The girl lives with her alcoholic father. Her Mom would be so upset and disapointed.
2007-06-23 16:22:10 · 11 answers · asked by b d 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
I am not passing judgement. And her mother was my best friend for 30 years I do know how she would fell.....
2007-06-23 16:36:21 · update #1
What would you say to your own daughter? She probably needs help and advice. Be honest and see how you can be of assistance to her without actually taking over her responsibility. Are you members of a church? If so, they can be very helpful to her so she gets on a good life path.
2007-06-23 16:26:56 · answer #1 · answered by CUrias 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is probably upset and disapointed at herself she doesn't need to be reminded of it. She needs love and support.
If her health is in danger with the father you must report it to family services so she can get into a safe home (unless you can help her).
Her mom might have been upset and disapointed at the fact her dreams and hopes for her daughter have hit an obsticle but her mom would have given her love and support at this difficult time.
Your decision is if you want to step up and be there for this young girl at the second most hard time in her life (hardest would have been losing her mom at 9)... You need to put your own judgements behind you and if you get involved now you must be prepared to be there for good.
If you do want to become involved, let her know you aren't trying to replace her mom, but you want to be there for her as a friend and someone she can turn to and lean on for help.
2007-06-23 23:33:43 · answer #2 · answered by Sharon P 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Is there any way the daughter can get away from her father? This is NOT going to make for a relaxing non stressful atmosphere for any of them. I know from first hand experience. If there was only a way she could get away from him. Maybe another relative would be available for her? She is going to feel much stress from her father & it won't be good for the baby. What ashame he won't straighten himself out w/the prospects of a new grandchild to actually love & enjoy. But I too well know the actions of alcoholism, & alcohol is their main priority until they want to chance their lives, no one else is going to! I do wish her the best & hopefully she can find a way out & away from him.
2007-06-23 23:30:39 · answer #3 · answered by Sue C 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should tell her.. I LOVE YOU SO MUCH AND I WILL BE HERE FOR YOU EVERY STEP OF THE WAY! Would her mother be more disappointed in you for not already know what to say or her daughter who went elsewhere for love because she was obviously not getting enough at home or from close friends and family?
2007-06-23 23:28:24 · answer #4 · answered by Chrissy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if her Father is an alcoholic, I think that maybe it would be best if she stayed with you if you could afford it. I'm sure she'd be much less stressed out, safer, and you wouldn't have to worry about her either because she would be in good care (your care) instead of the alcoholic Father.
2007-06-23 23:26:11 · answer #5 · answered by Miley 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like a judgement call to me. Do you want us to agree with you. Just give her all the help and advise you are capable of.
2007-06-27 23:24:15 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
she has no mother, and her father is a drunk. She does not deserve to be shamed for this, she needs support. How do you know how her mother would feel, she's not here!!!! Shame on YOU for passing judgement on her.
2007-06-23 23:27:40 · answer #7 · answered by parental unit 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Support her...she doesn't need to feel guilty or ashamed by you mentioning her mother...she needs help if she lives with her drunk dad...give her some options, don't remind her how her mother would be feeling...
2007-06-23 23:36:37 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
it may be hard to do, but this girl needs help now. report this to social services. this kid is going down the wrong path and someone has to care about that.
2007-06-23 23:29:03 · answer #9 · answered by 1oldone 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You haven't mentioned where you are as far as being a family connected adult in her life.
2007-06-23 23:27:00 · answer #10 · answered by tharnpfeffa 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋