as opposed to people my own age? Do you think older people are more accepting and less judgmental? I just got home from my friend's graduation party and I sat with the adults instead of my friend and all her college friends because that was who I struck a conversation with right away, so it just made the most sense. My friend wanted me to go out with her and a group of about six people afterwards, but not one of her friends has ever initiated a conversation with me. If they had, I probably would have had no problem talking to them for the rest of the night. I just don't know what to say to these people. It is even worse when I go to the beach with them because I feel ignored for the most part and out of place. Do you think when I am in my 40's (I am in my early 20's now) my age group will be easier to talk to?
2007-06-23 13:43:39 · 22 answers · asked by pingponggirl 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Sigh. I am not into older men. These are females for the most part. They are easier to talk to than young people.
2007-06-23 13:52:21 · update #1
Oh and the only reason I said "my dad's age" instead of my parents' age is because he's my only living parent. Most older men creep me out.
2007-06-23 13:56:25 · update #2
Personally, I think you're seeking a mother figure in these older women. You're missing the mother--daughter bond.
Don't feel bad. I think you can relate to people your age...I just really think you're trying to soak up motherly advice from these women.
My heart truly goes out to you.
2007-06-23 15:49:26 · answer #1 · answered by mocitycutie 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Hate to say this but when a man goes on a date they usually think am I going to get lucky. You could be telling them no which is a good thing because if you said yes they wouldn't have called you either. I bet you have written all over you face that you want a relationship badly. It shows and men know. You need to just have the fun like they are having and not expect a call back. Once you accept that I bet your phone rings for a second date. Yes dating should be fun but reread your question. You are wanting more face it. It is normal we all want someone to love us. If you were not wanting a relationship then it wouldn't bother you that they don't call. I find it hard to believe they are just kissing and holding hands with you and having a nice conversation without thinking they might have a chance getting there groove on. If they are going to go for the romantic approach then most likely they would want to see you again and call you. Either you are not telling the whole truth or these men you are with are from outer space.
2016-05-18 22:30:15 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel the same way. Adults are easier to talk to becuase they have already been through everything you are going through. I am now in graduate school and there a lot of students in my classes who are in their 30's and 40's and they just seem to be friendlier than most people my age and easier to talk to. They seem to be more accepting and actually want to hear what I have to say. I always feel like I am being judged by people my age based on what I wear, how I look and what I say.
2007-06-24 09:17:20 · answer #3 · answered by oceanic815 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm 40. I feel a lot more comfortable with myself. I don't feel like I always have to impress in social situations which actually makes me more acceptable. Don't rush into it though. I loved my 20's and had a lot of fun. Not everyone's the same. Don't be so judgmental. As far as us older guys being creepy, I ain't the one hanging around people 12 - 22 years my senior.
2007-06-23 15:54:29 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't think there's anything wrong with your feeling more comfortable around older people. Older people tend to be more mature and less concerned with the shallow things younger people focus on. Also there's a sense with people our own age that they are "judging" us or criticizing us in their minds, whereas it seems like older people (or younger people) are more able to appreciate us for who we are.
The danger I see in this is that if you restrict yourself to socializing with older people because it's more comfortable, you won't develop the self-confidence and skills you need to be able to relate easily with people your own age, which you will need to do. So I'd advise you to force yourself to hang out with some people your own age sometimes, even if they don't act as friendly or welcoming as the older folks.
As far as whether your age group will be easier to talk to when you're in your 40's, I'd say, on the one hand YES, because you'll have developed more skills by then. On the other hand, NO, because at that time they will STILL be the people in your same age group, and they will seem just as threatening as they do now. You'll find yourself more comfortable with people in their 60s!!!
2007-06-23 15:50:00 · answer #5 · answered by Anne M 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I'm 41 and far from old but have experienced a lot in life,I think you are just more mature than your friends and are inquisitive as to our input on situations that we are probably more likely to have experienced and can offer you some sincere advice on therefor making it easier for you to hold a conversation with us.When you get older I'm sure there will be some younger people that will want to get your input on things that they think you will be able to give them advice on also,and yes your friends will eventually mature to your level and be easier to talk with.
2007-06-23 15:54:06 · answer #6 · answered by Tazz 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Haha, you sound just like me! I always find it easier to talk to people who are older than me. They are far less judgmental. They have so much more experience in life and they could care less about some of the stupid things people are age do.
*So far I am the only who gets it again. ;)
2007-06-23 13:58:37 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had the same preference when I was your age and even younger. For me, I was looking for people who had experience and weren't in the "what's up" phase. I sought out people who had experience and wisdom. Now that I'm 47, I find that I'm comfortable with people my own age, and the college age kids I work with, and the retirement-age professors with whom I also work. Go with your gut on this one. You're craving the knowledge of your elders. It will serve you well. You'll hit your stride in a few years and be glad for what you've learned.
2007-07-01 12:40:20 · answer #8 · answered by rb29440 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have the same problem... It's just hard for me to connect with people that are close to my age... They don't care about their future and stuff all they care about is drugs and alcohol and stuff like that...
I think that when you are in your 40's it will be easier to talk to your age group because then you'll be married and have kids and you'll be meeting others that are too married and have kids... It will be like giving tips and ideas on saving money and what is the best retirement plan is and stuff like that...
2007-06-23 15:51:15 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you are more mature then most people your age so you like hanging out with more mature and older people (makes since to me)
Most older people are also more capable of having more meaningful conversations. So maybe that's why
2007-06-23 15:46:10 · answer #10 · answered by John 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yahoo had an article on this like 3 days ago. You look up to your dad and you feel that special bond with older people. I'll look for the article
2007-06-23 15:46:27 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋