i'm a straight crossdresser?

Question

i know i'm straight but i like to wear womens clothes. i'm only 14 and my parents dont know. i would like to dress up more but i never get a chance unless im home alone which im not very often. what is an easy thing to do where i can crossdress without anyone knowing. also, i'll need some clothes.

Answer 1

Mostly you're going to have to wait for college. There are many women who thing drag is sexy but still want to date men so you're in luck there! Perhaps (if it's that important) you can go to an out-of-town mall or something and change there. But again, you'll probably have to drive... Good luck.

Answer 2

I know the feeling but you are young and have lots of time. You will not get a lot of help until you are at least 16 or even 18 but you can start reading books on the subject. Brainsex by Moir and Jessel published by Mandarin is a good one which explains why some men are transvestites, transsexuals and some homosexuals but here are others. A good library should be able to help. If you do decided to tell your parents ( I never did but I told practically everyone else) then a good basic knowledge of the basics would be good and you can tell them why you are how you are. Later when you are old enough to go to some of the fetish clubs and parties you will get into the scene so don't despair. It is not a disease it is a natural condition. Good luck

Answer 3

Hi

I went through the same thing and even though I am in my early thirties, cross dressing became a big big part of my life. I know that even though I have done my best, it is hard to manage it. But here is my advice...first, straight or not, it's okay to wear women's clothes. There will be many who will disagree with you, hate you, ridicule you...some will be supportive though.

I know at your age you must be terrified of anyone finding out. Well, be as careful as you can, and don't tell anyone you cannot trust until you are ready. When you go college may be thebest time to decide if you really want to cross dress more in your life.

Make it work for you though, wear things under your clothes that make you feel good, but are'nt able to be seen.

One day you will meet a lovely girl...and do tell her before it gets serious..you'll know when. If it is'nt to be with her, don't suppress it for her..because in my experience even though you can love your girl you cannot change what you are...and why would you want to anyway?

Don't take any risks you don't have to, and remember to be kind to yourself, and build some support around you - which you have already done by coming on YA.

I wish you luck on a difficult but rewarding road!!

Answer 4

You have a long road ahead of you.

I don't know where you live, and I know nothing about the
environment you are growing up in, but very very few
crossdressers ever wholly succeed in stopping wanting to
cross dress.

And due to the fact that in most places in the world, there
is at least some risk of people wanting to beat you up, your
parents will likely be quite distressed about this.

Indeed, there is *MORE* potential that people will be
violent towards you than if you were simply homosexual
because most people will assume that you are homosexual
as well.

A much larger portition of males who crossdress are homosexual
than males in the general population - so there is some connection,
but since there are lots of guys who aren't homosexual but crossdress
it is by no means a simple one.

In any case, this is where you find out who your true friends are.

In most cases, your parents will eventually come to grips with it.
They certainly won't stop loving you. Your sibblings will as well,
though you can bet your going to be dealing with ribbing for
the rest of your life from them.

Usually, the way it happens is that the guy ends up stealing
his first few articles of clothing - and then proves to his parents
that he is compelled to do so, and eventually one or both of them
"gives in" and becomes his supplier - or it may be an older sister.

And when you are old enough, you get them yourself. I assure
you that most stores that sell women's clothing have several
male customers. Indeed you may get better treatment than the
female customers as you are less likely to return things and will
be far more discrete than their other customers.

There are schools that are more transgender friendly and maybe
you live near one.

You may decide that you don't want to "come out" now. You can
perhaps forstall this by wearing women's underclothing. You may
even "get away" with this for your childhood ... but eventually, you'll
be with that perfect woman and she's going to reach around and
pinch your butt and ...

If you're lucky, she'll be titilated, but in most cases (still), she'll be
turned off. Honesty up front, though painful, may save you a lot
of pain in the future.

You need to KNOW YOUR AUDIENCE.

Good luck!

Answer 5

Honey, it's not going to be easy; no crossdressing group or venue will accept members of your age.
Have you considered telling your parents? Or perhaps another relative, or close friend?
They might be more understanding than you expect...and then you'll have a safe environment in which you can dress as you please.

And if you need clothes, you're going to have to go out and buy some; DON'T 'borrow' them from your Mother's/sister's/girlfriend's wardrobe.

And, to stop you from feeling the need to keep explaining it; the VAST majority of crossdressers are straight; it has nothing to do with your sexuality.

Answer 6

You could start off by wearing women's underwear your normal clothes first, and then when you are alone in the house, start wearing like skirts and tops and dresses etc... Or you could contact me and I could give you some advice

Answer 7

Go buy undergarments that cant be seen by others like a camisole top or garter belts. If you are nervous about getting them in the store say they are for your sister andyou are around the same size... or just order them online. A lot of folks are secretly just like you and there is nothing wrong w/ it.

Answer 8

You can be a crossdresser and be straight.

A good friend of mine has a brother that is a professional drag queen and is happily married.His wife accepts him for him.And when he is dressed up.....you cannot tell that he is a man.......i was shocked the first time i seen him like that.

It would be a great shock for your parents....ease them into it.
Good luck.

Answer 9

I'm sorry but I dont know. I feal your pain however, I know that if I leave the house with eyeliner people would call me even though I dont believe in that stuff.
All that I can suggest to you is when your done with high school

Answer 10

you should not be left alone especially with kids or animals