has anyone ever know anyone who committed suicide?

Question

If so what were the signs you saw in advance, what did you think about it after?

My friends sister jumped off of a 27 story building at age 18. She was a beautifull girl, she could have been a model. My own sister died that same year, we don't know the cause, she had lost her sight at 22 from having juvenile diabetes, she didnt want to live after awhile because of it, she had been talking about things for months before, dropping hints, then she did end up in the hospital with a broken arm and died at home after coming out and they dont know the reason so who knows I guess.

Her signs were so obvious now that I look back. she had nothing to live for, she was blind, she was going to start massage therapy school and she fell down the stairs and broke her arm in two places. I can see it all now.

Answer 1

Yes. I've known several. Sometimes there weren't signs. Sometimes, based on the person's choices that they felt were bad and couldn't forgive themselves for, I understood where the finality of it came from. Afterwards, there's nothing to think about besides memories. They chose to be gone, and I think when someone decides to do that, there's nothing that can stop them.

Answer 2

No but I have attempted a few times. The signs for me are that I get quiet. I dont answer phone calls much. I cancel plans a lot because im trying to find the perfect time to take my life. This usually occurs when I get pretty depressed and my therapists usually can tell that I am going down the spiral. Especially when I start building tolerance to over the counter drugs and skipping my meds. Other times people can just tell by looking at the person. I have had people come up to me and say are you okay and l would think I was and later on that day I would overdose. So if you know someone who is going through a rough time just stay in contact even if they say they are okay.
When I hear about other people doing it I wish so much to rewind time and I would want to take away all the pain. Its that pain that gets you in the end.

Answer 3

I had a foster son suicide at age 20. The signs beforehand were only recognised after the event, which in a lot of cases is the norm. Also his sister has attempted about 6 times by drug overdose. He hung himself in my garage. After? Well guilt at not seeing the signs, distress, realising that death is not that far away at times. As an aside I have also attempted an overdose, lucky for me I have a very loving and understanding wife who has helped me back to the real world and I will not try suicide again. The cause, depression. If any of your friends or relatives are showing signs of withdrawing ie not talking as much or giving things away then you may have cause for concern. I hope you never have to face this situation

Answer 4

As you can see, there are many different people that have experienced it, with many different warning signs and even those without any. Wish I could say i had a definite answer to that, but if i did, i would be standing in norway accepting the nobel peace for medicine ... and this doesn't look like norway.

Personally, yeah, i've known a few that have tried, a couple that succeeded, and have attempted it myself on a number of occasions. usually it followed a tramatic event or moment. the key is simply to talk, to listen, and to understand somewhat of what the person is going through

Answer 5

Yes. First of all, they would give chances. So they threaten to commit suicide. They do something to themselves which they know would not kill them but would make them feel ill and uncomfortable like taking large amounts of pain killers, cutting their superficial skin, do drugs to attract attention. The problem may lie within themselves or with outside factors like other people or the circumstances surrounding them. Some people do not threaten but have been thinking along that line. They are already making plans like when will they successfully commit their own suicide. If you want to care, either you have the skills to manage this person or you have to quickly inform the authorities. Remember you need to have the proper skills. Do not attempt what you know little of. People who commit suicide have a longstanding chronic problem that would not go away and no matter how they try, the problem is there and is making them feel like in a prison.

Answer 6

I did know someone, a person that lived in our dorm in college hung herself in her room. I remember talking to her and she seemed fine, then I remember going home for a few days and coming back to campus. There was a letter underneath everyone's door in the building saying what had happened. I did not know her that well but was still saddened that she had to end her life that way. From what I had heard from others, her boyfriend broke up with her and that set her over the edge apparently. Anyway, I remember that the college would not let anyone live in her room for about a year after she died. It was a pretty unusual and traumatic experience for everyone.

Answer 7

Yes i do. A friend of mine, she was 17 at the time. It was done on the spur of the moment, in a fit of rage. It was her birthday and she had gotten permission to go out. She stayed out very late and instead of going to her home (which was further away) she went to her grandmother's home but did not call home to inform her parents. She went home the next afternoon and her mother scowled her (and gave her a few slaps) for not calling, telling her that they were worried that something had happened to her.

She then go so mad at her mom that she went into her father's garage and drank some kind of motor oil and when found her it was too late.

This happened more than 10 years ago and just writing about it, is still makes me feel so sad. Over the years, whenever i pass near her parent's home i always remember her.

Answer 8

yes i had a husband that comit suicide and i was only 23 yrs old when he did it being i was young and it was in 1990 and people really didnt talk much about suicide back then but after it happened years latter i do realize there was some clues like he started pawning alot of his stuff and giving things away but other than that i know he was down because he wasnt working at the time and we were also seperated at the time i blamed myself for leaving him i blamed god for taking him from me before i realized that he was mentally ill and that suicide is a really selfish act and that god didnt take his life he did i felt for so many years though that if i wouldnt have left him that he wouldnt have done it but now i know that it isnt one thing that happens in there life that makes them do it for some one to do something like that they have to be mentally ill i still strugle with what he did and so does our son who is now 20 years old we have gone through so many different emotions my son has even blamed himself thinking his dad must not have loved him or wanted him which i can tell you that is not true he loved the kids he was a great dad and he was loved very much also i found out that mental illness ran in his family and our son was recently diagnosed paranoid scitsophrenic and when i think back now i realize his father must have been to he would hear voices that werent there and think things happened that didnt as well at times suicide leaves the surviveors tramatized,confused,helpless,and brokenhearted and helpless it is one of the worst things any one could go through

Answer 9

Unfortunately, I know a few, and they were very close to me. My cousin Paul shot himself in the head 1 month after having served in the army Desert Storm. We knew he wasn't himself when he came home, but he never seemed depressed, just distant. One of my best friends, Joe, tried to hang himself after losing his job (he also had a serious drug problem). His brother came to his apartment unexpectedly and caught him in the act. He was put an a hospital for two days, they put him on Paxil and sent him home. He tried to act happy, but he did not like the meds, he said he felt like a zombie. For three weeks, someone was always with him, we were afraid he would tried it again, even though he assured us it was the drugs and he wanted to live. One day his friend was having a BBQ and his brother left his apartment to run to the corner store to pick up something to bring to the BBQ while Joe was taking a shower. He returned to Joe's apartment 20 minutes to find that he had hung himself. I still think about them almost every day, trying to remember if they were reaching out and I wasn't listening. I don't know, I wish I had an easy answer, but everyone is different, I don't know...I miss them so much and hate knowing that they were in that much pain and couldn't talk to me...

Answer 10

I DID know someone. It was tragic. You never think they are going to do it, even though you know they are despondent, you never really know how much. People often do not want to tell others.
Many people say that a person who commits suicide appears to be gaining ground before it happened, but that may be a sign that they have made up their mind.
I don't think you can predict. Be good to people. Keep them connected. People have to know how much other people really care.