At work am always left out..though I try to participate in things..try to drop my word or opinion..I even shout...noone ever hears me..I dont really know what I feel..what I need..it's hard to write what I am feeling..I hust hope someone out there gets what I am feeling and help me out..it's not just at work but in my whole life...
2007-06-23 15:44:53 · 11 answers · asked by Kaushall 2 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
I know what you mean, it comes from really low self esteem and feeling bad about yourself. I have had this all my life. people percieve it as social awkwardness, they dont know how hard you are trying. I think you are ttrying too hard and you dont realize you have just as much right to be there as they do. period. dont force yourself to listen to them and dont force yourself to make them happy, just say the things oyu like to say and thats good enough for you. Thats that. it doesnt even matter if it makes sense to them . who cares. it makes sense to you. Screw the people who think they are better then you, and get this idea out of your head too., Your oppinion is your oppiniion and thats good enough.
Sorry I said one thing wrong and that was for you to be quiet, you can be forceful if you need to maybe you should MAKE your words heard. Give yourslef validation and permission to speak and permission to make people listen.
I wish you all the best
2007-06-23 15:52:40 · answer #1 · answered by ? 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It sounds as though you may be suffering from depression, social anxiety or maybe you are just an introvert, which is not a bad thing. I think you would do well to see a good therapist or counselor and talk about these lonely feelings. You are not alone, even though you feel lonely. I sometimes go entire weeks without speaking to a co-worker or peer. I am just not an outgoing person. When you start to build up your confidence maybe you should look for a new job, you know? Just make a fresh start. Maybe the people you work with are a bunch of ignorant assholes and you just need a change and a chance to work with open-minded people that you can connect with. Don't give up! It will get better, you just have to take care of yourself.
2007-06-23 15:56:00 · answer #2 · answered by Lost one 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes. It is some type of karma you are going through it may pass in time. The thing is this world is called Maya (illusion) and is temporary and full of misery. We don't belong here. Only one fourth of the souls come here. If we are tired of this hard struggle for material existence and tired of being unseen unheard and neglected then we have to seek out reality. Chanting the Maha Mantra is the quickest way to get in touch with our creator (also known as Krishna, Allah, Jehovah, Vishnu, etc.) Don't think that He doesn't hear you because when you get really sincere and listen you can see in so many ways how He is guiding and helping you. For info go go harekrishnatemple.com Read Bhagavad Gita As it is By Bhaktivedanta Prabhupada- tells the purpose and meaning to life. I love it.
2007-06-23 16:39:31 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
There is one evil secret. Pretend and act like the rest of the people in the work place. If someone wears cologne to work, you wear some cologne too. If someone agrees to the boss all the time and is seen to be popular with the boss, you too do the same. Agree with the boss even though in your heart you disagree. Imitate the others. Do what they do. If people reprimand you for that, you can always say that person is also doing it, why can't I do it ? Remember this. Please your boss like how others please him. Not just your boss but people whom he likes and favors. Be an imitator. Be a copy cat. Be a template. Be a follower. Follow the actions of those whom you know are successful and happy and comfortable in the work place.
2007-06-23 16:09:17 · answer #4 · answered by Dolia 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You belong. Keep trying. Try to make what you say responsive to your audience. Over time you will get better at it. Listening is very important. When you talk to people, tell them when you appreciate what THEY have to say. A person will listen more to another person if the person A feels person B listens to them. Try complimenting people before offering an "opinion" about something. people listen more when someone is saying something nice about them. That is how you develop a network. I'll also tell you one effective method I have used - I buy a box of coffee and donut holes for the office. That will get you noticed, and people will stop and thank you for the coffee.
2007-06-23 15:59:28 · answer #5 · answered by cavassi 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You sound a little lost in life. Happens to most of us at times. You need to find something that has real meaning for you. Something to get you out of yourself, if you get my meaning.
Why not try volunteer work? Not only are people grateful for your help, you will feel a lot better about yourself, too. You'll feel needed and appreciated in ways you have never imagined. It's rewarding for everyone involved.
2007-06-23 15:59:18 · answer #6 · answered by Wren )O( 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I feel like that alot of times too. I had to get comfortable with being alone/misunderstood. Some people will tell you to change yourself, but I say SCREW THAT!...I think that we're
just deep thinkers. Maybe not the smartest thinkers, but deep thinkers which the typical mind doesn't understand. But yeah, I hear ya loud-n-clear.
2007-06-23 15:55:11 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-03 00:58:41 · answer #8 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
oh my God, you are not alone!!!...I am going thru the same stuff right now....all my fellow co-workers are innapropriate, rude, immature and closed-minded and I just dont feel like I fit in at all...I work very hard, try to be a good team player and all i get is grief, and they constantly make me feel like Im the one making all the problems, ........i dont get it either.......its hard to soar like an eagle when you fly with turkeys!!!
2007-06-23 16:15:00 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
look pple hear u u dont think that they do if u dont feel like u fit in u wont start talking 2 pple be friends do wat u do put in ur opinions they them no ur there and even if you do act like being left out is ok with you. u dont care. i no how u feel dont worry that works
2007-06-23 15:56:33 · answer #10 · answered by Nicoble 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋