how do i tell people i have never had a boyfriend in my life i am 30 years old female?

Question

i have never been on a date in my whole life , i don't have freinds i have been sexual hassed at work in the past i have just been told at this job i have had for 1 and half that i am a bully and have now left i don't have any money and no family i can talk to Help as i don't know wheather it's worh living any one

Answer 1

Don't be ashamed of it. Just be honest. If the people you tell are true friends and truely care about you then it won't matter to them. Watch 40 year old virgin and see all the humiliation he went through because he wasn't honest and was ashamed of it.

Answer 2

It's nobody's business whether you've had a boyfriend or not. I mean, look at it that way: someone who's had, let's say 25 boyfriends, wouldn't be asking how they should tell people that they've had all of 25 boyfriends.

This is a private matter. Very simple.

Let's say you meet someone and you start liking that person. And you trust that person. Then it would be a good idea to share that info. But keep it on the light side. Just say that this is new to you and that you'd like to move slowly. Then wait how he responds. That'll be your first "test" - does he respond in a way that makes you feel reassured that you can trust him? [Here's a little tip: these "tests" are a vital element to figure out if a guy even deserves boyfriend status. How does he react to certain things? How does he act? Is he generous with you? Nice? Do you feel safe?]

Now, I have no doubt that you'll find a great guy. But it also seems that there is a need for you to look inside yourself a bit and do some self evaluation. You don't explain why you were perceived as a bully and had to leave your job. Maybe there was a legitimate reason, maybe not. But please do think about the situation.
Maybe you hated your job and were underchallenged and got impatient with other people? Whatever it is or was, you could use this as an opportunity to look at your life. And revive those hopes and dreams that you used to have and probably still have. Perhaps go back to school and get that degree that you always secretly dreamed of? Even if money is tight, there are always ways to get back into college. You could get a job on-campus, for example. That way your tuition would be taken care of. Yes, you'd be a part-time student and it might take you longer to finish that degree. But.... your whole life would suddenly take on a whole new and beautiful direction!
And that would no doubt also include dating.

So...what are your dreams? Go follow them, OK?

Good luck!!!

Answer 3

life is always worth living. first of all get a job. and the sexual harrasment well you need to stop being a victim. next time, or even this time (if you can prove it) tell the dude to leave you alone. dont say oh becouse i never had a boyfriend just say it in a calm firm voice. trust me they get the point and leave you alone. if not then take it to upper management immedently. now the never had a boyfriend stuff. good grief. why are you spreading your personal business. if people ask about your dating status just tell them you keep your private life private period. are you sure you arnt gay? comon now 30 and never dated.....i dont know. buy the age of 30 i was divorced, been to war, had a kid by someone else, owned a home, and was on my way to a federal retirement, kissing butt all the way. we cant raise you here but you need to get active in something you enjoy and make friends outside of work. i have no family pretty much. i was the youngest and everyone is pretty much dying off or disowned me becouse of my beliefs.....it dont stop me from having a fulfilled life for myself or teenager. so stop crying about it. stop letting the devil take your joy away and start trusting God.

and this stuff about you being a bully. start using your femine charm, and manners and it will take alot of the "bulling" attitude out of your personallity. dont talk alot. dont be a bragging person. dont preach to the choir. and put a smile on your face even when you really dont mean it. it amazes me what a smile will do when someone is trying to screw you over at work. being the happy girl is hard but you will keep your job.

Answer 4

There's no need to tell anyone you haven't dated. You have bigger fish to fry. Try a therapist. There are free ones and the local mission may know who to call. You need to talk to someone. If you are a bully you can change. You'll need help though.

I know you're sad but this could be where you decided to change your life and move into healthier relationships. Then you can start thinking about dating.

Learn how to make friends and life will be much easier. All my love. You're in my prayers.

Answer 5

You come right out and say it! There's no shame in not having a boyfriend. You probably haven't found the right guy for you, and good for you that you haven't wasted the past 15 years with guys. You've avoided a lot of drama! Get a new job, go out and meet people, and live your life...you only get one!

Answer 6

Why are you so scared of living. You have sucessfully weather the storms of 3 decades of your life. I am pretty sure the best is yet to come.

Everyone needs an anchor in life. No one wants to be alone. No man is an island. Please allow time to bring in some friends in your life which I am sure will give you new persective on life. Good luck and dont forget god loves you.

Answer 7

You don't have to tell people anything at all about your life.

Why do people think you are a bully? What is it you are doing or saying that makes people look at you that way?

Life is always worth living.

Answer 8

It really isn't anyone else's business whether you've been on a date or not yet.

If someone sexually harrasses you, you need to report them.

Life is always worth living. It's your life and no one else's - make the best of it. Find another job and things will be fine.

Best of luck

Answer 9

Believe me, you don't need to explain yourself to anyone.
There are many reasons why a person would not have had a boyfriend or girlfriend yet at your age. The problem is the too many dumb-headed people who don't understand why that could be.
Many people are shallow and just don't get it. You don't have to tell people your personal history with anyone especially those who have no clue.

Answer 10

i mean people may not believe you but at least you know your telling the truth...u should go out and look for a date...cause you know you don't want to keep living like this for the rest of life...u could be a pretty woman and yet to hear you like this makes no since...go out and look for a man...