to be with them.
It becomes dysfunctional when you choose to be with a person because of their accomplishments and not because of who they actually are. In other words you love WHO they are rather than WHAT they are inside.
2007-06-23 18:38:06 · answer #6 · answered by essentiallysolo 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
i don't think it's wrong to be proud of who you're dating if you really love them and are not dating them for their money or looks...if you know their strengths and weaknesses and don't care about their weaknesses.
2007-06-23 18:36:26 · answer #7 · answered by invisible_fox 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think it's wrong, as long as they don't think it makes them better than other people, and that's not the reason why they have a relationship with them.
2007-06-23 18:34:53 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, you should love the person first and foremost.
People aren't trophies.
2007-06-23 18:35:30 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
I have the deepest respect for my partner & for no other reason than that she is 'herself'.
2007-06-23 19:28:12 · answer #10 · answered by MJR 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋