Can you really find happiness being alone?

Question

Besides family...I have a couple friends. But mainly it's just me.

Um Carly I'm already there lol. That's always been my life. Believe me I try hard to get out of it, still dealing with severe anxiety and depression. But I do try, baby steps though.

Answer 1

"There's one thing in my life is missing, is the time that I spend alone sailing in the cool calm waters".
I love this song from Little River Band.

Sometimes the true happiness is being alone with your clear mind, but living in good company is equally necessary.

Answer 2

I'm very content when I'm alone. It is perhaps my most "enlightened" & peaceful time. l also laugh a lot at myself, & can be more aware of things--like hearing the throaty bullfrog, the whistling wind, the red winged blackbirds--when I'm not distracted by others. But I also enjoy "special" people very much. I keep a good balance of both. Yet, you said you have severe anxiety & depression--so--my way doesn't seem appropriate for you. Family, & a "couple" of friends isn't fulfilling you. I wonder what you do when you're alone. What occupies your mind, your senses. You need to feel "whole" when you're alone, not dependent on others in any way. I could suggest some things for your "baby steps" but I don't know enough about you. Clearly, something is missing, but I can't speculate.

Answer 3

Happiness is a state of being, not a feeling. One is happy when one feels fulfilled, and is free from anxiety or want. You can be happy alone or with a lot of friends.

Some secret ingredients to happiness include: self-acceptance, a genuine giving and sharing nature and absence of negative and destructive feelings such as hate and vindictiveness which destroys the spirit and makes one turn against one's self.

One must work hard at self-knowledge. Even the great Greek philosophers prescribed thus: "Know thyself and you will know all the mysteries of the gods and the universe" .

Good luck!

Answer 4

It is easier to find happiness alone than in a relationship.
What happens then is what is to be looked out for. You see, once you are happy you attract a whole lot of others who want to be with a happy person either because they are also happy or they are not and want it to rub off on them.

My personal advise is to read up on the universal law of attraction, the law of allowing, and the science of deliberate creation as taught by the entity Abraham channelled by Esther and Jerry Hicks. Actually happiness is the least of what can be gained by making this effort. Joy to All.

Answer 5

you might find a kinship with the folks at quirkyalone.com. I related to most of the criteria they have on site. Some of us are just people who enjoy being alone. We prefer a couple close friends to a number of "hi and bye" friends, and would rather spend the day or evening alone than with people we can't have meaningful conversations or friendships with. I used to think I was odd, but now that I know I am, it's better!! LOL! Seriously, some people just gravitate to being alone more and some hate being alone. Nothing wrong with either one. Just find what's comfortable for you and appreciate yourself for who you are.

Answer 6

Certainly, I prefer to be alone, but this is for a reason. THAT I HATE PEOPLE AS THEY ARE DEALING WITH ME VERY BAD AND IT IS NOT MY FAULT BUT IT IS THE POPELE'S FAULT AS I AM NOT WELL UNDERSTOOD AND AT THE SAME TIME THEY ARE NOT GIVING ME THE CHANCE TO CLEAR MY CHARACTER FROM PURITIES. ON THE OTHER HAND, THE HOPPIES I PREFER TO DO SO ALLOW ME TO BE ALONE Such playing music (Harp and piano), riding horses, designing computer programs,love to study and science, playing karate and tikondo, reading books especially the scientific ones and alot of things. I really wish to aid the people and deal with them closely and respectively

Answer 7

Being alone too often is not healthy. If you have a social life that gets you out two or three times a month, then you have a chance to socialize and we all need that type of interaction. Without it, a person can become depressed and insecure and lack confidence.

Answer 8

I think its important to find happiness and peace within yourself. Some people think you need to be with a mate, but honestly, what if they leave, what will you do then? I think people need to learn to be happy with themselves first. Remember no man is an island, so you do need friends. Sometimes friends hurt us, but good people exist, so don't give up, as you go along in life you learn to judge people better, make better friends, and sometimes friends even change. Best of luck.

Answer 9

I don't know, frankly. Sometimes I feel that all there is to me is inside my head, and that I'm being too insular. And yet, when I share things, I feel so much better. Really, I think we all need someone. Humans, after all, are social beings.

We get all this James-Bond-style-individualist-stick-to-your-guns-trust-no-one junk from our culture that makes social interaction difficult. Why are teenagers in general moody and uncommunicative? Because James Bond never tells Mom what happened at school today.

Answer 10

You can never find happiness being completely alone, because humans were made to seek companionship, however, you can find happiness not being in a relationship if you are lucky enough to have the right personality for it.

Answer 11

If you can't learn to be happy alone with just you for company, how can you project happiness with other people? It should be part of your inner self! Learn about YOU, what you enjoy, what your interests are, what you want to learn about or spend your time and energy doing. Keep a journal, read a book, grow something, learn a new craft or hobby, exercise, meditate..............explore!