I was with this girl for about 2.5 years. We broke up about two months ago, and I moved away. 3 weeks later she found out she was pregnant. She had already begun dating someone else, and had sex with him, but it was mine. I decided to come back. She, however, told me later that day that she did not want to get back together with me and was going to continue dating this new guy, and even had sex with him again after knowing she was carrying my child. She is pissed at me partly because when we broke up, I was away for about six days and met someone and it got a little physical (not sex). Our relationship was teetering, but this helped me see that it needed to end. I've been back in the area for three weeks. She has since ended her relationship with that new guy. We were "not seeing other people" but she has since changed that. I am willing to talk about getting back together, but the thought of her having sex with other guys with my child inside makes me crazy. I need some help here!
2007-06-23 15:57:01 · 14 answers · asked by James 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I can't imagine what this must feel like but you have to get passed it to move on. It is in your child's best interest for you two to work things out and raise him/her within a loving, healthy, and safe relationship. Give it time and try, she also has to give it time and try. Things seem bleak right now but the future is filled with endless possibilities. Many people think that relationships should just fall into place and run when things get hard. But the reality is that relationships take a lot of hard work, always.
I pray that you both can look to the future with open eyes and hearts and that your child has every opportunity to live happy and stress free. God bless.
I just realized that I misread part of your question. So she is with other men now? If so, does she refuse to stop? If indeed this is the case, start consulting with an attorney now! Also, make sure that there's a DNA test performed and, should the baby not be yours, cut your losses and run.
2007-06-23 16:03:17 · answer #1 · answered by CUrias 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to decide what is more important to you, your baby, your sanity, your life in general. This is something that you need to really think about, because your final decision is going to affect the rest of your life. And now that your bringing a child into to the world you are forever connected to this woman whether you like it or not. How you handle your relationship with her is up to you. But good luck, but make sure your always there for your child.
2007-06-23 23:04:37 · answer #2 · answered by brooklynsss 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i know it has to be a disgusting feeling. i think you might need counselling if you want to get through it. if the two of you really care about each other, you can work it out, but DO NOT stay together JUST because of a baby. your relationship will end up in a disaster and your child will suffer more if that's the only reason you get back together.
2007-06-23 23:02:46 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all- don't go back because of the baby!! IF you truely love her than you go and try to get her back. The two of you need to be sure that you want to be together! You don't want to be together and raise a child , fuss fight and not be happy because as your child grows he/she will catch on and be unhappy itself! Think twice of what you (both) really want. You don' t have to be together to have a child these days.
About her having sex- just look at it that it was just sex nothing more!
2007-06-23 23:04:59 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to take a chill pill. What she does and with whom she does it is NONE OF YOUR BUSINESS...you had your chance and it didn't work out. Be thankful for small favors. This is NOT a woman you would want to be married to, for she will not stop seeing other people. She has made it quite clear she has NO use for you. Hold your head high and move on. You well have to pay child support for 18 years on this mess, but you caused your half of it, so if it comes to that, that is how it will be. Good luck
2007-06-23 23:02:11 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well whatever made you split to the begin with will not go away because of a child.
All you really can do is try to stay civil with her for the child. You cant really tell her who she can date (or even sleep with) and trying will probably make her do it more. She may be looking to get a rouse out of you. It probably hurt her that you moved on so quickley, maybe she wants to do the same.
2007-06-23 23:04:17 · answer #6 · answered by Stephanie D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this is a tough one. you should try to see where exactly the both of you are. and you shouldnt get back together for the wrong reasons. my best friend is kinda going through the same thing so i kinda get the situation. i also know as the father you are probally going to be very protective because this is you child... just express your concerns with your baby's mother and see if you can come to some sort of agreement... hope it helps :)
2007-06-23 23:02:34 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hope you people are not talking about marriage. If it is a bf and gf situation, what do you care? She's ain't your wife so you just protect yourself against STD. Yes, I sound brutal but would you marry this kind of women? And are you really husband material.
Feel sorry for the baby.
2007-06-23 23:16:19 · answer #8 · answered by Sir Richard 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Really this is off of the subject that you brought up but first of all - get a paternity test to verify that that child is even yours (yes they can do it in the womb before the baby is born) because your "baby momma" sounds shady!
2007-06-23 23:22:33 · answer #9 · answered by Sanita 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
"I need some help here!"
Yes, you do. I suggest that you get it...fast. Find a competent marriage and family therapist and get real help - not the Yahoo Answers type of help. A child's life is in the balance.
2007-06-23 23:03:00 · answer #10 · answered by SafetyDancer 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋