I am 20 years old, my husband is 25. We've been married for almost 2 years now, been together a total of 5 years. We are seriously considering expanding our family and trying to conceive. I will be receiving by Bachelor's degree in 1 year and he is already finished with college and we both have excellent careers and provide for us financially... and some extra we've been saving for a few years. His parents think we should start when we're ready (and we are) but my parents want me to wait a few more years. Opinions? Thanks in advance!
2007-06-23 13:17:18 · 14 answers · asked by Cantrelle 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Trying to Conceive
well, congrats on your near bachelors :) && on having a husband who you're responsible with/around, it's really nice to see that some people still care enough to consider things and want to make responsible choices. In my opinion you both sound commited, in love, and truly ready to have kids; you're both in charge of your lives (not either of your parents) and while it's nice to get their imput sometimes, it's ultimatly up to you. You seem ready and I'm sure it's something you'll be very happy whether you try now or wait. If I were you, I'd go for it.
good luck with everything =)
2007-06-23 16:44:51 · answer #1 · answered by jess 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The only people who are going to be affected by your decision is you and your husband. Yes your parents advice means a lot to you, but you are the one living your life. First I would ask myself, with only one year to go before finishing school, should we wait to talk about conceiving after I'm done? Second, Are we truly ready for all that comes with being parents?
Parenting is a 24hr., 7day a wk., 12mths. a yr. commitment. If you are going to bring another person into your lives, make sure you are truly ready. Money isn't everything. Emotions, time, sleep, oh did I say SLEEP, private time etc. These are the decisions you should be concerned with. Either way you decide, your parents love you and trust your choices. And if this does not happen to be the case, oh well, you have to live with your choices not them. Good Luck!!!
2007-06-23 13:34:19 · answer #2 · answered by Native American Girl 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You're Not Getting Any Yourger You Both Have Accomplished School And Have Been MArried For 2 Years I Say Go For It! Love Love And Expand It
2007-06-23 16:34:34 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
it sounds to me like you are near good point in your life to start a family, maybe when you get the degree. Its hard to try and juggle school and a baby, if you have complications while you are pregnant you may not get to finish the degree and then you may not have the time to get back after the baby comes. When you decide the time is right, see your dr first to make sure you are healthy and ready to have a baby,, and start prenatals before you concieve. Your parents may be having issues with becoming granparents this early, that could be why they wnat you to wait!
2007-06-23 13:24:38 · answer #4 · answered by parental unit 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Do what you feel u want and need to do. If you guys are ready, go for it! I'm 22 (hubby is 25 and have 3. I love my kids and family and wouldn't change it for the world! Nobody is gonna be rearing your kids and paying your bills but YOU. Therefore, it is no ones say (even parents) when you decide to have children
2007-06-23 13:32:00 · answer #5 · answered by Baby on the way!! (due 4-13-10) 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-09-28 09:01:19 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The fact that you are still so young it may hard for you to understand but as a older women in a similar situation, my advice would be..... your priority now is your husband and even though your parents are still a major influence in your life. You need to do what make you and your husband happy and keep that united front for everyone else. Advice and opinions from family is great but it is not their life it is yours. do what you want with it.
2007-06-23 14:23:20 · answer #7 · answered by Madisons' Mama 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
I think you should choose to do whatever you and your husband want to do. If you two are ready for a baby you shouldn't let anyone stand in your way. Good Luck :)
2007-06-23 13:28:16 · answer #8 · answered by Namename 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you're just about ready, give it a bit more time and you should be okay. Maybe you can start trying once you graduate college.
2007-06-23 14:16:49 · answer #9 · answered by berrel 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Listen to your body. If you and your husband are ready then go for it. People can give you advice but it is up to you and your husband.
Best Wishes and Baby Dust.
2007-06-23 15:10:02 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋