why does my ex want me to be so involved in his wedding!?! we have been broken up 2 months...and hes been with this other chick for a month n a half...and they're getting married in january...and like he keeps talking about his wedding and **** like nothings wrong...i KNOW he still has feelings for me...and its like he keeps hanging on to me, not wanting me to move on....but yet he thinks he can...and i know this chicks just the rebound....and thas why hes movin so fast....and i hate it...and i told him i dont want to be involved and hes like u have to be because u got my daughter....so i told him that i dont have to be involved with the wedding....the only involvement i have in his life is with our daughter..so why is he doing this??
2007-06-23 15:00:46 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
first of all.. that does not seem right that he is getting married after 2 months of dating..he is not over you if he wants you to be involved in the wedding.. i think that you need to keep your distance and not even go to the wedding... i dont think that he really wants to get married... you need to move on.. dont let him keep you on a the side either because that it not going to work out either... he needs to make a decision....you need to tell him that... and the only time that you should be talking about is your little girl...
2007-06-23 15:09:57 · answer #1 · answered by Broken Blue Eyes 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You wait until the very end to drop a bombshell. Apparentlt the two of you have a kid together?? You kleft an awful lot out of your question. With having a kid the two have had to spend a lot of time together. Yet you have only been broken up for two months and he is engaged already and you think he has been involved with her for only a month and a half. No wonder so many people end up in divorce. From what you have said neither one of you has the maturity to even be dating, much less getting married. I think the two of you would make good entertainment on the Dr. Phill show.pp
2007-06-23 22:10:01 · answer #2 · answered by ttpawpaw 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You do not say how old your daughter is, but I wonder if your daughter should be involved with her father's wedding.
It may be that he wants to make you jealous or something. I do not blame you for not wanting to be a part of his wedding; especially if he is trying to get you upset. It also sounds like you do not support his decision to marry this woman.
If you could let him know that you feel very strongly about 'not' being a part of his wedding, and your reasons for doing so, perhaps this will work. He may be stubborn, I do not know; but perhaps you can tell him in a letter.
2007-06-23 22:12:02 · answer #3 · answered by Pauley _ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he's probably trying to see if it hurts you to see him marrying someone else. If it does, to him it means you still care about him. That's probably all he wants to know. So if you do still love him, tell him you dont want to be a part of the wedding because you haven't gotten over him yet.
2007-06-23 22:05:25 · answer #4 · answered by morgan 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Controling u -- dragging u around for the emotional roller coaster ride & NO you don't have to have ANYTHING to do with him or the wedding other than anything relatinting to your child & tell him that straight to his face & NOTING will change your mind ever - if u give any lee way then he will find it & reek emotional havock.
State the facts ... & leave it at that
good luck
2007-06-23 22:06:14 · answer #5 · answered by T. M 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe he is trying to make you jealous or possibly he is involving you so that you will come forth and say you want him back. I would just play it cool until you see the ULTIMATE sign then ask to either stop or tell you the real reason why. If you don't want to be involved tell him you won't be and it makes you uncomfortable.
2007-06-23 22:06:20 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
he wants you and her and by you responding to him he believes he can have it that way. let him know now that your getting ready to date around. tell him your happy for him and wish him well and if you need anything for your daughter youll let him know. end it with him. he wants to make you jealous and keep you around while hes moving on,dont be used.
2007-06-23 22:27:03 · answer #7 · answered by marilynfsmgm 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you can think what you want to. do whatever you like. i hope you told him how you feel about him and that the realationship can never happen between you two again.
he wants you in his life. be happy for him.
2007-06-23 22:05:33 · answer #8 · answered by stoney 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmmm...Sticky Situation. Maybe it's a distraction to get you back.
2007-06-23 22:04:27 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He just trying to see how far he can play you, one more time. I would suggest don't do it. Kick his.......
2007-06-23 23:19:04 · answer #10 · answered by princess 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋