Wife left 12 days ago. No explanation just packed up kids and went to her mothers. I really do love her and feel that the things that are broken in our marriage can be fixed. Problem is she wont communicate with me in any way. Wont answer my calls, wont text. What can I do?
2007-06-23 13:42:22 · 26 answers · asked by titansfanatic0804 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Well for one she has no right to keep you from your kids. Keep that in mind even if she never talks to you again or you never get back together.
She hit her breaking point. Whether you have a lot to do with it or she does, she tired. Write a letter, get her mother to talk to her.
Also talk to your children. They are very important and they will always need a good daddy regardless of you and your wife's relationship. Maybe when you speand sometime with them she will choose to talk after a while.
Keep in mind that when she shows her emotions, just listen to her and try to understand. Talk without argueing away from the kids. That will make a lot of things better for the both of you.
2007-06-23 13:54:23 · answer #1 · answered by LayLay 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like your wife has a lot of anger right now and you are probably the last person she wants to speak with at this moment.
Give her time to cool down. Write her a letter letting her know that when she is ready talk that you will be there for her.
Remember she needs time to think, so don't be so persistent you may irritate her more by constantly calling her.
In the meantime you may want to take this time to think what caused your marriage to break apart. Good Luck
2007-06-23 23:30:25 · answer #2 · answered by MYSTERY 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You guys are still married, right? So, eventually, she will have to contact you. Just leave a message to let her know that you've tried to reach out to her, and that you do want to work things out. If she does not feel the same way you do, then you need to set her free. It takes 2 people to make any relationship work, and it takes the same 2 people for the relationship to fail. If she has made up her mind, and chose to give up on your marriage, then there is really not much you can do. For now, just give her some space, and some time to think of what she really wants to do. Relationships are not meant to be complicated, people are what makes it complicated.
2007-06-23 20:59:38 · answer #3 · answered by always51787 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh boy! She is either nuts, and her leaving will be a blessing to you, or else, you are abusive. I'd join a support group of people who are separated, for that is what you are.
However, I'd seek legal advice, because you have a right to be with your kids. She cannot kidnap them, as she's done. No commutation is kidnapping. Get a lawyer's advice. She cannot do this legally, unless she can prove you are abusung them, and if you are abusing your kids, YOU need a lot of help from a therapist as well as an attorney.
She herself might be going to a lawyer already.
Good luck.
2007-06-23 20:52:56 · answer #4 · answered by Legandivori 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give it a few days of not trying to contact her AT ALL before trying to talk to her.
Maybe you could write a letter. Make it non blaming, just let her know you are worried about her and the kids and that you would like to talk and find out where you go from here.
Will her mother tell you what is going on?
Best Wishes
2007-06-23 20:53:32 · answer #5 · answered by pippa 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You didn't say what things were "broken" in your marriage. If you cheated, that's probably why she left. That's why women usually leave. Give her some space. She will talk to you when she's ready. Right now, I'd guess she's doing a lot of soul-searching.
You'd need to tell us what you did if we're going to be able to help you figure things out, but my instinct tells me you cheated...women rarely go home to Mom for any other reason.
2007-06-23 21:07:44 · answer #6 · answered by Kin B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with the others that you just have to give it time and if she wants to she will contact you. You've let her know that you'd like to talk.
However, do you know she's still at her mother's house? Where are your kids? Are they okay? These are valid questions for a father. If you can afford it, you need to get a lawyer because as a father, you have the right to see your children and look out for their well being.
2007-06-23 21:00:40 · answer #7 · answered by ∞ sky3000 ∞ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Although I think it is horrible for a wife to disappear with the children and not have any communication for days, I find it odd that there was "no explanation."
What "broken" things in your marriage drove her out?
Are the things broken enough for her to fear for her or your children's safety?
If not, then you married a highly irrational, selfish, and immature person.
Or, maybe that describes you both. I'm just sayin...
2007-06-23 21:00:00 · answer #8 · answered by Autumn C. 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i think there are 2 sides to a story---i can tell you that you probably know more about why she left than anyone here...if you know what caused her to leave and what parts of your marriage that need to be worked on, i would call her voice mail and tell her what changes that you are willing to make and how much you love her--i think men can change and if you have changes to make i suggest that whatever changes you or you and her both need to make--make them and keep them--you aren't going to get her back if you just plan a short lived change--I'm sure you know what needs to be worked on in your own relationship and what you can do to make things right--whatever communication you can have whether it be texting or talking to her voice mail--she is listening to them and reading them---i do know this....i went through this and didn't answer the phone and didnt communicate but i did listen to everything that my man said to me on my voice mail--so don't make any promises that you wont keep --and explain to her what changes you know need to be made and actually do it--don't just give her ear candy--whatever you tell her that you will change--make sure you do it and stick to it--remember she is listening to her messages and reading her texts---so keep it true and keep it real---no lies well i hope this helps you out a little bit and good luck!
2007-06-23 20:59:45 · answer #9 · answered by TWIN91 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My first thought is:
What did you do?(or not do?)
For a woman to just up and leave with the kids .... that is serious.......
Call her mother? Or go over there.
But first you may really want to sit down and think about what your part is leading up to this situation. And this should take a few days. And really think, not just how unfair it is, but look in the mirror, your heart, your conscience.
good luck
2007-06-23 20:50:55 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋