i am 18y/o its my first time my hymen is gone but all we can get in is the head of his penis and hes not even very thick. it's actually kind of painful how do we get past this and 4 the record i get extremely wet...it's getting quite frustrating to be honest.
2007-06-23 16:53:16 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Women's Health
thnx guys! i might take the having a few drinks advice :p haha ugh
2007-06-23 17:30:35 · update #1
If you were 21 I would tell you to have a few drinks because if you are very relaxed it will most likely be much easier and not near as painful. Your issue in my opinion is that you probably are just to scared which causes you to tighten your muscles..not because you want to but just because that is the bodies reaction if something is going to happen that has previously caused pain.
Good Luck and I Hope You Get That OOOOO soon!
2007-06-23 17:00:33 · answer #1 · answered by Chrissy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Chances are you may be somewhat tense because it's you're first time and there is obviously going to be pain. I don't really think lube is the answer I think you just need to take your time relax and ease it in. When you're a virgin it's harder to get in and may take a while because you're fitting a big thing in a very very small hole. Hymen or not it may be hard, because the hymen breaks after he's in but doesn't prevent him from getting in. Just relax, breathe, and take your time, it's frustrating but that's the only way to do it.
2007-06-24 00:10:29 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most likely your hymen is not completely gone. I suspect you have only partially torn it.
Unless someone that knows what they are looking for examines you I'm not sure why you would think that it is gone.
The head is probably pushing against what is left of your hymen, in this case you can simply allow him to enter you competely and finish tearing the hymen or see you ob/gyn and have them do it.
2007-06-24 00:00:18 · answer #3 · answered by IG64 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
some girls are tighter than others,especially before they're sexually active. For most, it hurts for the first few times, but you should loosen up gradually with experience and it won't hurt as much. In the meantime, ask him to go easy on you and use lots of lube.
2007-06-24 00:00:36 · answer #4 · answered by Miss Understood 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
frustrated you will be! Thats a natural thing for females.
2007-06-23 23:56:55 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It going to hurt for a long time. eventually it will stop.
2007-06-23 23:55:44 · answer #6 · answered by Me 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you probably just need to relax... why doesn't he just use his fingers, first one, then 2, then 3, etc.. you could even practice on your own time with your own fingers.
2007-06-23 23:56:13 · answer #7 · answered by mark s 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
You are too young to be having relations. If you were old enough then you would know that you need to talk with your gynecologist about it.
2007-06-23 23:57:11 · answer #8 · answered by Gender Different 5 · 2⤊ 2⤋
thats what its like when u loose ur virginity keep going at it and wear condoms!
2007-06-24 00:01:40 · answer #9 · answered by ~~~~ 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
He may be too big/thick for you.
2007-06-23 23:57:36 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋