how do you help someone who's parents are way to strict?

Answer 1

leave it be, in this day and age parents need to be very strict. It is not that they don't trust their child, they don't trust the rest of the world.

Answer 2

Unless they are physically in danger due to abuse, there is nothing much you can do other than be a good friend to him/her. My parents were very strict, and although this may not be the cultural norm or societies standards, every parent has the right to raise their children the way they see fit. In some cultures parents control all aspects of a child's life, including who they are to marry and what they are to become (even to the point of becoming a slave). . . hopefully your friend lives in a free nation and is not experiencing this.

If you guys live in the USA, are you comparing this parent and their 'strictness' to other parents? If so, compare the average teen to others and you'll see that you don't really want to be average. With drug use, teenage pregnancy, drop out rates and STDs as high as they are, I personally feel that more parents need to take control of thier kids and be more strict. It takes a parent who will stand up against the norm to raise a moral, upstanding, and safe child these days. It's better to be too strict than too lienent. I know you may disagree as a teen, but once your friend is an adult and able to make responsible choices for his/herself, then they can enjoy life to the fullest (hopefully respecting that their parents loved them enough to be strict). It's easy to be a parent who doesn't care.

Granted, the parent may actually be "too strict" if your friend is nearing adulthood and not able to make choices on his/her own. There should be a gradual lessening of control in order to allow your friend to grow into adulthood and make mistakes within the confines of a safe environment. However, again, this is a parent's choice, and there is nothing you can do about it. It would be up to your friend to approach his/her parents and discuss the rules of the household in a respectful manner if they feel they are too strict. Hopefully this is the way things will work out as time goes on.

Good luck to you, but your best bet as a friend is to be supportive and a good listener. If his/her parents are abusive emotionally or physically help her to seek couseling or help (there are even 1-800 numbers they can call or you can call for them, and let her know that 1. he/she is not alone, and 2. that he/she is a valuable person with friends who love her

Answer 3

One should accept if their parents are being strict for them because it's for their own good too as long as it's not below the belt that will be a different story. The best thing would be one must be responsible for all his/her actions so that the parents would give them their trust to their children. As long as you do what ever you say and follow their rules and regulations there wouldn't be much problem with their strictness and soon you can make compromise with them for being a responsible child to your parents so they won't be that strict anymore and continue to be a good child to your parents as you will show them your matured enough to handle such things.

Answer 4

Its nothing you can do, your friend is the one who will have to talk to his own parents, concerning the strictness or just deal with it. the parents may have a reason for being strict.
Let your friend handled it, when it concerning his parents, because you dont want to get involve, when he mention your name as you say this and that. Just be glad your parents are not strict.

Answer 5

There really isn't anything you can do. Really it isn't all that bad having strict parents a lot of times their children turn out more responsible and know that they shouldn't be in trouble. I would say stay out of it it's you're friends parents way of letting their children know they love them and care about them and want to keep them safe and that can't be a bad thing.

Answer 6

You cant help man my parents were very strict when i was young and the only way i got out of the grips was when i moved out coz at the end of the day you are living in there house and they are only trying to protect you!!

Answer 7

Some parents are strict cause they are scared.
They are scared that somethings going to happen what they will regret.
Others are strict because there parents where like that.
Theres nothing you can do.
Only tell the person your helping to explain that they will take care of themselfs.
If its to go somewhere...
tell them to tell there parents that they will take care of themselfs and they will text or ring them to tell them what they are doing and that they will answer the phone if they ring.
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Answer 8

Just be persistent, really it works. My mom never lets me do anything, honestly. Shes always afraid for my safety and my friends say she keeps me in a cage. :P
But I've been best friends with this girl for 3 years, and finally my mom has started letting me hang out with her. It finally got into my mom's head that if my friend had been inviting me to hang out with her every weekend for the last year, then she must not have any bad intentions. She must just genuinely like me as a person.
Eventually the parents will start understanding that not everyone is out to get their child =]

Answer 9

help them by talking and advicing them like always listen to them and do as they say and stuff because parents are only strict because they are worried about wat there child is going to do next therefore forces the child by being strict. im 11 but i don't have strict parents (lol i don't live with my parents, i live with my grandparents) so i don't no how it feels

Answer 10

Respect their parents. When that someone becomes an adult and moves out of their parent's house then they'll be free to do what they want.