(be in love.. with your future wife)
2007-06-23 13:11:30 · 25 answers · asked by flipside 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
It would definately help!
2007-06-23 13:13:38 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, people get married everyday!
It depends on your reasons for getting married.
At 15, I knew I met the love of my life. We dated for years. Now 2 kids, a ring, mortgage, a dog and 3 fishes later, I know I married the right man. The fire is still there after 13years, it's amazing. I crave him more today, than when we first met.
I am blessed to be his wife, him, my husband, and both of us our children's parents. We try to create an environment of love, though it can be hard, our kids see us show affection and therefore are affectionate.
Love is important if you want a lasting married, with passion and excitement. If you want to be married, just to say you are married, then love is not an issue.
Have you wondered why so many people are divorced? Love was not a factor, mutually!
2007-06-23 20:53:30 · answer #2 · answered by Maeflower 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
oh god know. this whole "marry for love" concept is really is fairly recent. it started back in the late 1800's with the Victorian Era. Prior to this people married for economic security.
You don't have to be "in love" with her but you should love her. you should at least be concerned about her safety and security. "love" is what makes marriages last. "in love" is a temporary lapse with reason that occurs when you first meet. you think that person is going to be able to fulfill your every need and desire until the end of time. that's a fantasy and at minimum a hallmark card.
figure out what you're future wife's expectations are. you may not be enough for her. she's probably horribly afflicted with that "happily ever after" bug. if she is someone you consider a good friend and you enjoy the company of, that is enough to marry in my mind.
2007-06-23 20:20:30 · answer #3 · answered by t g 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Heck no!!! I thought I was "in love" with my 2 ex husbands. (Please note the 2 EX husbands). I took my vows VERY seriously, they did not. I do NOT believe there is a difference in "LOVE" and being "IN LOVE". Thats just a bunch of crap. I am sick of that "excuse". I love you but I'm not "in love" with you. Blah blah. Whatever. Sorry, don't mean to be so pessimistic, but IF I marry again, IF, I would require KNOWING WITH ALL MY HEART, WITHOUT A DOUBT, that I am loved and the feeling is MUTUAL. The divorce rate is 65% and over 70% if its a second marriage or more. FYI, it is just too easy to throw in the towel nowadays. My dads an attorney and I can shoot out the paperwork on a 50 year marriage in 30 minutes FLAT. That is just wrong. There really should be a marriage class "REQUIRED". IMO. Best of luck.
2007-06-23 20:49:28 · answer #4 · answered by christy7801 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
speaking as a married woman soon to be divorced it helps but doesn't always. you could love a person to death. to the point that it almost makes you blind to the disrespect that they try to pull over on you. i say you should respect first and then with respect comes love and after real love everything else should follow into place. you should also make sure that you two are also compatible with each other and not just in the bedroom because sometimes that becomes boring. trust me i know. there are only but so many positions, oils, lotions, blind-folds, handcuffs, and places that you could have sex or things to try. so if you have an appetite for life make sure that your partner has one as well or at least she's willing to compromise from time to time and you do the same. if she's watching football on sunday's then you can watch lifetime on saturday's.
2007-06-23 20:38:17 · answer #5 · answered by pinky42598 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Any person who agrees to get married who cannot say they Love their future wife or husband has no reason to Get Married.
Without Love, you will only be miserable and resentfull every time something happens that upsets you....Really marriage without love should be considered Null and Void....
2007-06-23 20:20:26 · answer #6 · answered by Mona Lisa 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are many types of marriage. One is that you love them for who they are, but don;t feel much romance. It's like a glorified friendship. Many stay this way happily. Some want that real thrill of the oprgas every day. depends on what you want. remember: A great climax does not make a great relationship. Sex is sex, and love is love. They are different.
2007-06-23 20:37:07 · answer #7 · answered by Legandivori 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No just get married so you can practice fighting before you find the one you really love then you won't be bored and asking these type of questions.
2007-06-23 20:24:21 · answer #8 · answered by ASmiles1 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes! that is how it is with my hubby and myself....We're in love, and love one another. Not to mention were soul mates....it helps! People today usually dont take marraige seriously, like how it used to be......thats very sad. so by all means, yes.......it helps and good for you! that makes a total of 4 more people getting married for the RIGHT reason(s) way to be!
2007-06-24 02:11:35 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
of course. that is one of the major reason why you tie the knot. but i cannot deny that there are others out there who get married for other reasons other than the fact that they are in love. some people do it for convenience, others for security, still others do it for gain. but the question is would you like the mariiage to last as long as possible and for you to be happy in it. marrying for love can help in ensuring that you get to have that.
2007-06-23 20:29:29 · answer #10 · answered by happy1129 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, you don't have to be in love to get married. But, I would definitely suggest it from my point of you. It's something that affects the rest of your life. Really think about it!!
2007-06-23 20:18:22 · answer #11 · answered by mscat_lady 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋